My partner and I have been discussing including someone else into our bedroom.. Have you ever had a threesome and what was your experience
Have you had a threesome?
09/29/2012
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I've been curious, but i know I'd get too jealous and insecure. I've heard they're fun, but I think I'd only consider one if I wasn't in a relationship with anyone involved.
09/29/2012
Its not really for us but I would believe strong communication is key, but again never had any experience nor do I plan to in the future.
09/29/2012
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Thanks for for your input. It isn't another woman he is wanting me to have sex with it is a man. He isn't a jealous or insecure person so I don't think it will be an issue but I'm still concerned on how it is going to affect our relationship
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G&L
Its not really for us but I would believe strong communication is key, but again never had any experience nor do I plan to in the future.
09/29/2012
Cat E.
Good luck if you go through with it!
09/30/2012
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Thanks I've known so many people who are swingers and have great relationship but then there are a few that ended badly. He has already told me that it is ok if we don't but the seed was planted in my head. So I'm going to express my concerns with him and see what happens. Have a wonderful day..
Originally posted by
Cat E.
Good luck if you go through with it!
09/30/2012
Good luck with this. I personally have NO interest in any type of threesome when I am with someone I am with them and them alone. Even when I am single I stay with one partner. To each their own just know the boundaries and try to find out how it will effect you before following through with it. Communication is the key, remember if you don't want to do it all you have to do is say no.
09/30/2012
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Thanks for the advice and I really appreciate the help. I do have a lot to think about.
Originally posted by
*Camoprincess*
Good luck with this. I personally have NO interest in any type of threesome when I am with someone I am with them and them alone. Even when I am single I stay with one partner. To each their own just know the boundaries and try to find out how it
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Good luck with this. I personally have NO interest in any type of threesome when I am with someone I am with them and them alone. Even when I am single I stay with one partner. To each their own just know the boundaries and try to find out how it will effect you before following through with it. Communication is the key, remember if you don't want to do it all you have to do is say no.
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09/30/2012
I have some social anxiety and in the long run, it was bad for threesomes. Even if they went well at first.
Don't just consider sex, consider what you want out of interacting with other people.
Don't just consider sex, consider what you want out of interacting with other people.
09/30/2012
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I've had several different threesomes.
Originally posted by
satinlady550
My partner and I have been discussing including someone else into our bedroom.. Have you ever had a threesome and what was your experience
09/30/2012
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Thanks for providing me with your personal experience. I was on the fence about it and now i really think it isn't going to happen. I was worried it would ruin what we have and i didnt want to take a chance on destroying a good thing, for a few hours of pleasure
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Roz W
I have some social anxiety and in the long run, it was bad for threesomes. Even if they went well at first.
Don't just consider sex, consider what you want out of interacting with other people.
Don't just consider sex, consider what you want out of interacting with other people.
09/30/2012
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I've been in 4 threesomes and all four times it left something to be desired. Someone always got a little left out. In my experience it's better on paper than in real life.
Originally posted by
satinlady550
My partner and I have been discussing including someone else into our bedroom.. Have you ever had a threesome and what was your experience
09/30/2012
We had one once, and he has had several in past relationships. He enjoys them, but the one we had together really ended up hurting me emotionally and it took me quite awhile to get over. I doubt I will ever try it again
09/30/2012
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Taylor, thanks for sharing your experience with me. I'm going to speak to him about it and take it from there. At this point, I really don't see me going through with it. There are so many things I need to consider before I take this idea any further. You all have been a great help and I greatly appreciate it..
Originally posted by
Taylor
We had one once, and he has had several in past relationships. He enjoys them, but the one we had together really ended up hurting me emotionally and it took me quite awhile to get over. I doubt I will ever try it again
10/01/2012
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Neotigress,Thanks so much for sharing your personal experiences with me. Have a great day!
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Neotigress
I've been in 4 threesomes and all four times it left something to be desired. Someone always got a little left out. In my experience it's better on paper than in real life.
