What are some kinks you could never do without? - Created by Crichton on Nov 04, 2012: EdenFantasys Forum

Crichton

Say if for example you were with someone who shared every wonderful kink you had and even introduced you to some new ones. You are totally loving each others company and then the worst happens, you break up and you're out looking for new people.

Are there any kinks you wouldn't give up at all? What can you easily give up?

Every now and then I fear the worst and think that if I ever split up with my SO I'd be doomed when it comes to dating again. Since he's younger than me he loves to experiment and is willing to try anything once. While together we've explored each others kinks and even let old ones come to light due to the fact that we're so comfortable sharing our past fetishes.

I've told many friends, some I'm vague with but one knows what I mean, that I could never live without any of the things he lets me get away with.

We love watersports, he crossdresses and I find that incredibly sexy, he allows me to crossdress and he loves letting me peg him. He's bicurious and I'm pansexual so we're both game for threesomes of any sort. In my mind I don't think I'll ever find that mix again.

11/04/2012

luvslukin

You're right. That's a good mix for sure.

I haven't found a good partner lately (since college) that was into three or moresomes. Which is somewhat frustrating for me. I honestly don't know if I can just be with one person for the rest of my life, it just doesn't seem to be in my DNA. I sincerely love and adore my current partner, but I wonder sometimes if it will stand the long haul because of her not wanting to do any group play. Other than that, she's a perfect sexual match though so it may be that "one thing" that I have to give up in order to have all the rest.

11/04/2012

- Kira -

I seriously hope nothing ever happens with my husband because I'd be lost in the dating world. I have trust issues, so a lot of the things I couldn't live without are also things I wouldn't trust anyone else to do with me.

We are 24/7 M/s and now that I've had that I don't know how I'd function without. Also heavy into bondage and impact play. Not really anything "out there" by kinky standards, but given my trust issues I'm not just gonna let any old person control me, tie me up, or beat me. So yeah. If something ever happens to him I'm just gonna stay single I guess. lol

11/04/2012

charletnarouh

i'm with Kira, i love being D/s and couldn't really go with out that again, i don't think. Bondage and impact play are also favorites of mine. i'm not sure i could ever look at a future without ever being flogged or caned ever again. i also like to be made to cry through pain. i couldn't be with someone who couldn't hit me hard enough to make me cry or who couldn't stand to see me cry. It's too much a part of who i am and it's part of my coping mechanisms and stress management. i also love my BDSM community and love sharing that with my Partner. i wouldn't want to be with someone who wouldn't be part of that world with me.

11/05/2012

- Kira -

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Originally posted by charletnarouh

I forgot to mention, but it's also a coping mechanism for me as well. It's one of the only things that will alleviate my anxiety.

11/05/2012

Lacey-

I don't think I could give up Daddy-Dom/babygirl dynamic my relationship now has. We explored this dynamic together, and now I'm like how did I ever survive without it. And with like how Kira mentioned how her D/s dynamic alleviates anxiety, the same goes for me as well. It's doing a much better job than medication was.

11/05/2012

Crichton

Oh the irony of this thread. My boyfriend just broke up with me this morning and I have no friends that understand why I'm being so hard headed about never finding the one after him. They keep saying I'll find the one, and so on and trying to call my ex a jerk for leaving me.

Since he's 6 years younger he's at a place where he's unsure what he wants(other than me, he still loves me deeply and is really confused)and I can't fault him for that. He also wants me to be happy and despite him thinking he won't ever date he knows I need sex in my life and is encouraging me to go out there. He knows he won't find someone like me, but I think he's more willing to compromise with that than I am. He did say if he comes back he promises it will be forever. He just doesn't know if he wants to be with me. I have an already made family and he's the kind of guy that loves to have time to himself and he's real young so not into the family scene just yet.

11/06/2012

charletnarouh

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Originally posted by - Kira -

I forgot to mention, but it's also a coping mechanism for me as well. It's one of the only things that will alleviate my anxiety.

Me too. It makes me feel more clear headed, happier, less neurotic. It alleviates guilt and helps build my confidence and helps me love myself. It gives me opportunities to let go, to cry when i need to, to have catharsis, relieve stress.

11/06/2012

emilymileena

I'm also involved in a D/s thing, and I don't do well without it. I get manipulative in relationships because I want that other person to take control, flip me onto the bed and earn my respect. I have to know I can't play mind games with them, that I will ultimately lose if I try.

Within that, I could not go without orgasm control. It's my favorite kink, and the only one that is a true fetish for me. I HAVE to have it. Breath play is pretty high up there as well, but it's not necessary like orgasm control is for me.

07/08/2013