I have developed two fun fleshlight games that can mix up your experiences with this amazing tool.
Both games are best done hands free, with the fleshlight sandwiched in between your mattress and box spring, either in or out of its case. You will enter it doggy style. You could also use one of the Fleshlight Mounts or insert the small end of the fleshlight, in its case, into a shoe. Stabilize the toe and sides of the shoe so it doesn’t move, and enter the fleshlight missionary style.
Start naked, aroused and lubed, with the inside of fleshlight lubed as well, according to the directions.
The first game involves a cycle of slow, measured penetrations of the fleshlight:
Game A.
In this first game, start by slowly entering the fleshlight. Stop at the point where the head of the penis is just inside the opening. Now, on a slow count of ten, gently glide the penis deeper and deeper into the fleshlight until your pubic bone is touching the orifice. In other words, you want to go as deeply as you can into the fleshlight until your body is pressed against it.
10 slow counts in, 10 slow counts out. Again, on your way back out, stop at the point where the head of the penis is just inside the opening. Now, 9 slow counts in, 9 out. Feel every inch of the texture of the fleshlight. Breathe. Enjoy the erotic sensations you are feeling. Now, 8 slow counts in, 8 out. Think sexy thoughts. A little porn is ok, but don’t let it push you too fast. 7 in, 7 out. 6, 5, 4...etc. When you get to 1, it’s a quick in and out: 1 second all the way in, 1 second out. You’ve now completed one cycle.
Now, try another cycle (or two or three), starting at 10 and counting down again. Feel. Breathe. Enjoy the erotic moment. You can also start at 1 and count back up to 10. It’s up to you.
Or, you can immediately begin Game B:
Game B.
Now, you will be counting strokes, around one second each stroke. Choose a depth level of your stroke before you begin: Shallow, Medium, or Deep. Try not to pull out of the fleshlight during this exercise. If you choose to or need to though, it’s OK. Your starting and ending point for each stroke will be in the front third of the fleshlight, the head of the penis around one or two inches inside the opening, depending on the length of your penis. Start with one stroke, in and out. Pause two seconds. Now two strokes of your chosen depth, in and out. Three. Four. Go all the way to ten strokes, in and out. You’ve now completed one cycle.
You may at this point choose to start another cycle, at one stroke counting up again, perhaps with a different depth of stroke—maybe on this next cycle you choose a deeper, more intense stroke.
Or, you could now return to the first game (Game A), starting just inside the opening of the fleshlight and entering it 10 slow counts in, 10 out, etc.
Variations:
1. In both games, try lengthening the experience by counting up/down to 15, 20, 25 or more.
2. In Game B, alternate stroke depth during each cycle: 1 shallow, 2 medium, 3 deep, 4 medium, etc.
3. Alternate Games A and B, as described in the last paragraph. Try ABAB, BABA, AABBAA, etc.
This MAY be used as a fun challenge exercise for ejaculation control, or as a fun way to experience the excitement of “edging”: Pause the game whenever you feel you are very close to cumming, use any technique you have learned to delay ejaculation (e.g. kegels, big draw, pulling out, deep breathing, thinking about something else, experiencing a non-ejaculatory orgasm) and then resume the game. HOWEVER! We have been programmed to think that so-called “premature ejaculation” is a disorder or sign of dysfunction that must be medicated, psychoanalyzed, avoided and treated. Men are constantly shamed by this, both by women and men. In reality, ejaculation happens when it happens, and can be very hot at any stage of the sexual experience. There is even research that suggests that evolution has over the millennia favored men who are able to ejaculate more quickly: see link
Cumming is natural, whenever it happens! It need not be the end of lovemaking, sexual play, or solosexual exploration. Sometimes, it’s just the beginning. See link
If I have not ejaculated in a few or several days, I can sometimes not make it through even half a cycle of the first game before I can’t contain myself any longer and need to explode in ecstasy. And I enjoy that. But many men including me, can cum again within minutes of their first ejaculation. Try it: when you first cum in the fleshlight, whenever that is in the game (after half a cycle of one game or seven cycles of both, whatever!), stay inside the fleshlight, motionless. You may lose a good deal of your erection. Don’t worry about it. Then, as the heightened sensitivity of the penis subsides a bit (or not), continue with the game you left off, gently at first. It may help to look at a little porn during this. Eventually your hard-on will come back and you may orgasm again, this time a little later then the first time. Or, you could leave the fleshlight filled with your own cum (it makes the best lube!) and come back to it 15-30 minutes later. Or, you might feel completely satisfied with your first cum and can wrap up your experience, even if you only made it to 9 counts in and 9 counts out in the first game. It doesn’t matter. Be as proud of your ejaculation as you are of your erection. It is a wonderful part of being in a male body.
That said, it can be a good thing (but not an absolute) to be able to have the freedom to choose when or if to cum during sex or solosexual play, and if cumming during the first few seconds or minutes causes you distress or frustration (apart from the B.S. societal shame), then there are plenty of options out there to explore to learn to prolong sexual play.
Let me know how your games go, and any questions you might have. This game is for fleshlight novices and experts alike. If you end up using this as a challenge or edging exercise, let me know how many cycles you can complete before cumming. What are your fleshlight games?
