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In your relationship, who generally wants more sex, or sex more often?

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Contributor: Septimus Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many other couples out there have this problem. Right now I'm just looking at people in heterosexual relationships (meaning a man and a woman, or transmen and transwomen).
Please share your thoughts.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
2  (3%)
11  (16%)
13  (19%)
27  (39%)
17  (24%)
Total votes: 70
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Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
That would be me.
01/04/2013
Contributor: MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
This is often something my guy and I face, I am usually the one feeling frisky more often.
01/04/2013
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
As the female I often want sex more, part though is due to my husband being older and having his sex drive start to decline.
01/04/2013
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I want it more
01/04/2013
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many ... more
I'm a man and I want sex more often than my partner does
01/04/2013
Contributor: spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Me, the man.
01/04/2013
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
I'm a woman and I want sex more often then my husband but his sex drive is steadily climbing higher and higher.

In the early years it was pretty equal - we were both great having sex 4-5 times a week - then he wanted sex more than I did.
01/04/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
My husband wants it more and often.
01/04/2013
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I guess I'm lucky, we both want it all of the time!
01/04/2013
Contributor: ShawnG ShawnG
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many ... more
We're the same
01/04/2013
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I usually want it more.
01/05/2013
Contributor: KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
i think we both want it all the time
01/05/2013
Contributor: TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many ... more
It tends to run the same for us both.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
About The Same.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
We're about the same. It depends on who's depressed when.
01/05/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many ... more
It varies from time to time, but we're about the same in when we desire sex or who desires it more often. He might desire it slightly more than me on some days like when I am tired because being tired affects that for me, but doesn't much affect how much he desires sex, but basically, we're both very very close in the department of who wants it more or more often.
01/05/2013
Contributor: chicagobearsfan chicagobearsfan
I'm a female and I have a much higher sex drive than my partner. He likes to joke that he measures the time in between when we have sex in days and I do in minutes.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many ... more
I want sex more often than my husband. I've even had to give him some stern talkings to about putting out more lol
01/05/2013
Contributor: brian691986 brian691986
i do
01/06/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I'm a woman and I want sex more often.
01/06/2013
Contributor: hmb12 hmb12
I'd say we both want it about the same but not always at the same time. I don't think either of us actually turn down sex though.
01/06/2013
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I'm male and I want sex more.
01/07/2013
Contributor: UsArmyGuy UsArmyGuy
more sex deffinetly
01/07/2013
Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
I'm a female and I want it more often then my hubby. in the beginning it was equal then he wanted it more then I wanted more. It's been 10 years so far
01/07/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I always want sex, but somehow he always wants it more.
01/07/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Being 8 years younger I'm a bit more energetic in this area.
01/07/2013
Contributor: AwesomeAmanda AwesomeAmanda
Me! I want sex way more LOL!
01/07/2013
Contributor: ToyBunny ToyBunny
Definitely me.
01/20/2013
Contributor: souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I'm trying to put together some information on desire discrepancies.
For example, in my relationship my fiance often is "in the mood" for sex when I'm not, and it's an issue that we struggle with.
I was wondering how many ... more
We trade off on that.
01/20/2013