A man loves pegging...Does it mean he is gay?

Recently my boyfriend and I had an open conversation about our undisclosed sexual fantasies, and he revealed to me that he’d like to diversify our sexual life with pegging and that actually he had tried it earlier and enjoyed it a lot.

Well, I was surprised by his offer, if not to say shocked. I didn’t want to offend him or hurt his feelings, so I tried not to expose my confusion and I told him I would think about it. I believe I am a quite open-minded person, and I like to try new and unusual things in bed, but I’m not sure how I should feel about it. I mean, he definitely does not seem to be a gay, I’ve never noticed even a hint that men might be attracted to him. But why does he have such a desire and why does he like pegging? Is it all about prostate stimulation? Or is there still a chance that he might have homosexual tendencies?

Please, help me! I so badly need any advice from somebody who has experience with this stuff! Should I be worried, or pegging is a normal practice for straight couples? less

Many women enjoy anal play simply because it feels good. There are bundles of nerves that provide pleasure when stimulated. This is the same for a man that identifies as straight. He has the added advantage of having a prostate that when stimulated correctly provides pleasure similar to having your GSpot stimulated. Win win!

Men that are secure enough in their masculinity to be honest and vulnerable with their partners about their sexuality are in my opinion sexy as hell! This type of emotional vulnerability can add an unparalleled level of intimacy to your relationship. If you are still uncomfortable with the idea, I would suggest discussing with him what he finds appealing about pegging, this would probably help to ease your concerns and also give some insight into what drives him wild. less

Recently my boyfriend and I had an open conversation about our undisclosed sexual fantasies, and he revealed to me that he’d like to diversify our sexual life with pegging and that actually he had tried it earlier and enjoyed it a lot.

Well, I was surprised by his offer, if not to say shocked. I didn’t want to offend him or hurt his feelings, so I tried not to expose my confusion and I told him I would think about it. I believe I am a quite open-minded person, and I like to try new and unusual things in bed, but I’m not sure how I should feel about it. I mean, he definitely does not seem to be a gay, I’ve never noticed even a hint that men might be attracted to him. But why does he have such a desire and why does he like pegging? Is it all about prostate stimulation? Or is there still a chance that he might have homosexual tendencies?

Please, help me! I so badly need any advice from somebody who has experience with this stuff! Should I be worried, or pegging is a normal practice for straight couples? less

Dear Mrs.Colombo!

Despite my partner and I haven't tried pegging yet, I am deeply convinced that a man couldn't be considered gay just because he likes pegging or anal sex in general. To be gay, he should love other men and be sexually attracted to them, IMO.

So why a straight man might like pegging? There may be several reasons. First of all, it is a prostate stimulation, as you correctly noticed, which is pleasurable in itself and also leads to a more powerful man's orgasm. Moreover, pegging is appealing to many couples because it means switch in traditional roles. It allows a woman to take the lead and put a man in a sub role, which can be a very exciting experience for both! And of course, it helps to break a routine in relationships and add a little kink to your sex life.

So I think you shouldn't worry about your boyfriend's love for pegging. But you definitely should talk about all your fears and doubts with him in a friendly manner and see if pegging might be your cup of tea.

Best of luck! less

Of course every individual is different. There have been some high profile people including movie stars that came out gay. Nobody would have ever guess.
This is my opinion:

Pegging might be an indication, but doesn't necessarily indicate so. Some men just like their women providing pleasure and being in charge. They just happened to like anal pleasure. Wearing a big plug for example. Some just want something risqué and exciting to do with their wifes.

Him flirting with guys, looking at men instead of women etc might be an indication.
Then there's guys that like to dress up as girls and have anal sex. They might be in another category or possibly a gal in a women's body.

Again, I'm not an expert. As you asked on a public forum and not your physician's website , expect answers like this.

If you want only answers from committed pegging couples , perhaps start a specific thread for them.

Good luck less

Many women enjoy anal play simply because it feels good. There are bundles of nerves that provide pleasure when stimulated. This is the same for a man that identifies as straight. He has the added advantage of having a prostate that when stimulated correctly provides pleasure similar to having your GSpot stimulated. Win win!

Men that are secure enough in their masculinity to be honest and vulnerable with their partners about their sexuality are in my opinion sexy as hell! This type of emotional vulnerability can add an unparalleled level of intimacy to your relationship. If you are still uncomfortable with the idea, I would suggest discussing with him what he finds appealing about pegging, this would probably help to ease your concerns and also give some insight into what drives him wild. less

I know it seems like a scary situation, to know that your significant other wants to try something that is normally deemed as "gay". While I have no experience in pegging, I do have many experiences in BDSM, and pegging is definitely a "kinky" thing to do. As Leil@ said, it's a way to switch roles. Many men like it because they get a break from doing all the work.

