Would you date someone who had an STD?

Would you date someone who had an STD?

ToyGurl ToyGurl
Would you? Vote and explain below.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Owl Identified , Ms. Spice , JessCee , Tart , Love Perpetua , FaerieLove , aliceinthehole , PassionQT , shySEXXaddict , Adriana Ravenlust , xGOLDx , Positwist , Femme Mystique
13  (15%)
No
Beck , bratofthekitties , TheHardOne , SilverIsis , wrecklesswords , Yaoi Pervette (deleted) , stars , pinkcupcakes , JRabbits , Miss Zombie , Mew , Jon S , darthkitt3n , DeliciousDrip , Talena , zwee75 , froggiemoma , Girly Girl , married with children , TheSlyFox , Piña Colada , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Drakoni , RedGoddess , Shellz31 , jedent , Cherry21 , Zombirella , Apirka , Darklyvan , EndlessFrost , BlooJay , GonetoLovehoney , AJvil , slynch , Tess , LAndJ , geliebt , richsam , SaraW0512 , LavenderSkies , nanamondoute
42  (50%)
It depends on their personality.
Peggi , BlackxxxRose , pixxie87 , Tessa Taboo , lilys
5  (6%)
It depends on the STD.
I'll Miss You EF :( , 7Miles , jenn g , Mihoshi4301 , ily , Stagger13 , SugarLips , DeliciousSurprise , jc123 , (k)InkyIvy , Dirminxia , cburger , Harpina is gone , JackRaiden , HannahPanda , megan1987 , ellejay , kitty377 , Azule , BadassFatass , Sangsara
21  (25%)
I have no idea.
PropertyOfPotter , ViVix , bh253
3  (4%)
Total votes: 84
Poll is closed
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Beck Beck
Might be best to have this poll private.

I would not because I do not have an STD. I would if I did have one.
10/20/2011
bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
would i want someone not to date me because I had an STD? fuck no, gonna give what you would like to recieve obviously i would be extra careful to try and risk exposure
10/20/2011
SilverIsis SilverIsis
I'm immunosuppressed from medications that I take to keep me alive so all diseases run a bit more wild in my system then most. What for you is an annoyance is something that could put me in an isolation unit at the hospital. I really can't take the risk.
10/20/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I have to be honest here, if it was an STD that couldn't be treated and could be passed on even with treatment, then no.

I just... couldn't... I feel shallow saying that.

But if we took precautions to not expose me then... maybe.
10/20/2011
I'll Miss You EF :( I'll Miss You EF :(
If it was an STD that could be treated, then yes. But one that couldn't be treated...probably not in a sexual relationship..

I also agree that voting would be better private.
10/20/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I have to be honest here, if it was an STD that couldn't be treated and could be passed on even with treatment, then no.

I just... couldn't... I feel shallow saying that.

But if we took precautions to not expose me then... maybe.
I feel the same way. If it were a treatable infection, I would want to make sure they had been treated and tested for further infection before getting involved sexually. If it were an untreatable disease, I wouldn't sleep with the person at all.
10/20/2011
Peggi Peggi
It depends on a lot of factors. Were they up front with me? Did they disclose everything about it? How much do I like them? What do they have? How and when did they get it (did they cheat and get it after we were already dating or was this prior to our being together)?

I would've chosen other. As is, I chose that it depends on personality, because that factor is quite important as to whether they told me about it, and how they got it!
10/21/2011
JRabbits JRabbits
Nope, I wouldn't.
10/21/2011
Miss Zombie Miss Zombie
Honestly, no.

I hate saying that, because I don't like judging people based on factors like this. Especially if the person was really cool and I was attracted to them, but I value my health. An STD is something I want no part of.

Selfishly, I don't care what the situation is. How they got it or even if they were honest with me about it. I would chose to go the other way.
10/21/2011
BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
Seeing as this says date and not have sex with, yes. If I got to know them and fell in love with them over the course of the dating and it was something that could be protected against then it may progress to sex. It ultimately depends on the person though.
10/21/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by BlackxxxRose
Seeing as this says date and not have sex with, yes. If I got to know them and fell in love with them over the course of the dating and it was something that could be protected against then it may progress to sex. It ultimately depends on the person ...
You posed a great point. Something that I think a lot of us missed the first time around.
10/21/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I'll be honest, I hate these kinds of questions because it really makes a sex positive environment seem really negative against those who carry an STD. I know you didn't mean that at all though, STL, since we've talked about this extensively in private.

