I bet the stranger experience should have been really exciting!
Also, it is amazing that you found the opportunity and reliable partners for the experience - often times it's the hardest thing to do

Oh yes, both experiences were my first of each nature as well as being a total blast! It is certainly a good thing that no one else had to use the bathroom at that particular point when a guy was blowing me in the men's room in a supermarket! That would have been hard to explain. Now that I look back on it though, the danger of getting caught was very real and its fortunate that when he started on me, I finished quick! On the other note, after asking my friend about sexual fantasies, and then she told me about her threesome fantasy (I admitted to wanting it too) and that she knew a couple guys down for it, one of which was me, I could hardly believe that not only was I going to get laid for the first time, my first time would also be the rare encounter of a threesome!

I am proud to admit, I wasn't done almost as soon as I put it in. And I was wearing one of those thin condoms too. I felt like I do need to work on keeping a rhythm and being able to keep it in. Nonetheless, we all had a great time, and I learned a couple things. One, sex isn't as easy as it looks. It gives your thigh muscles a workout when you fuck someone. Two, a man, such as myself, needs practice. Even he lasts more than a minute or so, rhythmic thrusting must be learned. It is not instinct. Maybe I need to invest in a toy that I can practice missionary with!

First of all, you can easily practice missionary with any of our life-like masturbators - their measurements are typically close to the real thing, and also the angle is pretty much perfect for any kind of practice.

Secondly, the idea of getting caught is extremely arousing in itself - at least for me and my partner. We rarely do it in public, but we do play with our toys a lot, and the idea of someone hearing the buzz or catching a glimpse of my O-face adds to the experience.

Third thing - threesome is definitely extremely demanding, requiring a lot of work from all parties. But figuring out the logistics surely pays off in this case

MMF or MTF both sound fun. To get my fantasy going the other M must have a body as totally hairless and smooth as mine.

All sounds hot, question when you had the MMF 3some, did they DP you?

But I don't like places like nightclubs, I don't like noisy places.

Sounds like we’re pretty much in the same boat. I too wouldn’t mind trying everything on that list! I’ve done a couple of the minor ones, but my wife’s kinda reserved as well and it’s extremely hard getting her to loosen up and try any new and “unconventional” things. I have no barriers and she’s got a lot! Sometimes I have found that talking to her about something can get her thinking about it. Then sometimes presenting it to her later, she will tend to give it a try. Especially if the stars and planets align and she’s maybe had a few drinks . She’s been open to some small things like sex furniture, but not the good stuff…like any butt stuff. She doesn’t know what she’s missing out on!

I could always use some tips on getting her to open up more as well, I haven’t had much luck. It is a fine line and you definitely have to respect their boundaries and don’t force it. It can take some time and definitely a lot of patients.

In the meantime I’ll explore any of my own curiosities and boundaries when I get some extended alone time to edge and experiment with plugs and other toys. Do stuff with myself that she might not be up for yet or not be on-board with at all. I’ve never turned my myself down

This can be so tricky because sexual shame is so deeply ingrained, but for me, the things that have helped have been to explore those things in fiction before real life. Find some hot porn, smut, or whatever else your wife is into that lets her get accustomed to the idea without having to put herself out there first, and let those thoughts germinate. There are a lot of things I didn't think I'd be into or want to do myself until I found representation in media that awakened something in me, LOL.

The other thing that helped me was finding people who make it clear that they support my kinks and find it really fucking hot when I engage in them. It sounds like she's got some of that with you already! Between religious/anti-sex upbringing and body consciousness, it can be hard to think of yourself as being, well, a hot piece of ass that anyone would be lucky to play with. Giving her a lot of support, praise, encouragement, and sharing how hot you think it would be to see her in those scenarios might help with the self-consciousness. Sharing what YOU think is hot, or what you'd like done to you, can be good too! That takes some of the pressure off of her while giving her food for thought as well Aaand it goes without saying, but aftercare is so so important. If she does step outside her comfort zone, make sure you let her know afterwards how much you love her and how much you enjoyed it! Basically, positive reinforcement is super important.

Roleplay type stuff is also an option, if she's down for it. E.g. if she's hung up on the idea of acting "slutty," give her the option of roleplaying a slut a little bit and getting into the mentality. It can be easier to explore fantasies when we think of ourselves as being someone else for a while. And for things like threesomes or public sex, playing out that scenario in private - with toys, dirty talk, and imagination - can be helpful too. Let her play around with how she might like that scenario to go so she can ease into it in a safe environment.