try tying him to the bed and getting your pleasure then leaving him there for a spell and doing it again when your ready. that will get old so maybe ask him to do the same for you. Remember what he does, it probably a mild version of what he wants you to do to him.

try this.
bondae kit

I highly doubt that you are going to find a source that is going to tell you what you're boyfriend is going to crave. The only way to figure that out is to ask him. Everybody is different and what satisfies one persons craving might not work for the next person.

Being vanilla doesn't mean that you can't still dominate him. While you may not be too into engaging is any kind of kinky play with him you can still be dominant over him. You just have to do it with your mind and words. My suggestion so to do some research on D/s relationships. You don't always have to beat submission into someone. Words can make a very powerful tool when used in the right context.

I hope this helps some.