My husband longs to have sex in the morning soon after we wake up. No matter how much wonderful oral/finger sex he performs on me, my system seems to be blocked by some unknown. I can tell that my clit and g-spot felt all the hard work my husband is doing and are trying to respond but something just keeps my sensory system from reacting normally like it does at any other time of the day. Does any one else share the same problem. Any advice on how to break this spell?
Sexual sensory system blocked in the morning
04/20/2009
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Do you have hectic mornings? Are you worried about work and kids getting to school? I know I am much less responsive or sexual when I'm stressed, feeling pressure, or on a time constraint. Maybe it's mental block because your mind is elsewhere and you're focusing on what you need to be doing and not what your body is feeling.
Originally posted by
Rossie
My husband longs to have sex in the morning soon after we wake up. No matter how much wonderful oral/finger sex he performs on me, my system seems to be blocked by some unknown. I can tell that my clit and g-spot felt all the hard work my husband is
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My husband longs to have sex in the morning soon after we wake up. No matter how much wonderful oral/finger sex he performs on me, my system seems to be blocked by some unknown. I can tell that my clit and g-spot felt all the hard work my husband is doing and are trying to respond but something just keeps my sensory system from reacting normally like it does at any other time of the day. Does any one else share the same problem. Any advice on how to break this spell?
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04/20/2009
I hate mornings. My hormones are also at an all time low in the a.m. It takes really slow, leisurely, heavy on the foreplay sex to make me enjoy morning sex. My body just isn't happy and convincing it to BE happy is hard work and always a challenge.
For me, lots of neck kissing and body massaging and non genital foreplay is the key. Once my mind and the rest of my body have awakened properly, my genitals usually follow.
Hope that helps!
For me, lots of neck kissing and body massaging and non genital foreplay is the key. Once my mind and the rest of my body have awakened properly, my genitals usually follow.
Hope that helps!
04/20/2009
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It usually happens when I'm awake for less than an hour in the morning.
Originally posted by
Victoria
Do you have hectic mornings? Are you worried about work and kids getting to school? I know I am much less responsive or sexual when I'm stressed, feeling pressure, or on a time constraint. Maybe it's mental block because your mind is
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Do you have hectic mornings? Are you worried about work and kids getting to school? I know I am much less responsive or sexual when I'm stressed, feeling pressure, or on a time constraint. Maybe it's mental block because your mind is elsewhere and you're focusing on what you need to be doing and not what your body is feeling.
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04/20/2009
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Whoops, forgot to answer you about the hectic morning part. No, it did not happen on hectic mornings. My husband wants extra loving on weekends only. We usually wake up and stay in bed - not rushing to anything in particular.
Originally posted by
Victoria
Do you have hectic mornings? Are you worried about work and kids getting to school? I know I am much less responsive or sexual when I'm stressed, feeling pressure, or on a time constraint. Maybe it's mental block because your mind is
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Do you have hectic mornings? Are you worried about work and kids getting to school? I know I am much less responsive or sexual when I'm stressed, feeling pressure, or on a time constraint. Maybe it's mental block because your mind is elsewhere and you're focusing on what you need to be doing and not what your body is feeling.
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04/20/2009
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So it my hormones that's in the way?
Originally posted by
Carrie Ann
I hate mornings. My hormones are also at an all time low in the a.m. It takes really slow, leisurely, heavy on the foreplay sex to make me enjoy morning sex. My body just isn't happy and convincing it to BE happy is hard work and always a
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I hate mornings. My hormones are also at an all time low in the a.m. It takes really slow, leisurely, heavy on the foreplay sex to make me enjoy morning sex. My body just isn't happy and convincing it to BE happy is hard work and always a challenge.
For me, lots of neck kissing and body massaging and non genital foreplay is the key. Once my mind and the rest of my body have awakened properly, my genitals usually follow.
Hope that helps! less
For me, lots of neck kissing and body massaging and non genital foreplay is the key. Once my mind and the rest of my body have awakened properly, my genitals usually follow.
Hope that helps! less
Maybe I should get out of bed before my husband wakes up in the morning. Exercise and wake my whole self up - might that help? I've ordered a new toy "Scrudy" last week and am planning to play with myself before letting my husband join me. I hope the toy will help wake me up?
04/20/2009
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It's certainly possible! We're all made differently but it can't hurt to try either getting up and getting the body moving or arousing yourself with a toy first.
Originally posted by
Rossie
So it my hormones that's in the way?
