Do you tell them?

Contributor: Lady Nina Lady Nina
Just tell him
07/25/2011
Contributor: haley730 haley730
go for it
07/25/2011
Contributor: daveysgirl daveysgirl
tell him if he not into it you still got yourself to do it!
08/08/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by daveysgirl
tell him if he not into it you still got yourself to do it!
agreed!
08/08/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Just tell him. Hottest thing ever was when my fiancee asked me to!
08/08/2011
Contributor: extrafun extrafun
If he likes movies maybe find one that they are doing anal and mention that it is something you would like to try. Or maybe try and get him to tell you something he would like to do or try and go from there, then you could tell him what you like.
Just be open minded and open with him. You never know it maybe something he would like to do to and he just doesnt know how to tell you.
08/08/2011
Contributor: ladyred ladyred
Just tell him
08/09/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
I recently started trying anal on my own, but I would like to get my boyfriend involved. He is not really into trying new things, but I want to try to convince him. How should I tell him? Do I just say it or should I keep to myself since I dont think ... more
i'd tell him, you may realize he wants to try it, but doesn't want to feel weird and say it, or maybe if you guys try it, he may really enjoy it
08/09/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
You might be surprised, he may like it.
08/09/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I would just say that it's something you've been into and you want to try it with him. n_n I think my guy likes stuff that makes me happy, and vice-versa. And it's not anything that weird, in fact it's a common thing to at least try! So asking nicely won't hurt.
08/09/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
As long as you're 100% comfortable with going into anal with him then I would tell him. I can understand being shy or feeling embarrassed, but if you truly want to have anal sex with him I would tell him. You could even start off by joking about having anal sex several times and I'm sure that will peak his interest and he will more than likely ask you if you're wanting to try it. Just make sure you go over all of your boundaries before you too do it. I say that because I've never done anything anal and my partner hasn't either so I would expect a lot of things to be talked about first. Just go easy and slow with it. You may need to give him time to think about it. If he's just absolutly against it then I would back off because I wouldn't want my partner pressuring me into something. And if he just cannot be OK with it then you can experiment with plenty of anal toys. If he decides he'll do it just make sure each of you will stop at any sign of discomfort. Let him know.

I'm a shy person so if it were me, I'd start off by making jokes like "You better watch it or you're going to join me in some booty play." Then I'd probably keep on about it. Lol Also, my partner and I love discussing sex with each other so I would just say how do you feel about anal?
08/16/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Honest communication is the best thing in relationships. You could bring it up casually just to feel out the waters, and then add that you think it might feel good and would want to try it. You never know until you ask!
10/09/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Tell him, its no big deal
10/09/2011
Contributor: Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
I recently started trying anal on my own, but I would like to get my boyfriend involved. He is not really into trying new things, but I want to try to convince him. How should I tell him? Do I just say it or should I keep to myself since I dont think ... more
just tell him, worst that can happen is he won't be into it, which you expect. not much let down there, and besides, you can still do it by yourself. maybe one day he'll come around
12/28/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
surprise him
12/28/2011
Contributor: InnocentISwear InnocentISwear
I would tell him. There's always the possibility that he might not be into it, or he might need some time to warm up to the idea. But it's better to get it out there, especially if it's something you're enjoying.
12/28/2011
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
"You will miss 100% of the shots you don't take" - Anonoymous
I need to have this as my mantra.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
You never know until you try! In my experience, guys are usually more into anal than girls are so you might be surprised.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
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Originally posted by Gigi128
I would just tell him some guys are really into that but think most girls aren't. & you may be into it, and he could not like it. Either way you have nothing to lose.
Exactly dead on the money!
12/28/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
My partner really wasn't into the idea of anal at all when we first started dating. I think his friends had made so many stupid "gay jokes" that he was afraid to try it, as if having anal sex, even if it was with a woman- would somehow make him gay.
Anyway, I just talked to him about it, explained what I liked about it, and told him that if he tried it just once and decided he didn't like it, I wouldn't bring it up again. Well, it turns out he likes it!

Just be straightforward and don't be pushy with it. Explain to him that it brings you pleasure, and you'd like to try it with him. Make sure he knows that he's not obligated to keep doing it if he doesn't like it.
12/29/2011
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
I recently started trying anal on my own, but I would like to get my boyfriend involved. He is not really into trying new things, but I want to try to convince him. How should I tell him? Do I just say it or should I keep to myself since I dont think ... more
It's worth a shot!
12/30/2011
Contributor: John E W John E W
I would say tell him as well. Or bring up the subject a couple times.
I got a friend that has always told me " never pass on a sexual adventure as you cannot get what's already passed.
12/30/2011
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Just tell him...honesty is important.
09/06/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Just tell him.
09/07/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
I recently started trying anal on my own, but I would like to get my boyfriend involved. He is not really into trying new things, but I want to try to convince him. How should I tell him? Do I just say it or should I keep to myself since I dont think ... more
Be upfront and honest. You never know how he may react.
09/09/2012