Are naughty gifts appropriate for the holidays?

Are naughty gifts appropriate for the holidays?

Lily Night Lily Night
So, my boyfriend and I share custody of this account and I told him I would post this discussion: He and I really love this website and he keeps looking at all the Christmas toys and he was thinking about getting something for me. However, I already have a toy that I love and I feel that the holidays are a time to give your partner non-sexual presents. I've always loved the innocence of that time of year and I'm not sure I'm comfortable with a gift like that. So my question is this: Do you think that naughty gifts are appropriate? Should I just suck it up and accept the toy?
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Taylor Taylor
I think that you need to know who you're shopping for. If you know they aren't going to enjoy the gift or think it's appropriate, then it's probably best to get a different gift. Other people don't mind that type of gift, so it would be a great idea for them. I think sometimes people need to think about what the other person actually wants, not what they think the person should want.
11/09/2010
SexyTabby SexyTabby
I personally wouldn't mind naughty gifts for the holidays. However, if the person in question doesn't want one then maybe the boyfriend could find another time to share that type of gift and still get a more traditional present for the holiday. You don't need a reason or a holiday to share a gift with the one you love.
11/09/2010
LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
This depends entirely on who is giving and who is getting the gift. I'm a believer in making an effort to know what someone would appreciate as a gift, so if maintaining the spirit you've come to love about the holiday is important to you, perhaps the naughty gift is not quite the right one.

On the other hand, getting toys at Christmas is something you usually have to leave behind as you become an adult... so if returning to the child-like joy of getting a toy to play with is something that appeals to you... there are few things that fit the bill like a sex toy.
11/09/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
If I was in your situation, I'd say ti is appropriate. I understand that you want other things too though! I would be dissapointed if all I got from my sig. other was a toy. I would like something that I can tell my family about too.
11/09/2010
Eeyor89 Eeyor89
I would love it if I got a toy for christmas, but since I live with fam. and don't have a BF guess its not going to happen this year lol.
11/09/2010
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I think that you need to know who you're shopping for. If you know they aren't going to enjoy the gift or think it's appropriate, then it's probably best to get a different gift. Other people don't mind that type of gift, so it ...
Ditto. Word. For. Word.

Giving is about the other person. So maybe girlfriend can give boyfriend naughty gift and boyfriend can give girlfriend innocent, nonsexual gift.

COMPROMISE!
11/09/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Yes, toys are totally appropriate gifts.

On the other hand, you shouldn't be given a gift that you won't be able to appreciate or aren't comfortable with (what's the fun of that?)

Know the time, know the place, and most of all know your audience.

11/09/2010
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
If I was in your situation, I'd say ti is appropriate. I understand that you want other things too though! I would be dissapointed if all I got from my sig. other was a toy. I would like something that I can tell my family about too.
I also like this answer. (which is why I voted "OTHER" )

Maybe you can make it a new tradition! A private gift and a "public" gift that you can say: "Ooooh, he got me a __________!" to Mom and Dad and Grandma.
11/09/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I do it all the time - but obviously it's done in private not in front of others.
11/09/2010
Dame Demi Dame Demi
Yes, I know this is sick, but I give them often, in innocent packaging, expressly for the delight I get when I get a phone call from the friend/recipient in question that opens with something like "I unwrapped a dildo in front of my GRANDMOTHER, you evil bitch!" I've mellowed since my friends started having kids (nobody really started until their mid-30s); plus, most of my friends now know better than to open anything from me in mixed company.

You should see what I do at bridal showers. I generally go for the "what IS that???" reaction.

But I'm also a woman who put Monty Python's "Life Of Brian" in her husband's Easter basket one year. Yes, I'm going to hell.
11/10/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
I would love to receive adult toys for Xmas. But ya know, different strokes for different folks. So if you're not comfortable with it, then you should be honest and say so. That's what's important. But I don't inherently see anything wrong with mature stuff during the holidays.
11/10/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by Dame Demi
Yes, I know this is sick, but I give them often, in innocent packaging, expressly for the delight I get when I get a phone call from the friend/recipient in question that opens with something like "I unwrapped a dildo in front of my GRANDMOTHER, ...
Just one word for you...

AWESOME!
11/10/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Lily Night
So, my boyfriend and I share custody of this account and I told him I would post this discussion: He and I really love this website and he keeps looking at all the Christmas toys and he was thinking about getting something for me. However, I already ...
get something sexual and get a nice present to so he can tell other people whnat u got him and have him not mention the toy...maybe get a vibrating ring not too expensive then get a nice present
11/10/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I think that you need to know who you're shopping for. If you know they aren't going to enjoy the gift or think it's appropriate, then it's probably best to get a different gift. Other people don't mind that type of gift, so it ...
Ditto.

