vaginal tearing?

vaginal tearing?

gloomybear gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is not large at all and im very sensitive to lube so my question is does anyone have this problem too? did u fix it? and if u did how?
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Yes this is a common problem with me
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it was a problem but i have found a solution
3
no i do not have this problem
34
Total votes: 44 (44 voters)
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03/21/2012
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Nazaress Nazaress
If you are sensitive to lubricant, you are probably sensitive to glycerin or parabens. I suggest using Sliquid Organics Natural. Here is the review I wrote on it if you want to check it out. It doesn't have glycerin or parabens and it's ingredients are natural so it's unlikely that you'll have a reaction to any of them, though you can see for yourself if you might as I have listed each of them with a definition as to what they are. The Sliquid line in general is pretty good about being free of bad stuff (look at the ingredients first, though) so you probably can't go wrong with them.
03/21/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is ...
I don't have the problem. I'm thinking the BEST thing to do would be to see your doctor or gynecologist or one at a free clinic if you don't have one. They could give the best advice/tips.

Have you tried any of the organic lube? If not type 'organic' into the Eden search bar and check out some, maybe they could work? Or one for sensitive skin? One of those two options could work if you have an allergy or get irritated by the lube you currently have.

You also maybe could try a dilator set. This is the only one EF has but I've seen different ones on other sites, just google it.
03/21/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
I chose I don't have that problem because practically such a thing has never been a problem for me, but indeed, it has happened quite a few times that I found myself bleeding a little bit after being with someone or using toys so vigorously...

It has never disturbed me, so I never worried about such a thing... ^^ ~lays ears blushy
03/21/2012
calliope calliope
I don't have this problem but a friend was telling me today about how she tears like this. He is also so big she says her Mirena iud birth control scratches his head! so yeah she is about to go to the doc if he suggests anything about the tearing I will pass it along to you.
03/21/2012
mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by Nazaress
If you are sensitive to lubricant, you are probably sensitive to glycerin or parabens. I suggest using Sliquid Organics Natural. Here is the review I wrote on it if you want to check it out. It doesn't have glycerin or parabens and it's ...
I was just going to suggest this lube! I believe that I am sensitive to lubricants as well, and I have tried all of the Sliquid Organics lubes without any problems, I have a review up for each of them. I definitely recommend checking those out.
03/22/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is ...
Yes! I'm so glad to have came across this! It happens to me so often that just tonight after sex, I was showing my partner where it always tears. I told him it seems like something's wrong with me because I've never heard of other's having it happen ALL the time. It thankfully only got very badly irritated after sex tonight, but last week it tore and hurt for 3 days! It's the outer skin around the hole that tears on me. I went into great detail to "demonstrate" it to him tonight. I wish I knew what to do about it, but I do not. I thought I was just really abnormal. Lubricant doesn't help much for me. We've tried everything. Going slow, being super careful and occasionally we'll happen to be just careful enough like tonight, that it doesn't tear the skin. It's such a bother though because I don't want to have to spend 20 minutes getting past that just to enjoy it and then be in pain after. Mine seems to come with this really bad pain in my cooter afterward. It happened again tonight. I've posted about it in the forums and haven't learned of anyone else with it yet. The pain isn't from the tear itself. It's just a really bad throbbing pain in my labia majora after sex. It lasts for a few hours and is MUCH worse when I'm standing. Now, I'm laying down, sort of propped up so it doesn't bother me. I have no idea if this pain is related to the terrible problems with the tearing and irritation of that outer skin or what. Does this also happen to you?

I wish I had some advice, but there's nothing that has relieved it for me. It's really bothersome, but I just take it easy afterwards and usually stay away from anything sex for a few days so it heals. For the past 5 years this has happened and it always, always always heals. I've never had serious complications from it, even when it tears very badly. I've never actually had the tearing cause me to bleed for hours though. It always stops very soon. If the bleeding continues for so long then that could be something to do with thin blood? If you're taking certain meds or have certain health issues you'll bleed more than you normally would.

So far, the only thing we know that helps avoid tearing badly is being so super careful while having sex. However, having sloooow sex is not my thing so we end up going faster and that's not the problem, it's outside, not inside that tears. Even if it doesn't tear, there's ALWAYS so much discomfort (sometimes actual pain) afterward. No idea what will help, but I wish you luck! Feel free to let me know if you do find anything that helps with it.
03/22/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is ...
it happens to me usually if he's on top but is angling kind of parallel to the floor and i'm on my back. like... he's kinda on his knees, i'm lying on my back, and his cock is stretching my taint. it's usually really a tear on my perineum. aka taint.

i would avoid that position for sure, and use waterbased lube such as sliquid. it is natural and works really well. you can find many varieties of it on here. i recommend the gel version, as it's thicker.