Most, if not all, STDs can be either treated or cured, and most of them won't affect your health that much if you take proper care of it, so I don't get the "i gotta preserve my health" argument. Even AIDS won't outright kill you, just make life a bit more difficult.

I feel like everyone needs to actually be knowledgeable about STDs and know what they actually do. I think a lot of reactions are caused by irration fear from social stigma, rather than knowing what you're dealing with. but anyway,

yeah, I would date someone regardless of the fact they had an STD or not. As long as they're doing their part to take care of it, then I don't see an issue. Love conquers all, right?
10/21/2011
DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
I've dated someone with an STI, but only because it's curable. STDs are NOT curable but some are treatable. So to answer the question no, I wouldn't date someone with an STD!
10/21/2011
JessCee JessCee
I would definitely consider it. I have to admit, I'd be a little on edge about HIV/AIDS though.

I know what it's like to be judged, I also know that I've lost chances with men that I thought would be really compatible with me because of a treatable STD.

So, if I were to give this person a chance, we may just fall in love and be great together, and then I wouldn't even care this person had an STD... but if I immediately disregard them because they have an STD, I may miss out on something really great with that person.
10/21/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
Probably not.
10/21/2011
Tart Tart
I definitely would. They would have to know the risks and precautions of having sex to minimize being infected.
10/21/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
no , but i respect people with std´s , i have only love to give them ,, they are very brave a i wish there were a cure for hiv because it´s the most dangerous one ,, may be if my partner have some kind of std´s i will support him because he is with me ,, i just need to give him love ,,, but my love for people with these deseases
10/21/2011
married with children married with children
I would not, no.
10/22/2011
TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
I wouldn't have a sexual relationship with a person who had one, but maybe date.
10/22/2011
Piña Colada Piña Colada
No I would be way too afraid.
10/22/2011
7Miles 7Miles
Date? Sure. Have sex with? Well I'd want to know a lot more about what they have before I would feel comfortable going there. As someone already mentioned a lot of the fear around being with someone who has an STD is caused by ignorance.
10/22/2011
jenn g jenn g
interesting poll
10/25/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
If we really cared about each other, and they were honest about it, sure. I would just need to have more information and make sure we took the necessary precautions to avoid transmission.
11/10/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I pride myself on staying clean and never having any STD's (or even any other vaginal infection type things) so I couldn't bring myself to date or sleep with someone who has any form of STD.
11/10/2011
FaerieLove FaerieLove
Love knows no bounds. And plus, with the rise of STDs your more likely to end up with one now. If you;re gonna take the chance and have sex you're taking the chance of contracting something, at least you're taking the chance of getting it from someone you love.
11/10/2011
PassionQT PassionQT
You could already be dating someone with an STD and they don't even know that they have HPV or HERPES... Not everyone who has those shows symptoms, ever..so really, how would you know? Look up the statistics for herpes. The only way to know for sure is to get ALL the tests. I wouldn't rule someone out though just because of it. Sometimes the stigma associated with one is a lot worse than the STD itself.
11/10/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by FaerieLove
Love knows no bounds. And plus, with the rise of STDs your more likely to end up with one now. If you;re gonna take the chance and have sex you're taking the chance of contracting something, at least you're taking the chance of getting it ...
i agree completely!!besides if its an non curable std that cant be taken care of by a pill then you can always continue to use condoms.its amazing the amount of people that have or have had an std..it doesnt mean that they are dirty or disease infected because of it,and it doesnt change who they are as a person.
11/10/2011
SugarLips SugarLips
It totally depends on the STD. If its a reoccurring or chronic thing like herpes then no.
11/18/2011
pixxie87 pixxie87
totally depends on the person, if its someone i really like and enjoy being with then yes. but of course i would make sure they clear it before doing anything.
11/22/2011
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