Positions / Types of Orgasms / How to talk to Partner - HELP!

Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
First of all, this is not so much for me as it is for about 3 people who have contacted me since I wrote my post about being a "prude no more". I've been asked questions about "how do I find out what she wants?" and "how do I talk to her about this?" and stuff like that.

My basic comment has been to find out how she orgasms (manipulation of clitoris or thrusting / hitting G-spot) and then try to find toys that fit that type of stimulation.

My impression from various things I've seen in the forums seems to be that generally - if a woman enjoys thrusting more - she might prefer a dildo vs. a woman who needs clitoral stimulation needing a vibrator. However, that doesn't mean a woman can't enjoy both.

But I'm only one woman and I don't really know much about positions, etc. So I'm hoping that other women and men will help me out here.

The questions are...

What types of positions do you use the most to get an orgasm (for her)?

What types of orgasms does she get more - clitoral or g-spot? (or other)

What type of toy does she enjoy?

and...

if you didn't discuss this before and then had some sort of a "sexual revolution" in your relationship - how did you start the discussions and how did you get her interested?

Thanks so much (in advance) for sharing.
10/13/2011
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Contributor: ss143 ss143
What types of positions do you use the most to get an orgasm (for her)?

He can typically make me orgasm in any position but we usually go for missionary or on all fours.

What types of orgasms does she get more - clitoral or g-spot? (or other)

I get both quite often

What type of toy does she enjoy?
I prefer a dildo vibrators tend not to do much for me

and...

if you didn't discuss this before and then had some sort of a "sexual revolution" in your relationship - how did you start the discussions and how did you get her interested?

I can't really answer this one I am an open person and someone who will easily tell him what I like/ want more of or don't like. My best advice would just to be straight forward and ask what is it that the person likes or what feels the best and if they don't know then have a fun time trying different things.


I know I am probably not much help I am sorry
10/13/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Quote:
Originally posted by ss143
What types of positions do you use the most to get an orgasm (for her)?

He can typically make me orgasm in any position but we usually go for missionary or on all fours.

What types of orgasms does she get more - clitoral or g-spot? (or ... more
Thanks - it is a help. I'm so new to talking about sex and some folks have contacted me about "how did you stop being a prude" and I'm like "oh boy...this is outta my league of experience".

So hearing from others helps!
10/13/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Quote:
Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
First of all, this is not so much for me as it is for about 3 people who have contacted me since I wrote my post about being a "prude no more". I've been asked questions about "how do I find out what she wants?" and "how ... more
I know all women are different in what works for them. For me, missionary works for a g-spot orgasm. Any position works for clitoral as long as the clitoris is being stimulated. I found that using the EOS dildo prior to Intercourse during foreplay makes my spot more sensitive and easier to orgasm.
10/13/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
What types of positions do you use the most to get an orgasm (for her)?

Missionary, from behind on my knees, or from behind with me laying on my tummy.

What types of orgasms does she get more - clitoral or g-spot? (or other)

The only position I can get a G spot orgasm from is me laying on my tummy. Even then it's hit or miss. When it happens, it's great. I get clitoral orgasms frequently but I need a lot of power to get them. At least four vrooms but I prefer five to make them more intense.

What type of toy does she enjoy?

I like my clit vibrators, traditional, and some rabbit style but they have to fit my anatomy just right.

if you didn't discuss this before and then had some sort of a "sexual revolution" in your relationship - how did you start the discussions and how did you get her interested?

My husband and I were best friends long before we started dating. I'm very open sexually and so is he so we knew what the other liked back before we started dating to some extent. When we got together we just tested the theories. While we know all the main things, we still always learn something new because we're always experimenting with new things we could try to new toys. Even if it's just a new vibrator that works well, it adds something to our sexual relationship.

I think the key is keeping communication lines open. Not being afraid to say what you do or don't like or what you would like to try. If I never told my husband something didn't feel good, I'd be having a lot of mediocre sex. We went through a dry spell after having our son and for a while my husband wouldn't say anything. Finally we had a talk and I said that he just needed to come to me if he was unsatisfied with what was happening. Simple as that. If you're not happy or want something more, talk it out. It may not always mean you get exactly what you want, but there may be a compromise that leaves both people sexually better off because you had the conversation.
10/13/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
With regard to what positions, I know a lot of women who prefer to be on top because it lets them have complete control over what they feel. It could always be a first try, and the guy could take notes over what the girl seems to like in terms of speed, depth, direction, though that sort of thing can definitely get over analyzed.

Mostly, though, I'd suggest for the dude to just ask. He doesn't have to be super specific or provide options, or sit her down to have a heart to heart about it. He can always just start out with "what do you want".

With the subject of how to get her interested, i'd think it's mostly about being open and going slow. However, I'd suggest caution. I know way too many girls who simply are. not. interested. in anything but a few specific positions and *styles* of sex (ie, soft and sweet). You might be able to bring out something else in some of these girls, but truth is, some people are just vanilla to the bone like that.

I'd also like to press the importance of describing everything in terms of wanting to maximize her pleasure... except in the case of anal, because most girls see right through that one, boys! Thing is, you have to make her comfortable with really thinking, in detail, about what really feels good to her. Even from a psychological standpoint. She might find the thought of certain positions or types of toys sexier than others.
10/13/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
"What types of positions do you use the most to get an orgasm (for her)?"

I orgasm easiest in upright positions, like if I'm sitting on his lap facing him or if he's holding me up with my back against the wall. Our second most successful positions are spooning and doggie style.

"What types of orgasms does she get more - clitoral or g-spot? (or other)"

Clitoral. G-spot ones are harder to come by (no pun intended!)

"What type of toy does she enjoy?"

Everything except rabbit vibrators. I like clit vibes best though, especially if they are small enough for us to use during sex.

"if you didn't discuss this before and then had some sort of a "sexual revolution" in your relationship - how did you start the discussions and how did you get her interested?"

It was the other way around at our house. We'd been married for several years and I just got up the nerve one day to tell him I wouldn't mind trying some new things in the bedroom. As it turned out, he had been thinking the same thing but wasn't sure how to ask me.
10/14/2011
Contributor: ddd masturbator(bye all!) ddd masturbator(bye all!)
Well, my experience isn't very vast... but here's what I've got...

What types of positions do you use the most to get an orgasm (for her)?

---my ex and I didn't have intercourse... in solo play, I find it is easiest if I'm on my back, but I do find riding things to be stimulating, too

What types of orgasms does she get more - clitoral or g-spot? (or other)

--clitoral... g-spot is VERY hard for me to do on my own... no man at this point to help me

What type of toy does she enjoy?

--I enjoy anything that I can use internally... my dildo and rabbit vibe are my favorites... the dildo for when I want to ride or just want to feel filled up... my rabbit vibe for when I want my hands free for playing with my breasts or other things

and...

if you didn't discuss this before and then had some sort of a "sexual revolution" in your relationship - how did you start the discussions and how did you get her interested?

---my ex and I had a lot of cyber/phone sex before we actually got to meet in person ... so I think he knew what turned me on... I would encourage him by moving his hands where I wanted them or just taking the lead...

I hope this helps...
10/18/2011