10/01/2012
We've discussed it many times, but I don't think it's going to happen. And I'm okay with that, though when I was younger I probably wouldn't have been.
10/01/2012
threesomes, foursomes, and fivesomes.
They are only awesome if everyone involved consents and is also awesome. It can be hard to feel things out, so don't set up a situation with high expectations and then be let down if things don't happen or don't go according to plan.
Discuss things with your partner. What are you okay with happening? and what are you not okay with happening?
if there is more than 3 of us, I don't like it if my wife and I get split up and it's more like swapsies.
I enjoy group sex where everyone focuses on one person at a time. imagine 4 or 6 or even 8 hands touching you and doing things to you?
They are only awesome if everyone involved consents and is also awesome. It can be hard to feel things out, so don't set up a situation with high expectations and then be let down if things don't happen or don't go according to plan.
Discuss things with your partner. What are you okay with happening? and what are you not okay with happening?
if there is more than 3 of us, I don't like it if my wife and I get split up and it's more like swapsies.
I enjoy group sex where everyone focuses on one person at a time. imagine 4 or 6 or even 8 hands touching you and doing things to you?
10/01/2012
Figured I'd put my input since it doesn't seem like many super positive experiences. My partner and I have 3somes as much as we can. I was in a few MFM before him, but once I was was with him we had talked about it a few times, and our first experience together included one of his friends. So it was comfortable for him and for me. Obviously since then we have fully embraced it and look forward to when we can. The important thing is to be with people that both of you are going to be comfortable with and make sure that is something you know before going into it. And be safe!
10/16/2012
Yes, but they were with friends so there was no relationship barrier or concern for jealousy or trust afterward. It was a perfect experience without any resonating guilt or concerns.
10/16/2012
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Thanks this information was very helpful
Originally posted by
smlove
threesomes, foursomes, and fivesomes.
They are only awesome if everyone involved consents and is also awesome. It can be hard to feel things out, so don't set up a situation with high expectations and then be let down if things don't ... more
They are only awesome if everyone involved consents and is also awesome. It can be hard to feel things out, so don't set up a situation with high expectations and then be let down if things don't ... more
threesomes, foursomes, and fivesomes.
They are only awesome if everyone involved consents and is also awesome. It can be hard to feel things out, so don't set up a situation with high expectations and then be let down if things don't happen or don't go according to plan.
Discuss things with your partner. What are you okay with happening? and what are you not okay with happening?
if there is more than 3 of us, I don't like it if my wife and I get split up and it's more like swapsies.
I enjoy group sex where everyone focuses on one person at a time. imagine 4 or 6 or even 8 hands touching you and doing things to you? less
They are only awesome if everyone involved consents and is also awesome. It can be hard to feel things out, so don't set up a situation with high expectations and then be let down if things don't happen or don't go according to plan.
Discuss things with your partner. What are you okay with happening? and what are you not okay with happening?
if there is more than 3 of us, I don't like it if my wife and I get split up and it's more like swapsies.
I enjoy group sex where everyone focuses on one person at a time. imagine 4 or 6 or even 8 hands touching you and doing things to you? less
10/19/2012
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Little A thanks for the positive feedback.. I really want to try it but I was really unsure of what the outcome would be. I didn't want our relationship to change because of it.
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LittleA
Figured I'd put my input since it doesn't seem like many super positive experiences. My partner and I have 3somes as much as we can. I was in a few MFM before him, but once I was was with him we had talked about it a few times, and our
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Figured I'd put my input since it doesn't seem like many super positive experiences. My partner and I have 3somes as much as we can. I was in a few MFM before him, but once I was was with him we had talked about it a few times, and our first experience together included one of his friends. So it was comfortable for him and for me. Obviously since then we have fully embraced it and look forward to when we can. The important thing is to be with people that both of you are going to be comfortable with and make sure that is something you know before going into it. And be safe!
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10/19/2012
I've had a threesome with a female and male.
