is something wrong with me??

is something wrong with me??

DTV88 DTV88
If I can't orgasm is there something wrong with me??
06/09/2011
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ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by DTV88
If I can't orgasm is there something wrong with me??
Hell no, sweetheart. Plenty of people cannot orgasm, both men and women. My fiance couldn't orgasm until he was 19 years old! No idea why, he just couldn't. My very best friend, still to this day, has not had an orgasm and she is 30 years old. My mother has never had one either, and she is nearing 57 years old.

It takes patience, practice, new methods, and for some actual therapy/research/hormo ne therapy. There are ways to do it and great books and videos to help you. EF has tons of helpful books!
06/09/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hell no, sweetheart. Plenty of people cannot orgasm, both men and women. My fiance couldn't orgasm until he was 19 years old! No idea why, he just couldn't. My very best friend, still to this day, has not had an orgasm and she is 30 years ...
Also, it takes a great deal of relaxation... My biggest, best tip is to take a few HOURS whenever you can and explore your body in peace and quiet without anyone next to you. Do whatever you have to do to be alone, and let your hands take you where you need to go. Try a vibrator, pocket pussy, dildo, plug, etc. and experiment with what feels good for you.

Don't let yourself get pressured.
06/09/2011
K101 K101
Not neccessarily. It could easily be stress or just being tired. It's surprising how just the tiniest stress can cause that. I'd give it time and then see a Dr. if it keeps happening. Best of luck though. I know it must be a scary issue
06/09/2011
REDRUM REDRUM
You have to learn how to orgasm. You can't just do it, then an orgasm comes out of no where. You have to work for it. It took me a few years of exploring my body to figure out how to orgasm.
06/09/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by DTV88
If I can't orgasm is there something wrong with me??
no way i thought there was something wrong with me too till i found stuff that worked with my partner and stuff that i could try on my own
06/12/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by DTV88
If I can't orgasm is there something wrong with me??
absolutely not. worry not, love! this is a completely normal thing for women (i'm assuming you're a woman, i'm sorry if you're not)

i couldnt orgasm on my own until age 23, after years of masturbating. it took a great dildo and a powerful pocket rocket bullet vibrator and relaxing, relaxing. for women, it's nearly all mental! i find if you squeeze your keigel muscles (like you are trying to stop and release the flow of pee) sometimes that can help it come. also practicing keigel exercises (google it!) can strengthen your vag wall muscles and strengthen intensity of orgasms, so i hear.

i actually had my first orgasm around age 19 when just dry humping with clothes on with a boy i'd coveted for a year... when it happened i didnt know what it was, i thought his penis rubbing against me was performing some kind of trick, but that was my insides pulsing with orgasm. it was 4 years til i would come again, knowing what it was.


honestly i was expecting something more. i had experienced nearly coming during sex, then at the point where it got so good, my father's face would appear and i would feel so dirty, almsot like i was being raped by my father, and the man i was with would be freaked out, i would cry.... it was horrible. i'm honestly not sure if i have ever been sexually abused (i have NO recollection, if so) but this certainly impeded my ability. when i finally did have orgasms, it wasnt what i expected... just that really good feeling, then some squeezing in my pussy, which i couldnt even feel until i explored my g spot with my fingers, using the 'come hither' motion with my two fingers while buzzing my clit with a vibrator. i realized then i'd probably been having o's all along but didnt realie it... they were so subtle.


it took til around my 24th birthday to have an O with a boyfriend. he was a total hippie, a total sweetheart, and we were very open with eachother. it was a transforming period in my life.


at one point i really thought i was incapable, period, and that i would never.



patience and practice solo, grasshopper. it will come.
06/16/2011
7Miles 7Miles
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Lots of people have trouble with it sometimes.
09/06/2011
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