All of the above. Although rimming (anilingus) is a personal preference (one that I enjoy giving but not getting), fingers are a necessary prerequisite to anal sex.

If you are looking for tips - here are mine:
1. There is no such thing as too much lube (we use coconut oil). Use a lot and reapply frequently.

2. Go slow - there should never be pain - and never use numbing agents. Pain is a protective mechanism. If you or your partner are experiencing pain, you have progressed too quickly.

3. Penetration should start slow - typically with fingers but small glass, metal or silicone toys can also be used.

4. Once the recipient is comfortable with a finger or two you can progress with something larger. That may be another finger - but we have found that tapered dildos/vibrators are best. A vibrating but plug is good because the vibrations help relax the anal sphincter.

5. Keep a sense of humor - accidents will happen and things you try will fail. Communicate what is working and what is not.

6. An adult beverage or two can help relax anxious muscles - but being drunk is a bad idea.

I hope this helps.

I love any fingering, plugging and poking; Especially when masterbating. Slowly getting the wife into it with hopes of her fucking me.