10/20/2012
I've had one, I wasn't a huge fan, I like paying attention to only one person.
10/20/2012
I've been involved in a few. Both as part of a couple and as the third wheel. Personally I do not recommend it unless you are not romantically involved with either of your playmates.
10/24/2012
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Thanks I don't think it is going to happen. He had brought it up and I was on the fence about the idea. I've had a threesome in the past but it was with my gf and she ended up marrying my bf so I really was reluctant to do it again. I really love the man I'm with and I don't want to loose what we have.
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ColdPaw
I've been involved in a few. Both as part of a couple and as the third wheel. Personally I do not recommend it unless you are not romantically involved with either of your playmates.
11/07/2012
We tried it once and it did not go well
11/07/2012
Never had one.
11/15/2012
My wife and I have both fantasized about this. She is turned on by the idea of a threesome with another woman and I love fantasizing about MMF...but we decided to keep it strictly between us. We do occasionally do some role play along these lines, which is fun!
I had a friend who lost his girlfriend after a threesome. Too much jealousy. I'd also be concerned about disease. But it IS a compelling fantasy.
I had a friend who lost his girlfriend after a threesome. Too much jealousy. I'd also be concerned about disease. But it IS a compelling fantasy.
11/16/2012
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I think in a threesome it's ideal to have someone that both you and your partner are attracted to and who is attracted to both of you or will at least include both you and your partner. If things get lopsided and someone feels left out, that can be a mood killer. I strongly encourage talking to the third person and your partner beforehand- not only about sexual safety and what you want to do together, but also communication (how will people communicate what they need during sex? What if they feel turned off? What if someone feels left out? Do you feel comfortable saying you'd like to change whatever you're doing?) and inclusion (for example, maybe someone would enjoy hanging back for a bit and watching two of the people together, for others that's a big 'no'. Good to clarify). It's also good to talk about the relationship- might this be on ongoing thing? Are you looking for a three-way relationship? Is this a one-time deal? Also any sexual rules or special interests (such as no kissing, or only pussy, or yes to spanking or "I really want to try blowing someone while someone else fucks me"). These are just a few of the things that I've found helpful in my experience. I've had great threesomes, as well as awkward ones. I think the key is comfort with everyone, great communication, everyone being able to assess and express their emotions, and making sure everyone is in a good place in their own minds and bodies as well as in their relationship(s). Personally, my favorite number of people is 5
Originally posted by
satinlady550
My partner and I have been discussing including someone else into our bedroom.. Have you ever had a threesome and what was your experience
11/18/2012
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Thanks so much!
Originally posted by
jdFtM
I think in a threesome it's ideal to have someone that both you and your partner are attracted to and who is attracted to both of you or will at least include both you and your partner. If things get lopsided and someone feels left out, that can
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I think in a threesome it's ideal to have someone that both you and your partner are attracted to and who is attracted to both of you or will at least include both you and your partner. If things get lopsided and someone feels left out, that can be a mood killer. I strongly encourage talking to the third person and your partner beforehand- not only about sexual safety and what you want to do together, but also communication (how will people communicate what they need during sex? What if they feel turned off? What if someone feels left out? Do you feel comfortable saying you'd like to change whatever you're doing?) and inclusion (for example, maybe someone would enjoy hanging back for a bit and watching two of the people together, for others that's a big 'no'. Good to clarify). It's also good to talk about the relationship- might this be on ongoing thing? Are you looking for a three-way relationship? Is this a one-time deal? Also any sexual rules or special interests (such as no kissing, or only pussy, or yes to spanking or "I really want to try blowing someone while someone else fucks me"). These are just a few of the things that I've found helpful in my experience. I've had great threesomes, as well as awkward ones. I think the key is comfort with everyone, great communication, everyone being able to assess and express their emotions, and making sure everyone is in a good place in their own minds and bodies as well as in their relationship(s). Personally, my favorite number of people is 5
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