definitely, DEFINITELY use lube if you're sensitive to tears. there are many kinds of lube, so if you search around you're bound to find something that works for you.
03/22/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I have had pain during sex, and I think I've bled a TINY bit a few times. I would see a gynecologist about it if I were you.
03/22/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
it happens to me usually if he's on top but is angling kind of parallel to the floor and i'm on my back. like... he's kinda on his knees, i'm lying on my back, and his cock is stretching my taint. it's usually really a tear on my ...
definatley there are positions that make it worse and the tears i get are in the same place doggy style is the worst which i try to avoid because the height difference makes it painful
03/22/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
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Originally posted by K101
Yes! I'm so glad to have came across this! It happens to me so often that just tonight after sex, I was showing my partner where it always tears. I told him it seems like something's wrong with me because I've never heard of other's ...
i think i know wat ur talking about with the pain is it like a burning feeling? cause i will get kinda like a friction burn on my labia after sex and i know wat u mean slow sex is not my thing i am very into rough sex and sometimes if its bad my bf and i will skip sex for a while but because i only see him every now and then we have a ton of build up and wanna have alot of sex
03/22/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
I don't have this problem. Sounds awful.
03/22/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
Doctor, definitely my friend. I hope you get this sorted out!
03/22/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
nope..hasn't happened to me.
03/22/2012
Entropy Entropy
I don't have a vagina. However, I can tell you that vaginal tearing happens for a lot of different reasons. Some medications (cortisones and others) can cause tissues to thin and become more prone to tearing. Once a woman reaches menopause, the vaginal wall begins to thin and atrophy on it's own. Finally, sometimes if sex is a little too rough even young women who aren't on any type of medication can suffer a vaginal tear. I would recommend plenty of lubrication and patience. If the problem persists, seek the advice of your primary healthcare professional.

-E
03/22/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
I have not had this problem but it sounds painful! Definately ask your doctor about the issue.
03/22/2012
Tangles Tangles
Yes, definitely ask your doctor and get checked for any possible infections. Tearing could increase the risk of getting those.

I had that problem in the past, but it just went away and I stopped tearing. We didn't do anything different. I guess I just healed myself and adapted. best of luck toy you!
03/22/2012
Subska Subska
I have this problem
03/22/2012
irishlove irishlove
Quote:
Originally posted by gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is ...
I get this every time we have sex. My doctor told me to just make sure I'm wet enough or use more lube.
03/24/2012
Badass Badass
i used to have this issue, now i require lotsd of foreplay to get good and wet or lube before hand or i still would get a tear.

I feel for you sister, they are not fun and hurt like crazy AND mess up your sex life for about a week. Look into organic water based lubes, they are the least invasive for me..
03/28/2012
ExesandOhs ExesandOhs
I'm sorry you have to deal with this
03/29/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is ...
My girlfriend doesn't have this problem. I think it's hormonal. Does it happen often? or does it happen only at certain time of the month?
03/29/2012
Positwist Positwist
I had this same problem. Two things worked for me:

1. Lube. I second the recommendation for Sliquid Organics. It's hypoallergenic, so it shouldn't sting or give you infections. You might not feel like you're not wet enough, but if you're tearing? You're probably not wet enough.

2. More foreplay. Get a couple fingers in there to loosen yourself up before you penetrate with anything larger, and make sure you really are turned on (not just humoring your partner). Some women just need to warm up more than others.

If the above don't work, talk to your doc.
03/29/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's happened to me once, but it was in the same spot that I tore during childbirth, so I wasn't surprised. Are you properly "ready"? Are you making enough of your own lube?
04/02/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
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Originally posted by gloomybear
ok so my bf and i are worried because i frequently get vaginal tears from sex...the last time we had a long sex session was valentines day and i had such a large tear that there was blood on the sheets (and it ruined the rest of our week)...my bf is ...
i have heard that vaginal tearing is usually caused by going too fast and with too little foreplay, so you could just take your time and go slow and do plenty of clit stimulation if you like that. seeing a doctor if it's a serious problem is always a good idea too
04/03/2012
hillys hillys
Use plenty of lube and if you get tearing wait a bit and let yourself heal and talk to a doctor
04/04/2012
Scarlette Scarlette
The only time Ive every experienced tearing is when the sex/play/toy use gets a little too vigorous. never nothing too serious like bleeding on the sheets, just noticing a hint of color on my partner's fingers, or on the toy.


Honestly, I think lubrication is the key- find something that works for you, and make sure you're not allergic to the lube you're using. Water based lubes fail for me, and I have noticed some minor tearing during the time we play around with a water base.
04/04/2012
cottonxcandy cottonxcandy
I've never really had that problem, I'm sorry!
04/04/2012
dks210 dks210
I don't have this problem, but I've heard that it could be the side effect of the brand of the Pill you're using. You should talk to your doctor about it.
04/05/2012
SexyRayne SexyRayne
I would consider talking to a gynecologist about it
04/05/2012
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