my boy was scared at first, and most men i've been with are a little intimidated at least... but that's their own stuff to deal with. i personally can't really get off unless i have a vibe on my clit during sex. so we pretty much always use toys during sex. not every time, but most the time, yeah. he's gotten more into it with me, and it's definitely helped our kinky sides come out. we're even looking into having a threesome now! something i never thought i could do a year ago. toys make for great conversation starters. keep at it, and be reassuring and understanding if you can.

My husband knows I call them my best friends. I ask him if he wants to go at it,if not I tell him I will use my toys. That way he always is first pick.