I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new with me, but am not sure if this may be a sensitive topic. How do I bring this up without potentially offending my partner by making him think I'm not satisfied with him alone or that the toy is "better"?
Introducing Sex Toys into Your Relationship
07/21/2020
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I would let him know you think it can add to the fun. My husband was very closed off to the idea. I kept bringing little things up about how it could make foreplay interesting. I also got him interested with cock rings first, as the ones that vibrate are also pleasurable to both people. When we started out with toys, I could barely get him to add them, now almost everytime before sex he's going through the drawers looking for something to use (although he has a favorite he likes to use on me now)
Originally posted by
aznbbgirl
I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new
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I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new with me, but am not sure if this may be a sensitive topic. How do I bring this up without potentially offending my partner by making him think I'm not satisfied with him alone or that the toy is "better"?
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He was also very closed off to the idea of male masturbators and I had eventually talked him into letting me get some to try out together.
07/21/2020
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Thanks for the advice! I actually do have a vibrating cock ring laying around somewhere that I won from a fair awhile ago. I'll try to find it and see what he thinks about that idea of starting with a toy that would mutually bring us pleasure!
Originally posted by
frisky069
I would let him know you think it can add to the fun. My husband was very closed off to the idea. I kept bringing little things up about how it could make foreplay interesting. I also got him interested with cock rings first, as the ones that vibrate
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I would let him know you think it can add to the fun. My husband was very closed off to the idea. I kept bringing little things up about how it could make foreplay interesting. I also got him interested with cock rings first, as the ones that vibrate are also pleasurable to both people. When we started out with toys, I could barely get him to add them, now almost everytime before sex he's going through the drawers looking for something to use (although he has a favorite he likes to use on me now)
He was also very closed off to the idea of male masturbators and I had eventually talked him into letting me get some to try out together. less
He was also very closed off to the idea of male masturbators and I had eventually talked him into letting me get some to try out together. less
07/21/2020
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Open communication between partners is key that can solve many problems. If he already knows that you use sex toys, it makes your task easier, because a conversation about sex toys won't such a huge surprise for him. I'd advise to honestly tell him that you'd like to add some sex toys to your sessions, explain what your intentions and expectations are towards using toys during your playtime. Ask him what he'd like to try. Offer him a few possible options. There are a lot of fantastic toys for couples play, but you don't have to necessarily limit yourself with that range. Masturbators, dildos or butt plugs could be a wonderful addition to sex sessions with a partner! Just start with something simple, beginner-friendly and not-intimidating!
Originally posted by
aznbbgirl
I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new
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I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new with me, but am not sure if this may be a sensitive topic. How do I bring this up without potentially offending my partner by making him think I'm not satisfied with him alone or that the toy is "better"?
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Wish you luck!
07/22/2020
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Thanks for the support! <3
Originally posted by
Leil@
Open communication between partners is key that can solve many problems. If he already knows that you use sex toys, it makes your task easier, because a conversation about sex toys won't such a huge surprise for him. I'd advise to honestly
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Open communication between partners is key that can solve many problems. If he already knows that you use sex toys, it makes your task easier, because a conversation about sex toys won't such a huge surprise for him. I'd advise to honestly tell him that you'd like to add some sex toys to your sessions, explain what your intentions and expectations are towards using toys during your playtime. Ask him what he'd like to try. Offer him a few possible options. There are a lot of fantastic toys for couples play, but you don't have to necessarily limit yourself with that range. Masturbators, dildos or butt plugs could be a wonderful addition to sex sessions with a partner! Just start with something simple, beginner-friendly and not-intimidating!
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07/22/2020
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Quick update: I brought up the idea to my boyfriend and he was totally supportive of trying something new as he'd love to explore more fun ways to please me. We're so excited to spice things up together! Please continue to feel free and share your advice for others or leave any recommendations for couple toys or even mutual masturbation tips.
Originally posted by
aznbbgirl
I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new
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I used to think that sex toys were only useful for solo masturbation, but recently thought about the idea of using toys during partnered sex. My partner has never used sex toys, but he knows that I do. I think he would be open to trying something new with me, but am not sure if this may be a sensitive topic. How do I bring this up without potentially offending my partner by making him think I'm not satisfied with him alone or that the toy is "better"?
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07/23/2020
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So glad to hear he's open to the idea! C shape vibrators are another toy you can use during intercourse, my husband and I use a couple of those also! We also like using smaller toys during sex so I can rub my clit and what not with one. Finger bunny, white temptation, fondler, and love petal are all great and there are many others on the site similar to these. Wands are also good! Also, my husband and I have fun with toys that have a remote. Dual igniter and hot affair are two of my favorite right now.
Originally posted by
aznbbgirl
Quick update: I brought up the idea to my boyfriend and he was totally supportive of trying something new as he'd love to explore more fun ways to please me. We're so excited to spice things up together! Please continue to feel free and share
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Quick update: I brought up the idea to my boyfriend and he was totally supportive of trying something new as he'd love to explore more fun ways to please me. We're so excited to spice things up together! Please continue to feel free and share your advice for others or leave any recommendations for couple toys or even mutual masturbation tips.
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Hope you two have fun exploring options! Adding toys to my sex life this year with my husband has been amazing! It's definitely spiced up the sex life
07/23/2020
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