When you or your partner are interested in trying something new (a new toy or a new move) in the bedroom, do you hint at first? Or just go for it?
Hint or Demand?
03/06/2011
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Depends how far off the beaten path it is.
Originally posted by
Kaltir
When you or your partner are interested in trying something new (a new toy or a new move) in the bedroom, do you hint at first? Or just go for it?
03/06/2011
I agree, depends on how far off the beaten path it is. I would never just make a demand though. I would probably try to broach the subject during a conversation to get a feel for how he feels about it, then go from there.
03/06/2011
It does depend on what it is. One might be more up for it than the other so we simply talk about it.
03/06/2011
We always talk about things like this. I would never demand anything of her, just not my style.
03/06/2011
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all depends really
Originally posted by
Kaltir
When you or your partner are interested in trying something new (a new toy or a new move) in the bedroom, do you hint at first? Or just go for it?
03/06/2011
The Husband and I have open and honest communication so we just get right to it, at least on my end. I'm not the type of person who ever really beats around the bush when speaking to anyone though.
03/06/2011
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It depends. I can be shy at times but my partner and I are usually very open, so we just talk about the subject matter and usually decide to try it out anyways.
Originally posted by
Kaltir
When you or your partner are interested in trying something new (a new toy or a new move) in the bedroom, do you hint at first? Or just go for it?
Now if we are playing S&M it's a different story...
03/06/2011
My Mr and I tend to discuss things from assignments to what we do in bed. If we want to try something we say, "Hey, I'd like to _____, what do you think?" And vice versa. There are some things we hint at. For him, more exhibitionist things. For me,
03/06/2011
Usually we discuss and talk about it, he'll ask and I'll respond.
He'd never demand or guilt me though.
He'd never demand or guilt me though.
03/06/2011
Most of the time we'll discuss it.
03/06/2011
WHITEMIKE
I hint in a discussion. I bring it up again, ask her what she thinks. this will go on for a couple of weeks before any decision is made.
I made the mistake of just buying one time, and she went through the roof, like a sex toy was a gateway drug into disturbing fetishes.
I made the mistake of just buying one time, and she went through the roof, like a sex toy was a gateway drug into disturbing fetishes.
03/06/2011
I like to clearly state what it is I'm interested in, so that there can be no confusion or miscommunication. My partner tends to hint more than outright stating what he wants. It gets annoying sometimes. ;P
03/07/2011
It depends on the situation
03/07/2011
Depends, we usually talk about it. The anticipation angle is also so erotic for me.
03/07/2011
We usually talk about it, although sometimes it is hinted at. Its usually better off if we've fully discussed something first.
03/07/2011
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100% ditto
Originally posted by
ToyTimeTim
We always talk about things like this. I would never demand anything of her, just not my style.
03/07/2011
It really depends what it is, but I tend to do a lot of hinting to see what his reaction is to the idea before I actually bring it into discussion.
For him he'll just flat out ask me if I'm interested or not.
For him he'll just flat out ask me if I'm interested or not.
03/09/2011
For toys, it was just "It'd be really hot if we did so and so..." With different positions we just tried them. When my boyfriend and I tried anal for the first time, we talked about that a lot, that was a big step for us. I really think it depends on the person you're with and what exactly you're thinking of trying.
03/09/2011
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Lmao, that last part actually did make me laugh - but only because of the way you put it! Thank you - I needed that;-) Hopefully you two can reach a common ground where you're able to pick things out without two weeks of wondering Just don't start trying to snort the toys and I'm sure you'll get there;-)
Originally posted by
WHITEMIKE
I hint in a discussion. I bring it up again, ask her what she thinks. this will go on for a couple of weeks before any decision is made.
I made the mistake of just buying one time, and she went through the roof, like a sex toy was a gateway ... more
I made the mistake of just buying one time, and she went through the roof, like a sex toy was a gateway ... more
I hint in a discussion. I bring it up again, ask her what she thinks. this will go on for a couple of weeks before any decision is made.
I made the mistake of just buying one time, and she went through the roof, like a sex toy was a gateway drug into disturbing fetishes. less
I made the mistake of just buying one time, and she went through the roof, like a sex toy was a gateway drug into disturbing fetishes. less
03/12/2011
Thank you for the amazing feedback everyone! I suppose I should put my own answer since it was me asking all of you! Lol. We talk about most things, but when it comes to doing something new in the bedroom, not ordering a new toy, we both just tend to go for it. We've come to the agreement that if either of us doesn't like something, we just tell the other that's not working for us, and keep going in another way. It's fun to keep wondering what the other will try next Neither of us would demand anything from the other, but we both enjoy him being in almost total control, and very rough. Amazingly, neither of us has found anything the other doesn't like yet:-D
03/12/2011
I have been nagging my husband for several months to get a new cock ring. He has only tried one cock ring a vibrating one that we did not like. So I found one here on EF I thought that he would like. He finally broke down and agreed to try it. He got it for one of his free toy reviews. He really likes it. He said if something happens to it he would want to get a replacement. So it looks like my nagging paid off which I knew it would in the end. He even agreed that my nagging paid off for once.
03/13/2011
I tell them direct
07/14/2011
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We tend to chat about things before we get to bed. However, we will either do either one depending on the situation and what we have in mind. For instance, sometimes its an idea that we cannot do at that moment.
Originally posted by
Kaltir
When you or your partner are interested in trying something new (a new toy or a new move) in the bedroom, do you hint at first? Or just go for it?
07/14/2011
We're pretty open about things and know what our boundaries are, so we don't mince words if there is something we want to try.
07/14/2011
Every time we have tried something new, we discussed it first. It's just so much easier when we're direct with each other.
07/15/2011
It depends on what it is.
07/15/2011
I come right out and ask if he would be open to trying something new.
07/16/2011
All really depends on the person and what I'm in the mood for.
07/16/2011
I get right to it
07/22/2011
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