How Dirty Is Thirties?

How Dirty Is Thirties?

Shameless Sheep Shameless Sheep
Shameless Sheep
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Do woman's sex drives enhance after 30 or is it just me?... is it the same with men? can it be? I feel like maybe no, didn't happen this way for my significant other. makes me feel bad i want it and he feels bad he doesn't have it in him? Is there something wrong with me? Should i feel guilty i'm horny in general?
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Soundside46 Soundside46
I doesn't work that way for everybody but all but some women experience an increase in sex drive after 30. For guys, no matter how much we want to admit, our peak is late teens early 20's. Our refractory period when young is minutes to almost nonexistent when younger.
Sep 10, 6:01 am
QueenofEverything81 QueenofEverything81
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Originally posted by Shameless Sheep
Do woman's sex drives enhance after 30 or is it just me?... is it the same with men? can it be? I feel like maybe no, didn't happen this way for my significant other. makes me feel bad i want it and he feels bad he doesn't have it in him? ...
GIrl, you are not alone. I will be celebrating the 20th anniversary of my 18th birthday in a couple months and my sex drive is much higher than many men I know. Many women experience an increase in their sex drive in their 30's. Many factors—some biological, some psychological—influenc e whether your sex drive is on full throttle or at a standstill at any age. As Soundside46 mentioned, most guy's recovery time peaks in their 20's, but their stamina tends to increase. Neither one of you should feel ashamed. The most important thing is to communicate your needs honestly with each other. Being able to express your needs and negotiate them with your partner keeps your overall relationship feeling an intimate connection. While the quantity of sex might be less frequent, you can make that up with the quality and depth of your connection....and substitute the in between times with toys!!
Sep 10, 10:26 am
PassionPleasure PassionPleasure
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Originally posted by Shameless Sheep
Do woman's sex drives enhance after 30 or is it just me?... is it the same with men? can it be? I feel like maybe no, didn't happen this way for my significant other. makes me feel bad i want it and he feels bad he doesn't have it in him? ...
Unfortunately this is perfectly normal human biology. I turn thirty this year and my wife will be twenty-nine and her sex drive is through the roof, which used to be the other way around. We have struggled with this ourselves where I am just not in the mood or even where I can't preform, but continuos communication is key. In these situations resentments can form around how you feel about your husband or worse how you feel about your own self image or as you stated, "Is this normal". Being apart of the Eden Community has not only helped our communication, but of course it has increased the size of our toy chest. For me personally there are a lot of times where I know what my partner wants and needs and make sure she gets that pleasure or release even though there is no 'happy ending' for me. As a last thought, I know toys can seem to be for solo use or feel like an inanimate option, but if used right they can be used to create a very intimate connection with you and your partner even when their biology may differ from your own. Good luck, we are all here for you.
Sep 10, 11:48 pm
Leil@ Leil@
Of course, there are exceptions, but to be much hornier after 30 is a pretty common thing for women. On the other side, for men decreasing sex drive with age is common too, and there are a lot of theories and researches which explain this. There is nothing wrong with it, and the more so, there is nothing to feel guilty about. If you have a strong sex drive, you should enjoy it, because it won't last forever.

I believe, that frank and open communication with your partner will facilitate to smooth out the differences in your sex drives. And, as was mentioned, sex toys could be a huge help here
Sep 17, 5:35 am
orgasmicfarmer orgasmicfarmer
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Originally posted by PassionPleasure
Unfortunately this is perfectly normal human biology. I turn thirty this year and my wife will be twenty-nine and her sex drive is through the roof, which used to be the other way around. We have struggled with this ourselves where I am just not in ...
top notch post! Completely agree.

I'd add... try to find a way to rope your partner into your urges/needs. Toys are a great way to get his participation but maybe not his _complete_ participation He'll be glad you did. Dildos seem to be a great start.
Sep 17, 6:52 am
Croc Croc
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Originally posted by Leil@
Of course, there are exceptions, but to be much hornier after 30 is a pretty common thing for women. On the other side, for men decreasing sex drive with age is common too, and there are a lot of theories and researches which explain this. There is ...
"for men decreasing sex drive with age is common too, and there are a lot of theories and researches which explain this"

any of those that you think are plausible?
Sep 18, 2:47 am
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Because we were raising 2 young teenagers when my wife was in her 30s, our sex life wasn't great. But when she hit her 40s - WOW what a dynamo!

We're 15 years past that and things are still great - always trying new things, keeping it light and fun.

As for men, IMO it's less about 'drive' than 'capacity'. Although I have no loss of drive - my ability to achieve erections and maintain them has clearly diminished over the years. Sadly the refractory period (to get a new erection after orgasm) is much longer.

Without a plethora of toys - our sex lives would be far less exciting than it is!
Sep 18, 6:21 pm
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