The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want a baby but childbirth makes me nauseous. After watching that obligatory "Miracle of Life" video in the 8th grade, I had a panic attack and barfed on the floor. I need to quit talking about it because I'm starting to gag...

My point is, that yes, I do want a baby in the future. What I'm wondering is if it's possible to have a C section even if you don't need one? Like, instead of pushing my kid out and exploding my vagina, can't the doctor cut the baby out instead? I want a baby but childbirth freaks me out. It isn't just a little thing that creeps into my mind and makes me shiver, ok, I've been to therapy sessions devoted to my phobia of it and have thrown up in each session.It makes me physically ill, and no this isn't about vanity. It disgusts me. I asked my gyno if I could have a voluntary C section and he laughed. Thought it was a joke.

It's not a joke less

The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want a baby but childbirth makes me nauseous. After watching that obligatory "Miracle of Life" video in the 8th grade, I had a panic attack and barfed on the floor. I need to quit talking about it because I'm starting to gag...

My point is, that yes, I do want a baby in the future. What I'm wondering is if it's possible to have a C section even if you don't need one? Like, instead of pushing my kid out and exploding my vagina, can't the doctor cut the baby out instead? I want a baby but childbirth freaks me out. It isn't just a little thing that creeps into my mind and makes me shiver, ok, I've been to therapy sessions devoted to my phobia of it and have thrown up in each session.It makes me physically ill, and no this isn't about vanity. It disgusts me. I asked my gyno if I could have a voluntary C section and he laughed. Thought it was a joke.

It's not a joke less

There are doctors who will do Elective C Sections, but a C Section is major abdominal surgery, and the recovery can be brutal, because you have a tiny baby to care for while you are recovering from major, painful surgery. Also, the risk of death of both mother and baby are much higher with a C Birth, even if it's an Elective C Section.

I can understand the fear. I've had LONG labors (like 2.5 days for my first one) and ended up with C Sections. I refused a C for hours with my first baby then gave in. I labored again with my second and the same thing happened (I have a constricted or Android Pelvis) and the C Section SUCKED! I then had to schedule Cs with my other kids. I would so have wanted to just have the baby and go home "in one piece" instead of as a new mom AND a post surgical patient. I would have done ANYTHING (except risking either of our lives) to have a vaginal birth. Not all births require episiotomies, in fact, with a good doc or a good midwife MOST births don't require an episiotomy.

But, if your fear is overwhelming, it is going to prevent you from having kids and you really want kids, or cause such stress that it would be dangerous to you and your baby and it can be documented, talk to you OBGYN later (one you trust) and see what he or she says when they read the Therapy reports.

Your situation is really different than the Stars who are "too posh to push" you have a true phobia, and I know exceptions are made sometimes for things like that.

I know you're stressed right now, and worried, Honey, take it one thing at a time. Don't fight yourself with this now, OK?

Hugs,

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There are doctors who will do Elective C Sections, but a C Section is major abdominal surgery, and the recovery can be brutal, because you have a tiny baby to care for while you are recovering from major, painful surgery. Also, the risk of death of both mother and baby are much higher with a C Birth, even if it's an Elective C Section.

I can understand the fear. I've had LONG labors (like 2.5 days for my first one) and ended up with C Sections. I refused a C for hours with my first baby then gave in. I labored again with my second and the same thing happened (I have a constricted or Android Pelvis) and the C Section SUCKED! I then had to schedule Cs with my other kids. I would so have wanted to just have the baby and go home "in one piece" instead of as a new mom AND a post surgical patient. I would have done ANYTHING (except risking either of our lives) to have a vaginal birth. Not all births require episiotomies, in fact, with a good doc or a good midwife MOST births don't require an episiotomy.

But, if your fear is overwhelming, it is going to prevent you from having kids and you really want kids, or cause such stress that it would be dangerous to you and your baby and it can be documented, talk to you OBGYN later (one you trust) and see what he or she says when they read the Therapy reports.

Your situation is really different than the Stars who are "too posh to push" you have a true phobia, and I know exceptions are made sometimes for things like that.

I know you're stressed right now, and worried, Honey, take it one thing at a time. Don't fight yourself with this now, OK?

Hugs,

P'Gell less

The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want a baby but childbirth makes me nauseous. After watching that obligatory "Miracle of Life" video in the 8th grade, I had a panic attack and barfed on the floor. I need to quit talking about it because I'm starting to gag...

My point is, that yes, I do want a baby in the future. What I'm wondering is if it's possible to have a C section even if you don't need one? Like, instead of pushing my kid out and exploding my vagina, can't the doctor cut the baby out instead? I want a baby but childbirth freaks me out. It isn't just a little thing that creeps into my mind and makes me shiver, ok, I've been to therapy sessions devoted to my phobia of it and have thrown up in each session.It makes me physically ill, and no this isn't about vanity. It disgusts me. I asked my gyno if I could have a voluntary C section and he laughed. Thought it was a joke.

It's not a joke less

I think C-sections are just down right dangerous to both the baby and mother. Plus I've read there can be problems for the baby afterward. I would seriously do my homework before making that decision.

I've had 4 children naturally. And I have a very low pain tolerance! But I and my vagina survived. I did have my last one at home with a midwife and a doctor who does home deliveries and it was the best experience of all 4 deliveries. less

The mere thought of having an episiotomy freaks me out. I have several friends who are mothers and say you don't feel it, it's over in a second, blah diddy blah blah blah. I don't care! NO ONE is cutting open my vagina! NO!

I want a baby but childbirth makes me nauseous. After watching that obligatory "Miracle of Life" video in the 8th grade, I had a panic attack and barfed on the floor. I need to quit talking about it because I'm starting to gag...

My point is, that yes, I do want a baby in the future. What I'm wondering is if it's possible to have a C section even if you don't need one? Like, instead of pushing my kid out and exploding my vagina, can't the doctor cut the baby out instead? I want a baby but childbirth freaks me out. It isn't just a little thing that creeps into my mind and makes me shiver, ok, I've been to therapy sessions devoted to my phobia of it and have thrown up in each session.It makes me physically ill, and no this isn't about vanity. It disgusts me. I asked my gyno if I could have a voluntary C section and he laughed. Thought it was a joke.

It's not a joke less