so my bf smokes weed and when hes high he sucks in bed, ive tryed telling him nicely but he just gets all mad and smokes anyways. what should i do i dont like when hes high. he gets hella dumb.
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10/04/2011
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My bf prefers not to smoke before sex, actually.
Originally posted by
LilLostLenore
so my bf smokes weed and when hes high he sucks in bed, ive tryed telling him nicely but he just gets all mad and smokes anyways. what should i do i dont like when hes high. he gets hella dumb.
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the right to make that assertion, but he doesn't have to agree. I wouldn't make any statements forcing him to choose between the two of you - that's not a fair game to play. But maybe voice your concerns in an environment that is neutral? If possible, wait until he's not smoking. Maybe you have a list of concerns. You could start off saying something like, "I know that smoking weed is something you enjoy. It's not something that I enjoy, though, and I would like to talk to you about the possibility of ..." Perhaps you just want to limit his smoking to when you're not around? or maybe you want him to stop altogether.
It certainly makes a job search more difficult.
Good luck on finding some common ground on this issue.
10/04/2011
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I agree on that.
Originally posted by
Lucky Luna
My bf prefers not to smoke before sex, actually.
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the ... more
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the ... more
My bf prefers not to smoke before sex, actually.
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the right to make that assertion, but he doesn't have to agree. I wouldn't make any statements forcing him to choose between the two of you - that's not a fair game to play. But maybe voice your concerns in an environment that is neutral? If possible, wait until he's not smoking. Maybe you have a list of concerns. You could start off saying something like, "I know that smoking weed is something you enjoy. It's not something that I enjoy, though, and I would like to talk to you about the possibility of ..." Perhaps you just want to limit his smoking to when you're not around? or maybe you want him to stop altogether.
It certainly makes a job search more difficult.
Good luck on finding some common ground on this issue. less
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the right to make that assertion, but he doesn't have to agree. I wouldn't make any statements forcing him to choose between the two of you - that's not a fair game to play. But maybe voice your concerns in an environment that is neutral? If possible, wait until he's not smoking. Maybe you have a list of concerns. You could start off saying something like, "I know that smoking weed is something you enjoy. It's not something that I enjoy, though, and I would like to talk to you about the possibility of ..." Perhaps you just want to limit his smoking to when you're not around? or maybe you want him to stop altogether.
It certainly makes a job search more difficult.
Good luck on finding some common ground on this issue. less
I also would advise that when talking to him about it use phrases like "I feel" as opposed to accusations. Such as "I feel like when you smoke before we have sex it isn't as enjoyable for me" instead of something like "when you smoke before sex it isn't enjoyable for me" because accusatory sentencing leads to arguing more than if he realizes you are sharing your feelings. Unless he's a total dick. In which case, I'd have a better suggestion lol.
10/04/2011
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Give him the choice weed or you. If he cares about you he will choose you, if not he's a looser and you could do so much better.
Originally posted by
LilLostLenore
so my bf smokes weed and when hes high he sucks in bed, ive tryed telling him nicely but he just gets all mad and smokes anyways. what should i do i dont like when hes high. he gets hella dumb.
10/04/2011
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Seconded! This was a really thoughtful and informative response, Lucky Luna.
Originally posted by
Lucky Luna
My bf prefers not to smoke before sex, actually.
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the ... more
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the ... more
My bf prefers not to smoke before sex, actually.
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the right to make that assertion, but he doesn't have to agree. I wouldn't make any statements forcing him to choose between the two of you - that's not a fair game to play. But maybe voice your concerns in an environment that is neutral? If possible, wait until he's not smoking. Maybe you have a list of concerns. You could start off saying something like, "I know that smoking weed is something you enjoy. It's not something that I enjoy, though, and I would like to talk to you about the possibility of ..." Perhaps you just want to limit his smoking to when you're not around? or maybe you want him to stop altogether.
It certainly makes a job search more difficult.
Good luck on finding some common ground on this issue. less
But is this just about mixing weed and sex or is it also about his weed habit? "He gets hella dumb" makes it sound as though you would rather he not smoke weed at all. And you have the right to make that assertion, but he doesn't have to agree. I wouldn't make any statements forcing him to choose between the two of you - that's not a fair game to play. But maybe voice your concerns in an environment that is neutral? If possible, wait until he's not smoking. Maybe you have a list of concerns. You could start off saying something like, "I know that smoking weed is something you enjoy. It's not something that I enjoy, though, and I would like to talk to you about the possibility of ..." Perhaps you just want to limit his smoking to when you're not around? or maybe you want him to stop altogether.
It certainly makes a job search more difficult.
Good luck on finding some common ground on this issue. less
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10/04/2011
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I would not do that at all. I'm a couple weeks away from 30 so I've been around in the dating world a long time, and my best friends are men and they do not like being told what to do!
Originally posted by
Wildchild
Give him the choice weed or you. If he cares about you he will choose you, if not he's a looser and you could do so much better.
10/04/2011
I dont like when he smokes in general and he knows this but im not asking him to stop, i just dont want him to be high when we are gunna have sex or have plans on going out together to do romantic like things. It kinda pisses me off and he cums to quick when hes high and sex kinda sucks when hes high but i cant really tell him that cause hed get hella mad and hurt his man ego. sex when hes not high is great though.
10/04/2011
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I feel like if you are in a serious relationship, you need to have open communication. Start off saying that you understand that he won't stop altogether for you, but that you really don't enjoy your time with him, romantic and otherwise, as much when he is under the influence.
Originally posted by
LilLostLenore
I dont like when he smokes in general and he knows this but im not asking him to stop, i just dont want him to be high when we are gunna have sex or have plans on going out together to do romantic like things. It kinda pisses me off and he cums to
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I dont like when he smokes in general and he knows this but im not asking him to stop, i just dont want him to be high when we are gunna have sex or have plans on going out together to do romantic like things. It kinda pisses me off and he cums to quick when hes high and sex kinda sucks when hes high but i cant really tell him that cause hed get hella mad and hurt his man ego. sex when hes not high is great though.
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10/05/2011
I would not stick around with someone who abuses drugs. If they are affecting your relationship, and he does not care enough to stop; I would have to have a serious talk with him about it.
10/06/2011
How about video taping the sex when he's high & then when he isn't show him how much it sucked?
You probably should keep the tape so it doesn't hit the internet.
You probably should keep the tape so it doesn't hit the internet.
10/22/2011
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I am the opposite. Once it kicks in i am ready to go for a few hours or twice.
Originally posted by
LilLostLenore
so my bf smokes weed and when hes high he sucks in bed, ive tryed telling him nicely but he just gets all mad and smokes anyways. what should i do i dont like when hes high. he gets hella dumb.
try different strains.. We both have our medical marijuana license so we try all kinds they offer.
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