Talking about sex ???

That sounds like it felt pretty awkward. But, it's great that your sister feels she has someone she can come to with questions about sex, and flattering that she picked you! She must trust you and must think you've got knowledge she wants. My advice: share that knowledge! It's better that she get real info from someone who knows their stuff than get it from her peers, who are probably just dumb teenagers.

15 is not too young. I was having sex at 15 and so were many of my peers. That was back in the 80's so if kids are doing things younger these days, this talk is actually over due.

Hell, I just had a rather surreal conversation about sex and relationships with my 12 year old a few weeks ago. I still think it's too soon, but people keep telling me that these days, it's not.

I think the best time to do it is when, based on your own judgment, you think your kid can take the conversation seriously. Better too early than to late, yanno?

Oh I didn't mean too young for the talk, I think that should be started when they hit puberty, like you said better earlier then too late, I just meant that I have mixed opinions about wether I feel that they're too young to actually be having it. I know it happens though at that age and much younger. Sorry I should have clarified what I meant, because I definitely think that a sex talk is in order by age 15 and really any time a child is curious and has questions they should be answered, much better for a responsible adult to educate them rather then their friends.

Oh definitely 12 is too young for sex. And the impression I got from my daughter is that she has no interest in sex but given she had her first boyfriend... and he was 14, I felt it was a good time to ramp up the dialog that I started when she began menstruation.

Victoria is absolutely right that the "sex talk" should never be a single, major event or a one time thing, but an ongoing discussion when ever the opportunity to bring up an issue comes along.

You are so right that it needs to be an ongoing dialogue! I know that I got pretty basic information when I was about 6, more pertinent information when I hit puberty - and now, in my 20s, I can talk to my mother about sex toys. lol It's a progression of details!

My sisters live with me.....there about her age

They know they can ask or tell me anything. Ide rather them be open. Ive never told them "dont do it" but they know the facts an to be carefull. Ive tought them to respect themselves and there boddies to and because of that they arent sexually active anymore. When I first got custody of them they were welll somewhat slutty and didnt care but now there better and we can joke about that past. Sometimes it helps to be open with them. I know what they have done, they know what ive done. They know I have toys, ive bought them toys of there own. So what I think its better them at home alone privatly doing stuff then having sex. anyway ime trying to say be open, supportive but make sure they trust comeing to you. Shes asking for help and reaching out she wants to know if she doesnt find out from you shes probably gonna go find out from some friends who dont know what there talking about. It doesnt have to be a direct sit at the table look at me conversation. It can simply be just drivin in the car or a quik coment here and there.

Yes, exactly! It's very important to emphasize the value of communication and open-mindedness!