If he is getting a Christmas gift for YOU then he should get something that YOU want. You should make a Christmas list for him of gifts you'd like to receive, or ask him to get you something sweet and sentimental.
11/10/2010
Avant-garde Avant-garde
They are appropriate in my opinion as long as the person you get them for will be glad to accept them.
11/12/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I like the idea of the "private" gift. Personally we have never done this my partner and I, but it would be nice!
11/12/2010
Dame Demi Dame Demi
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
get something sexual and get a nice present to so he can tell other people whnat u got him and have him not mention the toy...maybe get a vibrating ring not too expensive then get a nice present
That's what we usually do, but I'm glad I've been living halfway across the country, because I always have to invent 'real' presents to tell Mom & Dad. I also agree the point of giving someone a gift is to give something they'll enjoy, not something to make yourself happy. I love toys, so love getting them as presents. My husband loved when I wore corsets, and I think they're hideously uncomfortable, so when he gave me them as gifts--well, I was going to say it's like getting a new vacuum cleaner so you can clean up better after his ass. But I'd actually like a new vacuum cleaner; I'd actually prefer a "Get Out of Corset Free" card than another corset.

Attitudes about gifts also tend to change depending on how long you've been in the relationship. The first year or two I was married, I wanted something meaningful and romantic; later I wanted video games and fun stuff. Now he gets me a token gesture little gift and I just buy go out and buy what I want, and he doesn't yell at me when the credit card bill comes that month.
11/12/2010
lamira lamira
I think toys are appropriate gifts, as long as it goes to the appropriate person.
11/12/2010
ToyGeek ToyGeek
Gifts that will make the receiver uncomfortable are not really gifts at all. I think a toy is a fine gift between lovers, but not when one party has expressed reservations about it so specifically.
11/13/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Lily Night
So, my boyfriend and I share custody of this account and I told him I would post this discussion: He and I really love this website and he keeps looking at all the Christmas toys and he was thinking about getting something for me. However, I already ...
While there is much to be said about being a gracious recipient of a heartfelt gift there is also much to be said about thoughtfully considering whether your gift will be appreciated. Perhaps you could have a special naughty New Year's celebration where you exchange naughty gifts! What a way to start the new year!
11/13/2010
Mistress Kitty Mistress Kitty
Depends on the situation I think.
11/13/2010
Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
While there is much to be said about being a gracious recipient of a heartfelt gift there is also much to be said about thoughtfully considering whether your gift will be appreciated. Perhaps you could have a special naughty New Year's ...
I agree. Have an Innocent Christmas and then have a Naughty New Year. Sounds like a great plan to me.
11/13/2010
ScottA ScottA
You posted your answer - you're not comfortable with a naughty gift, so that should be saved for some other time. Other people/couples may have a different answer.
11/13/2010
Lavendar Menace Lavendar Menace
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I think that you need to know who you're shopping for. If you know they aren't going to enjoy the gift or think it's appropriate, then it's probably best to get a different gift. Other people don't mind that type of gift, so it ...
My thoughts exactly. If you know the gift would make them uncomfortable, then why get it? The holidays are about happiness!
11/15/2010
Kayla Kayla
For us, a naughty gift depends on who the recipient is. My boyfriend would feel cheated since I buy him stuff yearround, but our other friends would absolutely love it.

If you think you'll enjoy it, go for it. If not, just don't. You can always get naughty presents later.
11/15/2010
sbon sbon
It depends on the person. I usually give gifts that are made up of a bunch of small things, which might include something naughty, something more sentimental, something funny, etc. That way you get a little bit of all the feelings you want to express.
11/15/2010
Kim! Kim!
I would not object if someone got me the Eleven. I'd feel a bit weird if, say, my mom got me the Eleven but I wouldn't object and I'd be unbelievably thankful.

I, personally, would only ever get a significant other a "real" sex toy at this point, although that could change as my relationship dynamics with people change. I'd get friends gag gifts though, provided I knew that they were comfortable with that sort of thing.
11/15/2010
Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
I would only buy a sex toy for my husband, family member (that I knew would enjoy it), or a good friend.
11/15/2010
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I only give my wife sex toys for Christmas as a secret, secondary gift - not something opened in front of the family. Something thoughtful and innocent is best as the primary gift for the season. I usually give a naughty gift before visiting with the family or afterwards (Jan. 6th) when we have time to enjoy it.
11/15/2010
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