Deciding if I'm bi or straight?

Deciding if I'm bi or straight?

jjesssica jjesssica
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It is kind of hard deciding whether Im Bi or Straight, has anyone gone through this situation? It can be awkward being bi, but sometimes it feels best being with a girl other than a guy. But a guy is formal. >.< its very complicated
05/27/2012
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Nirelan Nirelan
I say I'm bi, but I've never had a relationship with another girl before, just had sex with them. I prefer guys over girls, but sometimes I think being with a girl would be so much fun.
05/27/2012
jjesssica jjesssica
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Originally posted by Nirelan
I say I'm bi, but I've never had a relationship with another girl before, just had sex with them. I prefer guys over girls, but sometimes I think being with a girl would be so much fun.
yeaa same here! id choose a guy over a girl relationship wise, but i wna mess aroundd >:l lol
05/28/2012
butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
I would think that you were straight if you prefer being with a guy over a girl. Just because you want to mess around with a girl does not make you bi it makes you wanting to explore. Now if you happened to fall in love with a girl or decide that you would rather be with girls more then you should then I would say you were bi.

I think some girls are sexy and have nice boobs,etc...but I'm straight.
05/29/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
First a note, you may want to avoid phrasing it "deciding whether Im Bi or Straight" because some might find it offensive, I firmly believe it was not a decision I made but rather a part of me, I remember having my first crush on a girl at 8 years old (her name was amy and she grew up to be super hot btw). You probably just meant you were figuring out how you feel but just be careful because some people can be really touchy. =/
Second, keep in mind that it is not important to put a label on your sexuality, human sexuality is fluid with many gray areas. There are so many names to describe feelings toward different genders and you may fall into many or you may fall into none at all. If you are feeling attracted to women right now than just enjoy it.
Lastly, when I was going through a phase of discovery trying to label myself I used to create elaborate fantasies between me and another woman. In these fantasies I would focus specifically on the things that made her a woman, her breasts, her curves, etc. It really helped me to see that I was in fact attracted to other women, and I've since learned that gender is not a factor in my attraction and I can be attracted to those with any gender identity.
Good luck. =)
05/29/2012
jjesssica jjesssica
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Originally posted by Bex1331
First a note, you may want to avoid phrasing it "deciding whether Im Bi or Straight" because some might find it offensive, I firmly believe it was not a decision I made but rather a part of me, I remember having my first crush on a girl at ...
Thanks for thee advice ((:
06/01/2012
jjesssica jjesssica
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
I would think that you were straight if you prefer being with a guy over a girl. Just because you want to mess around with a girl does not make you bi it makes you wanting to explore. Now if you happened to fall in love with a girl or decide that you ...
o: yeaa ur right! I would never want to get into a relationship with a girl, so maybe I do just want to "explore". thanks! ((:
06/01/2012
xGOLDx xGOLDx
I identify as bi because I enjoy any gender both sexually and emotionally. My sexual orientation isn't just about who I want to screw, but who I want to date. By all means explore and have fun darling.
06/05/2012
GONE! GONE!
You're bi if you like both. It doesn't matter which one you like more. I don't think there's a scale to measure against, lol.
06/05/2012
bh253 bh253
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Originally posted by GONE!
You're bi if you like both. It doesn't matter which one you like more. I don't think there's a scale to measure against, lol.
I agree with this!
06/05/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
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Originally posted by GONE!
You're bi if you like both. It doesn't matter which one you like more. I don't think there's a scale to measure against, lol.
My thoughts exactly.
06/05/2012
Librarian Librarian
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Originally posted by jjesssica
It is kind of hard deciding whether Im Bi or Straight, has anyone gone through this situation? It can be awkward being bi, but sometimes it feels best being with a girl other than a guy. But a guy is formal. >.< its very complicated
You're not alone. I've only ever had sex with one girl, but I'd have sex with them again. However, overall I prefer men to have a relationship with and sex more regularly with.
06/08/2012
Librarian Librarian
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Originally posted by jjesssica
It is kind of hard deciding whether Im Bi or Straight, has anyone gone through this situation? It can be awkward being bi, but sometimes it feels best being with a girl other than a guy. But a guy is formal. >.< its very complicated
Also, you don't have to decide right now. Just be yourself. Whomever that is. It's typical of our culture, or many, to label people, and we buy into too--wanting to label ourselves, our relationships. I think it's perfectly okay to not know or not decide. After all, who you sleep with isn't who you are--who you are is what defines you--kindness, intelligence, humour, etc.
06/08/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
There are more choices than just bi or straight- look around on people's about me pages and in the forums. I have a great book called 'bi' all aboutf figuring that out
06/24/2012
RiahPapaya RiahPapaya
I agree with Bex1331 and Librarian, SCREW LABELS!
06/24/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I go by "heteroflexible" (also called "bisexual, primarily hetero"). I mostly like guys, but I also like women to a degree.

Bex probably put it best, though.
06/24/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Just be you! Do what you feel and forget about having a title!!!
06/24/2012
agilbert agilbert
i have and i have done things with girls and it dont really change anyhting but boobs i like boobs
06/26/2012
Roz W Roz W
It's up to you, hon. I think the most important side of this is not deciding who gets to use a label. The most important side is not being a jerk to your partners.

I prefer women in most ways, but I prefer being a weirdo, so my life is full of weirdos of many genders.

For women who are attracted to women but would "never" get into a relationship with a girl, why not? I find that most of the time someone's explanation boils down to "women are crazy!" which isn't fair. Maybe open your mind, examine your assumptions, and then do whoever you want (mutually-pleasurably and respectfully).
06/27/2012
lomejo61 lomejo61
I've always been really fluid when it come to gender and sexuality.Personality is such a deciding factor that I don't even try labeling it at this point. I'm attracted to certain people. If I happen to love someone's mind and they're a girl so be it To be honest, it happens more with women than it does with men
06/27/2012
Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
Just be yourself no need for labels
06/27/2012
MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
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Originally posted by Bex1331
First a note, you may want to avoid phrasing it "deciding whether Im Bi or Straight" because some might find it offensive, I firmly believe it was not a decision I made but rather a part of me, I remember having my first crush on a girl at ...
This, this, this, a million times this.
06/28/2012
krystalmarie krystalmarie
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Originally posted by Nirelan
I say I'm bi, but I've never had a relationship with another girl before, just had sex with them. I prefer guys over girls, but sometimes I think being with a girl would be so much fun.
it is
06/29/2012
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