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Do you wish your partner would tie you up, or use other bondage methods on you? Maybe double penetration, or thoughts of having a large toys used on you is an unshared desire you have. So, will you ever communicate these desires? Will you try and set
Do you wish your partner would tie you up, or use other bondage methods on you? Maybe double penetration, or thoughts of having a large toys used on you is an unshared desire you have. So, will you ever communicate these desires? Will you try and set the right mood or moment when you hope to share these desires? Or, are these secret desires best left as unfulfilled dreams?
Hmmm... I don't know about secrets. The entire time we've been together -- 7 years almost -- I havent' ever kept my sexual desires a secret. I love sharing them with him, especially since it excites him to hear about them & then work up a plan to make it happen, which he has always done. He knows I like some bondage and stuff. So no big deal here.
However, if I was in a relationship where I didn't really, really know the person yet or feel fully comfortable with them (which isn't likely for me. I'm surprised I was even able to finally get comfortable with my partner) then I wouldn't share them until I was beyond certain about everything.
In the long run, I'm glad I've shared all my desires with my love because, well, it's so much fun! And because it sure seems like it might would be boring if neither of us had ever shared what things we liked. We really wouldn't know what to do to please each other then. It's way better when you communicate these things. No need to hide them as long as you fully trust and are comfortable with each other. It's nothing to feel ashamed of either, so it wasn't too hard for me to tell my partner. When I did get to the point where I could be comfortable around him (in everyway, not just sexually) I wasn't nervous to share them. It wouldn't be near as fun to just leave it all in your head. It could make sex an even better experience for both, including a bonding experience! Hooray for experiences that including bonding.