Both games are best done hands free, with the fleshlight sandwiched in between your mattress and box spring, either in or out of its case. You will enter it doggy style. You could also use one of the Fleshlight Mounts or insert the small end of the fleshlight, in its case, into a shoe. Stabilize the toe and sides of the shoe so it doesn’t move, and enter the fleshlight missionary style.
Start naked, aroused and lubed, with the inside of fleshlight lubed as well, according to the directions.
The first game involves a cycle of slow, measured penetrations of the fleshlight:
Game A.
In this first game, start by slowly entering the fleshlight. Stop at the point where the head of the penis is just inside the opening. Now, on a slow count of ten, gently glide the penis deeper and deeper into the fleshlight until your pubic bone is touching the orifice. In other words, you want to go as deeply as you can into the fleshlight until your body is pressed against it.
10 slow counts in, 10 slow counts out. Again, on your way back out, stop at the point where the head of the penis is just inside the opening. Now, 9 slow counts in, 9 out. Feel every inch of the texture of the fleshlight. Breathe. Enjoy the erotic sensations you are feeling. Now, 8 slow counts in, 8 out. Think sexy thoughts. A little porn is ok, but don’t let it push you too fast. 7 in, 7 out. 6, 5, 4...etc. When you get to 1, it’s a quick in and out: 1 second all the way in, 1 second out. You’ve now completed one cycle.
Now, try another cycle (or two or three), starting at 10 and counting down again. Feel. Breathe. Enjoy the erotic moment. You can also start at 1 and count back up to 10. It’s up to you.
Or, you can immediately begin Game B:
Game B.
Now, you will be counting strokes, around one second each stroke. Choose a depth level of your stroke before you begin: Shallow, Medium, or Deep. Try not to pull out of the fleshlight during this exercise. If you choose to or need to though, it’s OK. Your starting and ending point for each stroke will be in the front third of the fleshlight, the head of the penis around one or two inches inside the opening, depending on the length of your penis. Start with one stroke, in and out. Pause two seconds. Now two strokes of your chosen depth, in and out. Three. Four. Go all the way to ten strokes, in and out. You’ve now completed one cycle.
You may at this point choose to start another cycle, at one stroke counting up again, perhaps with a different depth of stroke—maybe on this next cycle you choose a deeper, more intense stroke.
Or, you could now return to the first game (Game A), starting just inside the opening of the fleshlight and entering it 10 slow counts in, 10 out, etc.
Variations:
1. In both games, try lengthening the experience by counting up/down to 15, 20, 25 or more.
2. In Game B, alternate stroke depth during each cycle: 1 shallow, 2 medium, 3 deep, 4 medium, etc.
3. Alternate Games A and B, as described in the last paragraph. Try ABAB, BABA, AABBAA, etc.
This MAY be used as a fun challenge exercise for ejaculation control, or as a fun way to experience the excitement of “edging”: Pause the game whenever you feel you are very close to cumming, use any technique you have learned to delay ejaculation (e.g. kegels, big draw, pulling out, deep breathing, thinking about something else, experiencing a non-ejaculatory orgasm) and then resume the game. HOWEVER! We have been programmed to think that so-called “premature ejaculation” is a disorder or sign of dysfunction that must be medicated, psychoanalyzed, avoided and treated. Men are constantly shamed by this, both by women and men. In reality, ejaculation happens when it happens, and can be very hot at any stage of the sexual experience. There is even research that suggests that evolution has over the millennia favored men who are able to ejaculate more quickly: see link
Cumming is natural, whenever it happens! It need not be the end of lovemaking, sexual play, or solosexual exploration. Sometimes, it’s just the beginning. See link
If I have not ejaculated in a few or several days, I can sometimes not make it through even half a cycle of the first game before I can’t contain myself any longer and need to explode in ecstasy. And I enjoy that. But many men including me, can cum again within minutes of their first ejaculation. Try it: when you first cum in the fleshlight, whenever that is in the game (after half a cycle of one game or seven cycles of both, whatever!), stay inside the fleshlight, motionless. You may lose a good deal of your erection. Don’t worry about it. Then, as the heightened sensitivity of the penis subsides a bit (or not), continue with the game you left off, gently at first. It may help to look at a little porn during this. Eventually your hard-on will come back and you may orgasm again, this time a little later then the first time. Or, you could leave the fleshlight filled with your own cum (it makes the best lube!) and come back to it 15-30 minutes later. Or, you might feel completely satisfied with your first cum and can wrap up your experience, even if you only made it to 9 counts in and 9 counts out in the first game. It doesn’t matter. Be as proud of your ejaculation as you are of your erection. It is a wonderful part of being in a male body.
That said, it can be a good thing (but not an absolute) to be able to have the freedom to choose when or if to cum during sex or solosexual play, and if cumming during the first few seconds or minutes causes you distress or frustration (apart from the B.S. societal shame), then there are plenty of options out there to explore to learn to prolong sexual play.
Let me know how your games go, and any questions you might have. This game is for fleshlight novices and experts alike. If you end up using this as a challenge or edging exercise, let me know how many cycles you can complete before cumming. What are your fleshlight games?
