What would you do if someone found your toys?

It could be anyone, a friend, a family member, someone you hardly know. How would you react? Would it cause real problems? Has this already happened to you?

For me, it would depend on who found them. If it was anyone but my family, I would just laugh it off and tell them that's what they get for snooping. But if my family found them, it would be really really embarrassing and awkward. My family isn't against sexual stuff, but we don't talk about it at all and we just keep it to ourselves. less

It has happened and it was family -- teenage kids. It happens because all the kids in my family refuse to respect people's privacy. In fact, it happened TODAY when my rabbit just came and I had opened it. Two nights ago, one of them picked up a hidden OhMiBod box (that houses Freestyle) that was hidden under my vanity and said "can I open this?" I tried pretending I didn't hear, but he kept on, so finally, I said "Look, you really don't wanna see what's in there." That does the trick for the moment, but they are SO nosey! This was the 14 year old. The 13 year old doesn't care. You have to chase him down or yell to get him to not open boxes or look in the closets and stuff.

You're right -- that is what people get for snooping! That's how I feel. If you snoop and find my dirty stuff, then I guess you'll be the one feeling all embarrassed or whatever because at this point in my life, I refuse to feel embarrassed for having sex stuff. Big deal. We shouldn't have to feel embarrassed.

Once, my partner and I were using a new vibrator when my mom came by and the damn thing fell off the bed and into the floor right in front of her and the both of us when we were standing there talking! I thought it was securely under a cover when we heard her come by. She was standing at the door. She didn't say anything, but that's how she is. She won't bug you about things. She's always believed in respecting others' privacy and she wouldn't try to make me feel funny about it, so she'd just pretend she saw nothing. I do the same for her. Plus, it doesn't bother me that she has them and she isn't bothered that I do. We just leave it private though.

I don't mind my other family like my sisters seeing my stash at all. I show them my stash. In fact, my twin sister was in the room with me right after I opened the bunny I got today and we were admiring it when one of the kids came busting in. He saw it laying on the bed we were sitting on and laughed and said "Oh my God!" I ignored it. Don't bust in without knocking. I've warned them that one day they were going to regret busting in on me and they'd end up seeing something that would scar them. They don't listen, so there they go! LOL.

I agree. It's hard not to feel embarrassed. Goodness! If it were my grandmother, I'd be humiliated! She'd even ask what it was too! Lol. Another time, a close-ish family friend came over and again, it was my twin and I sitting on my bed admiring a rabbit vibe I had bought for her & she came in and saw it there. She said "hey what are ya'll up . .. DILDO!!!" Hahaha. It was funny and she's the kind of person we can just laugh over it about, but there aren't many people who don't do the whole "omg! You sick thing you!" So I keep them hidden when possible. less

It could be anyone, a friend, a family member, someone you hardly know. How would you react? Would it cause real problems? Has this already happened to you?

For me, it would depend on who found them. If it was anyone but my family, I would just laugh it off and tell them that's what they get for snooping. But if my family found them, it would be really really embarrassing and awkward. My family isn't against sexual stuff, but we don't talk about it at all and we just keep it to ourselves. less

It has happened and it was family -- teenage kids. It happens because all the kids in my family refuse to respect people's privacy. In fact, it happened TODAY when my rabbit just came and I had opened it. Two nights ago, one of them picked up a hidden OhMiBod box (that houses Freestyle) that was hidden under my vanity and said "can I open this?" I tried pretending I didn't hear, but he kept on, so finally, I said "Look, you really don't wanna see what's in there." That does the trick for the moment, but they are SO nosey! This was the 14 year old. The 13 year old doesn't care. You have to chase him down or yell to get him to not open boxes or look in the closets and stuff.

You're right -- that is what people get for snooping! That's how I feel. If you snoop and find my dirty stuff, then I guess you'll be the one feeling all embarrassed or whatever because at this point in my life, I refuse to feel embarrassed for having sex stuff. Big deal. We shouldn't have to feel embarrassed.

Once, my partner and I were using a new vibrator when my mom came by and the damn thing fell off the bed and into the floor right in front of her and the both of us when we were standing there talking! I thought it was securely under a cover when we heard her come by. She was standing at the door. She didn't say anything, but that's how she is. She won't bug you about things. She's always believed in respecting others' privacy and she wouldn't try to make me feel funny about it, so she'd just pretend she saw nothing. I do the same for her. Plus, it doesn't bother me that she has them and she isn't bothered that I do. We just leave it private though.