Pegging isn't inherently bad, nor does it mean anything bad. The only thing I can recommend is to discuss with your partner why he enjoys it so much. Communication is key in relationships, and I'm sure he'll appreciate you asking him. Who knows; if you try it, you might like it! less

I'll give you my 2 cents of reassurance since this has been a big aspect of my intimate life. The key feature of anal to me is intimacy. It's a vulnerable thing to spread your cheeks. That your boyfriend has shared this desire with you is a signpost indicating honesty and trust. And he knew that you may think he is a homo! Yet he was brave enough and vulnerable enough to go out on that limb.

Pegging and all forms of anal play among straight couples is simply exploring intimacy, desire and pleasure together.
Anal play and Pegging has been a notable feature with every serious girlfriend I've had. I married one of them and it continues to be a regular part of our sex life. Why do I like it and crave it? It feels good. It feels intense- more intense by a long shot than being the penetrator. And the body only leaves so many options on the table for sexual pleasure, and I'm a glutton.

"But why does he have such a desire and why does he like pegging?"
The mind is mysterious and fluid and the anus has an abundance of nerve endings.. Prostate stimulation is intense and pleasurable. Pegging is sexy and taboo and feels amazing.

"Or is there still a chance that he might have homosexual tendencies?"
Sure there is a chance. A great topic for discussion. Expose your confusion. Learn what really turns him on about pegging physically and psychologically so that you can turn him on like that. And I think you will have answered your questions.

There are plenty of people in this world who may think that because I find a beautiful women wearing a rubber cock to be ravishing, that I am totally gay. So be it. Although somehow I think most gay men might disagree.
My wife grew to enjoy it because it made me happy and satisfied. Than over the years she grew to actually enjoy and crave being the Top, being in charge, and having the power to make me squeal for a change. less

Thank you for your answer!
You know, you're so right! He demonstrated so high level of trust to me, and the 1st thing I thought "isn't he gay?" instead of being happy that he confides and shares with me such an intimate thing.

And I really don't want him turns out to be gay. I hope that will never happen! I'm going to keep this man for myself! less

Recently my boyfriend and I had an open conversation about our undisclosed sexual fantasies, and he revealed to me that he’d like to diversify our sexual life with pegging and that actually he had tried it earlier and enjoyed it a lot.

Well, I was surprised by his offer, if not to say shocked. I didn’t want to offend him or hurt his feelings, so I tried not to expose my confusion and I told him I would think about it. I believe I am a quite open-minded person, and I like to try new and unusual things in bed, but I’m not sure how I should feel about it. I mean, he definitely does not seem to be a gay, I’ve never noticed even a hint that men might be attracted to him. But why does he have such a desire and why does he like pegging? Is it all about prostate stimulation? Or is there still a chance that he might have homosexual tendencies?

Please, help me! I so badly need any advice from somebody who has experience with this stuff! Should I be worried, or pegging is a normal practice for straight couples? less

Hello Mrs. Coloumbo,

I can see how you might feel that way. However, just because a man enjoys pegging or has a desire to try it does not mean that he is gay. As you indicated there is prostate stimulation which I heard is very pleasurable to guys. I think he was trying to open up a bit and express himself to show you what he likes.

-MistressLizzie less

Pegging is a normal practice, relax. Read EF and you’ll notice that many women are unbalanced when their SOs ask them. It’s a normal reaction from your side.
Is he gay? No, he might be ready to kill any guy touching him on the spot, but melt away when you do it. If he wanted a cock, he wouldn’t be asking you.
If a guy’s in the right mood, and something is in his butt – fingers, massagers, dildos, etc – and he’s touching his cock, pleasure feels stronger. If you touch his cock at that time, it feels even better, threefold maybe.
So
1: just do it, THEN talk about how it felt. Stop dragging out
2: ignore the related porn, it’s mostly for show, just another BS.
3: you help him realise his fantasy now, he’ll reciprocate in future. And fantasies realized together will bring you closer. He’s got this open-minded bombshell in bed, why look for some gay or girl?
4: don’t worry that you’ll only do pegging from now on. You both will get tired if you don’t diversify. Pegging just becomes another tool in the toolbox, akin to oral sex or female anal.
5: when people ask why someone likes this kind of sex the answer is ‘because it feels good. Period.’

PS my gf was taken aback when I asked her too. we did it only a couple of times, mostly me moving all the time.
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