i'm staying at my parents during a very tough time in me and my families life- my dad has only a couple of weeks to live. They have a 3 story house and they sleep on the third floor while I'm by myself the basement. the thing is i find that orgasms are a fantastic way to relieve stress- this is a scientific fact, and i need the strength they give me for all of the crying and sadness i do all day. i escape to eden to stay strong throughout. its getting harder to9 achieve satisfaction as his death draws closer and I'm starting to doubt whether its appropriate or not. is there something wrong with me that i want to focus on my own personal physical pleasure while my whole family is falling apart? any suggestions?
Inappropriate time / place to masturbate?
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If it makes you feel better and relieves stress I don't find it inappropriate. People cope in different ways, if you feel better you can help them more too. I'm sorry you're going through all of that *hugs* Best of luck with everything.
06/07/2012
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If there's no chance of them hearing you or you being disrespectful (like masturbating on their bed lol) then I truly don't see a problem with it... at all. Relieve away! However, I understand feeling kind of guilty when problems are happening around you. Still, you shouldn't have to feel bad for something just because things aren't so happy. It'd probably actually be a good thing if masturbation truly relieves so much stress for you. It's awful that there's so much sadness going on, but if it helps, why not? No, I do not think nything is wrong with you. Now if you were feeling horny constantly--an abnormal amount--maybe then something might need dealing with or if it was so bad that you needed to relieve yourself frequently during family time. Other than that, there's nothing you should feel bad about.
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Sangsara
i'm staying at my parents during a very tough time in me and my families life- my dad has only a couple of weeks to live. They have a 3 story house and they sleep on the third floor while I'm by myself the basement. the thing is i find that
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i'm staying at my parents during a very tough time in me and my families life- my dad has only a couple of weeks to live. They have a 3 story house and they sleep on the third floor while I'm by myself the basement. the thing is i find that orgasms are a fantastic way to relieve stress- this is a scientific fact, and i need the strength they give me for all of the crying and sadness i do all day. i escape to eden to stay strong throughout. its getting harder to9 achieve satisfaction as his death draws closer and I'm starting to doubt whether its appropriate or not. is there something wrong with me that i want to focus on my own personal physical pleasure while my whole family is falling apart? any suggestions?
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You'll be in my thoughts. I wish you the best and hope you're able to find some things that take your mind off the sadness. If sex/masturbation is helping, I don't see anything wrong. It'd be like not smiling or laughing because you felt guilty doing so at a sad time. IT'S OKAY TO!
06/07/2012
I agree, there's no reason to feel guilty about relieving stress during a stressful time.
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through such a difficult time. It is wonderful your family comes together and you have each other.
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through such a difficult time. It is wonderful your family comes together and you have each other.
06/07/2012
I know where you are coming from--I have also been using sex as an escape from the pain of daily stress and family issues. It is no different than taking a walk, reading a book, etc. as long as you are discreet-which I am sure you are. Do not feel guilty, everyone needs an escape from the pain of reality sometimes. Especially in our situation. Your father's passing is emotional, stressful and highly painful--it is also prevalent and permanent. Use whatever method you need to get a mental distance and perspective for yourself. My husband made our bedroom a 'worry-free' zone. My father's terminal illness, daughter's divorce, etc. are not allowed in there. If I need to worry and stress, I have to get up and go in the living room. Sounds harsh, it was at first, but it is an amazingly creative way of giving me an escape from reality. We do use sex as a buffer and an escape. I was always on here when things got too bad to deal with, it sure helps!!
Lots of hugs and all my sympathy, I am thinking of you!!!!
Lots of hugs and all my sympathy, I am thinking of you!!!!
06/07/2012
Don't worry about it. I'd do it.
06/07/2012
Even though it may sound contradictory or selfish, "me-time" is crucial to anyone who cares for someone ill or dying. Care-giving is physically and emotionally draining. You need to take time out for yourself to recharge, that way you'll have energy to give when your support is needed. Enjoy whatever makes you happiest, be it a movie or masturbation. There's no shame in enjoying life, the only shame is in wasting it.
Hugs to you.
Hugs to you.
06/07/2012
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My deepest sympathies. Prayers and positive thoughts for you and yours.
Originally posted by
Sangsara
i'm staying at my parents during a very tough time in me and my families life- my dad has only a couple of weeks to live. They have a 3 story house and they sleep on the third floor while I'm by myself the basement. the thing is i find that
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i'm staying at my parents during a very tough time in me and my families life- my dad has only a couple of weeks to live. They have a 3 story house and they sleep on the third floor while I'm by myself the basement. the thing is i find that orgasms are a fantastic way to relieve stress- this is a scientific fact, and i need the strength they give me for all of the crying and sadness i do all day. i escape to eden to stay strong throughout. its getting harder to9 achieve satisfaction as his death draws closer and I'm starting to doubt whether its appropriate or not. is there something wrong with me that i want to focus on my own personal physical pleasure while my whole family is falling apart? any suggestions?
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Honestly, we cope in different ways. Don't force yourself to masturbate--I'd hate for you to be trying to deny dealing with the pain by trying to evaporate it with masturbation. You may need to just be in the moment, no matter how sad it is. But, I'm not a therapist.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you or with wanting to escape the situation, just don't pressure yourself to do something or not.
"me time" is super crucial, especially now when dealing with stressful situations.
06/08/2012
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Very true. In fact, maybe romance yourself a bit too. Really take time out for yourself. Warm bath, candles, or whatever gets you in the mood. That might help, too. Remember to love yourself!! Physically, spiritually, mentally.
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Petite Valentine
Even though it may sound contradictory or selfish, "me-time" is crucial to anyone who cares for someone ill or dying. Care-giving is physically and emotionally draining. You need to take time out for yourself to recharge, that way
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Even though it may sound contradictory or selfish, "me-time" is crucial to anyone who cares for someone ill or dying. Care-giving is physically and emotionally draining. You need to take time out for yourself to recharge, that way you'll have energy to give when your support is needed. Enjoy whatever makes you happiest, be it a movie or masturbation. There's no shame in enjoying life, the only shame is in wasting it.
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Hugs to you. less
06/08/2012
thankyou to everyone who took the time out to offer kind words and support during me and my families time of need. death is one of the most if not the most intense things we experience as humans. eden has been turning out to be the community I always needed- giving me support in a way most of my other friends haven't been able to. thankyou again- i'm here for the long haul
sang
sang
06/08/2012
If it helps you, go for it.
06/08/2012
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