I don't mind my other family like my sisters seeing my stash at all. I show them my stash. In fact, my twin sister was in the room with me right after I opened the bunny I got today and we were admiring it when one of the kids came busting in. He saw it laying on the bed we were sitting on and laughed and said "Oh my God!" I ignored it. Don't bust in without knocking. I've warned them that one day they were going to regret busting in on me and they'd end up seeing something that would scar them. They don't listen, so there they go! LOL.

I agree. It's hard not to feel embarrassed. Goodness! If it were my grandmother, I'd be humiliated! She'd even ask what it was too! Lol. Another time, a close-ish family friend came over and again, it was my twin and I sitting on my bed admiring a rabbit vibe I had bought for her & she came in and saw it there. She said "hey what are ya'll up . .. DILDO!!!" Hahaha. It was funny and she's the kind of person we can just laugh over it about, but there aren't many people who don't do the whole "omg! You sick thing you!" So I keep them hidden when possible. less

It could be anyone, a friend, a family member, someone you hardly know. How would you react? Would it cause real problems? Has this already happened to you?

For me, it would depend on who found them. If it was anyone but my family, I would just laugh it off and tell them that's what they get for snooping. But if my family found them, it would be really really embarrassing and awkward. My family isn't against sexual stuff, but we don't talk about it at all and we just keep it to ourselves. less

Kids are rarely traumatized by things you don't find shameful. If they discover your stash just be matter of fact that these are Mommy's toys and they are not for children to play with. That stopped my kids from snooping and satisfied their curiosity. It was just something that was part of life.

If, however, you act like they have discovered something truly embarrassing and horrifying then they WILL be traumatized. Hell my husband and I practiced how we would react a few times and our three kids don't even blink when a package comes in now. He will just say, "It's your Mom's" and they just wander off. less

It has happened and it was family -- teenage kids. It happens because all the kids in my family refuse to respect people's privacy. In fact, it happened TODAY when my rabbit just came and I had opened it. Two nights ago, one of them picked up a hidden OhMiBod box (that houses Freestyle) that was hidden under my vanity and said "can I open this?" I tried pretending I didn't hear, but he kept on, so finally, I said "Look, you really don't wanna see what's in there." That does the trick for the moment, but they are SO nosey! This was the 14 year old. The 13 year old doesn't care. You have to chase him down or yell to get him to not open boxes or look in the closets and stuff.

You're right -- that is what people get for snooping! That's how I feel. If you snoop and find my dirty stuff, then I guess you'll be the one feeling all embarrassed or whatever because at this point in my life, I refuse to feel embarrassed for having sex stuff. Big deal. We shouldn't have to feel embarrassed.

Once, my partner and I were using a new vibrator when my mom came by and the damn thing fell off the bed and into the floor right in front of her and the both of us when we were standing there talking! I thought it was securely under a cover when we heard her come by. She was standing at the door. She didn't say anything, but that's how she is. She won't bug you about things. She's always believed in respecting others' privacy and she wouldn't try to make me feel funny about it, so she'd just pretend she saw nothing. I do the same for her. Plus, it doesn't bother me that she has them and she isn't bothered that I do. We just leave it private though.

I don't mind my other family like my sisters seeing my stash at all. I show them my stash. In fact, my twin sister was in the room with me right after I opened the bunny I got today and we were admiring it when one of the kids came busting in. He saw it laying on the bed we were sitting on and laughed and said "Oh my God!" I ignored it. Don't bust in without knocking. I've warned them that one day they were going to regret busting in on me and they'd end up seeing something that would scar them. They don't listen, so there they go! LOL.

I agree. It's hard not to feel embarrassed. Goodness! If it were my grandmother, I'd be humiliated! She'd even ask what it was too! Lol. Another time, a close-ish family friend came over and again, it was my twin and I sitting on my bed admiring a rabbit vibe I had bought for her & she came in and saw it there. She said "hey what are ya'll up . .. DILDO!!!" Hahaha. It was funny and she's the kind of person we can just laugh over it about, but there aren't many people who don't do the whole "omg! You sick thing you!" So I keep them hidden when possible. less

It could be anyone, a friend, a family member, someone you hardly know. How would you react? Would it cause real problems? Has this already happened to you?

For me, it would depend on who found them. If it was anyone but my family, I would just laugh it off and tell them that's what they get for snooping. But if my family found them, it would be really really embarrassing and awkward. My family isn't against sexual stuff, but we don't talk about it at all and we just keep it to ourselves. less