Maybe I should get out of bed before my husband wakes up in the morning. Exercise and wake my whole self up - might that help? I've ordered a new toy "Scrudy" last week and am planning ... more
Maybe I should get out of bed before my husband wakes up in the morning. Exercise and wake my whole self up - might that help? I've ordered a new toy "Scrudy" last week and am planning ... more
So it my hormones that's in the way?
Maybe I should get out of bed before my husband wakes up in the morning. Exercise and wake my whole self up - might that help? I've ordered a new toy "Scrudy" last week and am planning to play with myself before letting my husband join me. I hope the toy will help wake me up? less
Maybe I should get out of bed before my husband wakes up in the morning. Exercise and wake my whole self up - might that help? I've ordered a new toy "Scrudy" last week and am planning to play with myself before letting my husband join me. I hope the toy will help wake me up? less
04/20/2009
Could your blood sugar just be down too low in the mornings? Maybe get up like you suggested above and have a little something to eat too. It couldn't hurt. =)
04/20/2009
I know that my body takes a little bit to wake up. It responds to "area affect" things like warmth from hugs or pressure from massages, but more pinpointed things, like tickling or pinching, take a while to get through to my brain. This is especially true if my brain itself is not awake at the time--I remember waking up a few years ago and my legs were covered in bruises because I had had a nightmare and kept kicking into the same file cabinet by the foot of the bed. The pain didn't register sharply enough, and it took me a while after I woke up to actually feel it.
My morning quick body wake up routine: Drink a cup of water, take vitamins (optional, but I'm a vitamins kind of girl), and maybe grab a piece of fruit. It just works for me. The water and sugars wake my body up and bring my brain up to date on what's going on. Adding exercise to the routine, like you mentioned, would further along the process.
My morning quick body wake up routine: Drink a cup of water, take vitamins (optional, but I'm a vitamins kind of girl), and maybe grab a piece of fruit. It just works for me. The water and sugars wake my body up and bring my brain up to date on what's going on. Adding exercise to the routine, like you mentioned, would further along the process.
04/20/2009
I'm just not a morning person - plus there's the "dragon breath" syndrome, and awake kids
04/20/2009
The only way mornings work for me is if my husband starts playing while I'm still asleep. He gently teases me and has me sooo excited before I even wake up. It's very cool!!! My body responds to that even better than it does at any other time.
Maybe if your husband tries that it might work for you.
Maybe if your husband tries that it might work for you.
04/20/2009
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Thank you all for the suggestions. I'll try them all out and see which one works. I'm already feeling better since I'm not the only one out there with a morning problem. Sometimes my hubby thinks I am not interested in sex with him anymore just because of this problem.
Originally posted by
removedacnt
The only way mornings work for me is if my husband starts playing while I'm still asleep. He gently teases me and has me sooo excited before I even wake up. It's very cool!!! My body responds to that even better than it does at any other
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The only way mornings work for me is if my husband starts playing while I'm still asleep. He gently teases me and has me sooo excited before I even wake up. It's very cool!!! My body responds to that even better than it does at any other time.
Maybe if your husband tries that it might work for you. less
Maybe if your husband tries that it might work for you. less
04/20/2009
I wake up slowly and I am then running late on workdays,...so I am not usually interested. Other times, I will get up first, drink something, brush my teeth and go back to bed........ready to play, my toys are always nearby as well.
04/21/2009
You might just try pleasuring him in the morning since many men wake up with an erection first thing in the morning (BJ or hand job) to show him you are still interested. Or just try the other great suggestions above.
04/21/2009
I find it difficult to be aroused when I'm half asleep, I reckon its only natural. But night sex is better anyway I reckon because there's more time to build up something in the mind and I like the whole 'clothes coming off' thing. Maybe you could try getting dressed and then undressed again... ?
12/04/2009
I read that women's sexual peak is naturally set at night time rather than the morning, so it is harder for them to become aroused in the morning.
My partner is the same, he loves the idea of morning sex but it is hard on me because my body just isn't awake enough to be ready for it. Especially on work mornings because my mind is too concerned with getting ready for work.
My partner is the same, he loves the idea of morning sex but it is hard on me because my body just isn't awake enough to be ready for it. Especially on work mornings because my mind is too concerned with getting ready for work.
12/21/2009
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I agree with the blood sugar comment! Honestly, try drinking some sweetened coffee or tea, or hell, even just eating a brownie. In the morning I always crave sweets because my blood sugar is low.
Originally posted by
Oggins
Could your blood sugar just be down too low in the mornings? Maybe get up like you suggested above and have a little something to eat too. It couldn't hurt. =)
12/21/2009
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