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Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
I know I've already started about 10 million discussions on a similar topic, but I just wanted to share this. I'm recovering from an eating disorder, and my BMI is around 22.0 right now (some say the "ideal" body mass index is 20.0, some say 22.0). For months, I had what society and the fashion industry might call a hotter body, but I was far too weak to have sex. This week, my girlfriend and I started having sex a lot more frequently, and it's much better! Yes, I'm still self-conscious about my body, but it's just physically more enjoyable. I've heard a lot about how being obese or overweight can cause medical difficulties during sex, but never anything about how having a slight build could affect enjoyment. Let me tell you, being thin is not worth it if your sex life is ruined. I may not like how my body looks in some dresses now, but that's okay because I can take that shit off and have an awesome time in the bedroom.

I'd just like to encourage everyone to maintain a healthy weight, and if you are above your healthy weight range, to not crash diet. Depriving your body of energy like that will make sex terrible. Lots and lots of people love curvy women, but not very many people like weak, sickly women.

That's all, I just wanted to share this with someone. Thanks for reading!
03/21/2011
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Contributor: The Unnamed The Unnamed
I take a bath, and get super sexy.
03/23/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
What a great post Eden C. I have struggled with an eating disorder too and I've noticed that I am much happier and definitely much healthier at a higher weight. I know that the thinner I get, the less sexy I feel even though I think I look better.

I often feel like I'm too heavy, but I am actually able to enjoy a sex life now. When I was thinner I wouldn't let anyone get close to me or see me naked so there was no sex life.

Life is so much better when you are able to experience more of what it has to offer and not just focusing of food and weight all the time.
03/23/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
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Originally posted by Taylor
What a great post Eden C. I have struggled with an eating disorder too and I've noticed that I am much happier and definitely much healthier at a higher weight. I know that the thinner I get, the less sexy I feel even though I think I look ... more
Thanks! I'm glad someone understands! Go us!
03/23/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Good for you! Glad you're back on track!
03/23/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I'm glad your noticing some positives of a healthy body!
03/23/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
For me, it's not about weight, but whether I feel healthy. If I feel healthy, then my sex drive increases. I am happy that you feel better in your body now!
03/23/2011
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
wow, thank you for opening up to us on this. I am struggling with eating issues. and yes it can be painful to find a position to sit or lay in, much less have sex in. and then when your partner is thin too, bone on bone hurts! and yes i hear ya on the lack of energy.
your post has been very encouraging to me. and I am trying to do better.

you two keep having fun!
03/23/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
Thanks for the support, everyone!
03/30/2011
Contributor: SapphirexIce SapphirexIce
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Originally posted by Eden C.
I know I've already started about 10 million discussions on a similar topic, but I just wanted to share this. I'm recovering from an eating disorder, and my BMI is around 22.0 right now (some say the "ideal" body mass index is ... more
Hun your perfect fat skinny avereage or whatever, and i'm so glad you recovered let me tell ya i was 140lbs before i got pregnant now im 185lbs and you thought you were fat haha I hate how i look and it kinda affects how i feel when i have sex but Im not gonna go from gaining 35lbs of baby too zero in 10 months lol
03/30/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
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Originally posted by SapphirexIce
Hun your perfect fat skinny avereage or whatever, and i'm so glad you recovered let me tell ya i was 140lbs before i got pregnant now im 185lbs and you thought you were fat haha I hate how i look and it kinda affects how i feel when i have sex ... more
Awww, you're so sweet! Thanks!
03/31/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by SapphirexIce
Hun your perfect fat skinny avereage or whatever, and i'm so glad you recovered let me tell ya i was 140lbs before i got pregnant now im 185lbs and you thought you were fat haha I hate how i look and it kinda affects how i feel when i have sex ... more
While I understand how you feel about your body, I can honestly say that it's all mentality. If you start embracing your body as it is, you'll start to feel sexy again. Taking pride in your body also helps you get back to your goal weight. If you don't love your body, you won't treat it right. I will say, your current weight is a goal for me to achieve.

As a large woman, I can say that while being larger can put some limitations on positions, I have a very full and satisfying sex life. And honestly, a much more satisfying sex life than a lot of my "pretty, skinny" friends have because I care less about how I look and more about the fun I'm having. Do I think about how I look? Of course! But not to the point where it limits me from enjoying a few intense orgasms.
03/31/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
While I understand how you feel about your body, I can honestly say that it's all mentality. If you start embracing your body as it is, you'll start to feel sexy again. Taking pride in your body also helps you get back to your goal weight. ... more
It definitely is about mentality as well as physical health. When I was sick, I couldn't have sex because it would raise my blood pressure and I'd feel dizzy and pass out. If sex makes you pass out, then it doesn't really matter how sexy you think you look.

Also, be sure to have sex with someone who loves your body!
03/31/2011
Contributor: ohmai ohmai
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Originally posted by Eden C.
It definitely is about mentality as well as physical health. When I was sick, I couldn't have sex because it would raise my blood pressure and I'd feel dizzy and pass out. If sex makes you pass out, then it doesn't really matter how ... more
Eden C.
"....be sure to have sex with someone who loves your body!"
AMEN SISTER!!!
11/25/2011