What do you do?

I used to be pretty self conscious about wearing lingerie, but my husband really likes it. There's some things he likes better than others, like open breasted tops, which I felt pretty weird about wearing at first. But after seeing his reaction to the ones I wear, I have a lot more confidence about it. After a while, I found that I feel sexy in almost any lingerie.

I've found the more time I spend naked in front of a mirror, the more I like what I see. I try not to pick at things I don't like, but instead smile and look at what I do like. Maybe try this while brushing your teeth or something, if you want something to do while you ogle yourself. I've learned a little about how to look good when moving around or semi-dancing, like I would for my partner. If you'd rather check yourself out while wearing lingerie, more power to you! Just have fun alone and then you'll shine in front of your partner. Hope this helps.

Just being naked in general helps. Fold the laundry naked, or whatever you're doing around the house, to give yourself time to get to know your body better.

Also, when you do wear lingerie for your husband, cover the mirrors, or don't look at them. Make his expression your mirror instead - if he's happy, you look good. End of story.

You could also wear lingerie while masturbating, so that you associate feeling good with wearing lingerie - I know that sounds so obvious, but it's worth a try. Positive association does work.

Have you warmed up yourself before seeing your partner? Maybe have a little 'pre-game session' by yourself to get turned on and lose the self-consciousness that going into cold makes you feel. Anyone can have stage-fright of sorts when suddenly shifting into a new role - so warm up a bit first, get your mind and body ready.

And don't be so hard on yourself!