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Facing or Away?
Whether you are are male or female, your partner is male or female, and you are on the receiving or giving end of any kind of penetrative anal sex...

The lube tube
I would love to see eden add this product to their inventory. For those of you into anal sex, this is a must have. The lube tube is syringe shaped...

Anal, Good or Bad?
What do people really think about Anal Sex? Please leave your thoughts.

anal and toys
what is a good sex toy to use while you are having anal sex?

Douching.. venturing into unknown territory
My partner and I are looking to get into anal sex without condoms. That said, I want to aim for being as clean as I can be. So, I've decided to...

Most porn actors I would imagine use enemas beforehand - you can so this at home with a simple kit and a little patience, EdenFantasys sells some enema kits if you'd like it to be sent discreetly to your door. It's also a good idea to avoid foods that you know give you tummy issues for the day leading up to the anal sex - this lessens the chance of "stuff" that's hard to clean. The rectum can't be sterilized, so there will always be remenants, but you can reduce the visible parts by enemas, using the bathroom beforehand, and changing your diet a little bit the day of. And condoms on the strapon will make for easy cleanup! Also remember to use lots of lubricant and go sloooow.

99% of porn actors doing anal do in fact do enemas before hand. You can either use an "official" enema, or you can follow the advice of Nina Hartley, sex goddess. She suggests you get a rubber bulb syringe thing (like for baby's noses/ears) at the drug store, and fill it with warm water. Sit on the toilet, and inset the tip into you. Squeeze it, so it flushes out your anus. Do it once or twice. Voila!

Don't use scented enemas or douches EVER; not good for your body. Also, if you do choose to go with enemas, don't use them too often, as they can mess with the natural flora of your body (which is why douches aren't good for you in general).

Good luck!

I also believe they use enemas before hand. This does bring up another question for me though. I thought men could get urinary tract infections from anal sex because of the bacteria and the fecal material. Is it safe without a condom?

Thank you so much for clearing that up Cock Wrangler! The info is greatly appreciated!

Also, you have to understand, that in porn, one shot may take a day or 2 to complete! There are breaks, where the actors can clean up. The one thing that I DON'T like about anal sex shots in adult DVDs is the totally unsanitary ass-to-pussy shots. NEVER EVER EVER go from the anus to the vagina without cleaning up. It is not safe or healthy for a woman at all!

I am really getting into anal play and I absolutely love dildos. I am wondering just how big is too big?!

If it hurts or makes you bleed, than it is probably too big. You can train the sphincter to allow larger toys, but for most it is definitely something you work up to. So your question of "just how big is too big" depends on the individual and their current experience level. There are people (not me) that work up to being anally fisted which can represent a very large entry. My advice would be to start with smaller toys and work your way up covering each with a condom to make cleanup easier until you find a size you want to work toward or you get the full feeling you desire.

so, as I have observed in many adult films, there is the possibility of extensive anal "gaping" - is this at all permanent or dangerous?

Not any more then a gaping vagina after some hard and heavy pounding.
Suggest you research the anal queen, Tristan Taormino and her web site puckerup.com. She has some excellent info and how to vids and materials.
My ass may be senitive for a short time only.

I just can't do anal...my hubby kinda wants to but what I see on those vids scares the crap outta me. I mean I don't want to be 50 and left with a gaping asshole...I just don't think it's for me, plus IF we ever did anal and stuff was left on his penis I would be grossed out on the topic of sex for quite awhile...I don't know that's just me I guess.

Porn isn't real - you need to go slow and work up to penile-anal sex slowly, starting with fingers and possibly toys. If I'm using a longer toy, I do like to use an enema/anal douche beforehand to keep things clean, but whether you do or don't take an enema/anal douche (don't use a chemical enema, and don't use more than about 8oz water if you do) a condom is a very good idea to keep things clean and prevent UTIs. I'd also recommend a towel on the bed to soak up the lube (use alot).

Don't go into it with the thought "I need to take his penis" - start with something small and if you like it move up.

We've been using anal toys for quite a while, but not a lot of anal sex, although we are starting to do that more often. We always start out with toys, and gradually increase the size, to make it more comfortable. We've never tried douching, and so far it hasn't been an issue.

Is it possible to have anal with a condom and not have it slip off. I would assume the butt is tighter than a vagina. And now that I know why there is never any crap on the guys wiener I have to ask what else do they edit out. Do they edit out a condom slipping off too, is this even an issue? Like would the roll on part get caught in the butt cheeks and just roll right off? how about in a vagina if you go all the way in?

P.S. I never used a condom so I dunno anything about them.. I never read any books about this particular part of condom use either. My guess it doesn't happen often but I have to ask BC I just don't know. Better safe than sorry is my motto when it comes to this subject!

If the condom does come off inside it should make its way out on its own, so I wouldn't worry about that. A properly sized and put on condom should stay on during anal just fine, though. You might want to practice a bit with condoms first if you've never used one.

Reasons to use condoms for anal: They keep the penis clean so you don't have to worry about scrubbing before doing anything such as cuddling that could bring the penis in contact with the vulva.
They help to cut down on UTIs for the man.
They keep semen out of the rectum, where it can possibly leak out at an unpleasant time or cause other issues.

I've found that a shower beforehand and making sure I've had a bowel movement prior to any anal play is just fine. Enemas are kind of overkill and they really aren't safe to do often since they also cause an imbalance in the "good" intestinal microflora that helps keep your immune system in check. The only type of "cleaning out" one really needs to do is if they're self conscious to the max about poop or if they're doing a bowel prep prior to a colonoscopy.

Condoms for anal are really a personal preference. Some people use them, some don't. Semen seems to have a laxative effect in some people when a partner ejaculates into the rectum so some people use condoms for that reason alone.

Me and my Boyfriend have done anal and nothing yucky ever came out onto the condom or him and we never used anything nor has anything ever come off onto a strap on with him either. we have only done anal for me a few times simply becuase he is slightly larger then average. i absolutly LOVE anal play and i love when he uses his fingers and toys in there so i secretly started practicing useing bigger toys on myself when he wasnt around becuase i really wanted to have anal. and it took me a few weeks but i was able to fit a toy about his size in me and it was amazing so the next night i suprised him with it we went slow of coarse but i orgasmd right away. if i dont practice before doing it it will still hurt a little bit in the beging but other wise it still feels great. and sometimes i dont feel like it sometimes i crave it it all depends.

Also for me i cannot use a waterbased or even silicone based lube for anal it has to be oil or oil gel(but you cannot use this in your vagina!

i always clean myself before anal. and make sure i dont have to poop. dont want this to happen to me.

A good diet helps, as does knowing your body and when your intestines tend to kick into action.