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sarahbear
I finally ordered mine last week and have had it for a couple of days now. I tried playing with it in the shower a bit and my husband tried using it on me. It goes right to the spot, but I'm pretty unsure of what to do with it there. It's
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I finally ordered mine last week and have had it for a couple of days now. I tried playing with it in the shower a bit and my husband tried using it on me. It goes right to the spot, but I'm pretty unsure of what to do with it there. It's possibly because I'm scared to hurt myself with this giant steel rod that I shoved into my vagina. We also tried the small end anally with my husband and found we had the same problem. It hit the spot with no effort, but we don't want to injure him back there.
What sort of techniques do you use with a Pure Wand? The weight and the curve make it a little difficult and awkward to use. I imagined there would be a learning curve since this toy is the first we've ever tried like it, but I'm just confused. I want to fall in love with this thing the way that so many others have. Are there any videos that might show how to move your wrist/hand/arm with diagrams or real people? Maybe some how-to guides?
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Sarahbear - when I got this for my wife I assumed that she would have the same problem. Luckily I was able to find many women who have described how they use the PureWand. I made copies of the reviews and edited them into a kind of 'how to'.
Before I ever touched it - I made sure she practiced the techniques - then had her teach me. If you'd like a copy of the MSWord doc I created form my wife I'd be happy to email it to you - just send me a note at augustus63bc@gmail.com . There are 25 reviews on this site alone and many of the users give details. This forum is so great because you can ask the reviewers specific questions - and get a ton of useful advice.
A couple of comments from using the PureWand from a mans perspective. The small end was simply too small to be useful for my wife - but it makes a great prostate toy - so share it with your husband.
In the summer when things are really hot - my wife like the feeling of the cool steel - but we never use a refrigerator or ice. It isn't long before the heat within has the steel up to body temp.
When using the large ball to stimulate my wife's g-spot I start slowly with shallow strokes - keeping the ball pressed against the g-spot - but you have to make sure not to draw out too far and bludgeon her pubic bone. As things heat up - she'll press back into the strokes telling me it's ok to venture more deeply - look up A-spot on the internet to see what that's all about.
Caution - when we first started doing this my wife said it made her feel like urinating - but once she learned to relax - that feeling passed and things are fine. A bout 8 out of 10 times she'll orgasm without clitoral stimulation and when that happens she almost always 'gushes' - that's what she calls squirting or female ejaculation.
Figure out what makes you feel best - then teach your husband - if he's ok with a little coaching.
Enjoy!
