This is great advice! What happens in the bedroom is often a sign of what's happening - or not - outside the bedroom.

When my wife and I finally were able to discuss masturbation (What? We were shy! ), we both agreed sex and masturbation are two entirely different things; they serve a different purpose. I think we both go through spells when we're tired, or rushed, and it is just easier to masturbate. Sometimes we do it to turn the other on. And then we seem to switch over to not being able to get enough of each other. So yeah, we go through phases.

It only makes sense that your solo sessions are better/more effective. Nobody knows what makes your body tick better than you. But the one thing solo can't compete with is intimacy with your husband. Solo, you focus on your pleasure. Together, focus on his pleasure and enjoy the incredible feeling it is to be the one who can make him feel that way (and I do believe he should be the same with you). I think what may have happened is you're expecting your own sensations and pleasures to be the same as when you take care of yourself.