I don't think porn, unless it's specifically designed to educate people about safe-sex and safe toy use, should feel obligated to practice these things any more than mainstream movies should show people always making good decisions, not committing crime, nor blowing things up.

Porn is entertainment, not education. It's about fantasy, it's not a how-to film. Not everything has to be, nor should it be all about keeping people from harming themselves.

I am going to second this.

Oh, plenty of people don't change things when others complain, but sometimes the complaining reaches epic levels of obnoxious, and if the subject is safe sex, the writer who does it wrong is woefully outnumbered. Life tends to go smoother if one follows the established social mores of any culture, and while this particular culture as a whole is cool with pretty much anything (rape, torture, necrophilia, magically induced male pregnancies -- google 'ass babies' if you're brave, people having sex with their own clones, people who sprout wings for no adequately explained reason and then have sex while flying, you name it), they like their porn carefully labeled (be as deviant or as implausible as you like, but use the correct tags in the header) and they prefer their serial rapists to carry condoms and lube.

I've seen fandom fight viciously about racism, sexism, homophobia, religion, politics, whether or not William Shatner wearing a toupee means that Captain Kirk wore a toupee, and at what point Heroes jumped the shark, but on the subject of safe sex in fiction, they're a pretty united bunch. That, and that FOX is the most evil network. But everyone knows that.

Wow. I'd have totally written it to mention a nearby pair of scissors to cut the scarves and waved a bird at anyone who didn't like it.

That's a big part of why my fanfiction is rarely of the erotic variety. Fandom has imposed so many baffling rules on the sex scene that it's hard to write freely -- things come out sounding like a how-to manual narrated by Jean Luc Picard, bookended by Cardassian politics and Borg attacks.

Man, fandoms are kerrrrazy!

If you dig around the more popular categories on fanfiction websites, like adultfanfiction.net, you get all sorts of strange subgenres. I remember the first time I read a fanfiction flying the "MPreg" (male pregnancy) flag. Poor Harry! How come he has to carry the baby? At least Draco's going out at all hours to satisfy his pregnancy cravings for strangely flavored beans.

For me, porn, hentai, erotica... All of that is purely fictional, purely fantasy. Like Laurel said, we don't go to movies and then come out thinking that murder and arson are fine. Anyone who watches a porno that doesn't use condoms or practice other "safer sex" procedures (or use lube like a normal person instead of hawking a loogie) and thinks that that's appropriate behavior in real life can only blame themselves for depending on fiction for an education.

I should add that it's not fair to judge all of fandom just by its weird erotica habits. There's a ton of great fiction that has nothing to do with biologically impossible sex, really.

And yeah, I give adultfanfiction.net a wide berth -- I do not want to picture orgies featuring Snape or JarJar Binks. I prefer link or one of the many sites specific to the shows that interest me.

Totally true; some of us are just stranger than others

I've actually come to appreciate adultfanfiction.net for its entertainment value. Where else can I find erotica written by twelve year olds who think that the clitoris is INSIDE the vaginal canal? Or that penis-in-CERVIX sex is a delightful experience? Hermione's insta-lubrication spell was pretty cool though * trundles off to look through fanfics again *

If I were confident that our education system had more power over our youth then the porn industry, I wouldn't have any problem with the idea of using small toys anally in porn/erotica, but since I've seen enough evidence to the contrary both in personal experience and in studies, I feel that porn should at least try to show things that are safe since people use that as the "norm" rather then realizing that it's a fictional story. Sadly, no one wants to think about things that are "safe" or "real" when they would rather just get off. Of course, it shouldn't all be on the porn industry. If our culture were more open about sex, and more willing to educate our youth about safe sex, rather than just abstinence, maybe I (personally) would feel different.

If anatomical inaccuracies rock your boat, there are several Live Journal communities devoted to quoting the most disturbing passages for mocking. Looking at them makes my brain hurt, but to each her own:

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I have seen odd things used in porn and once saw a very small vibrator used anally. I believe that the producers have an obligation to teach the public general safety but at the same time, they always have a disclaimer up discouraging many of the acts portrayed.