Only part-way decent
The first half of the book is not so great, the second half is significantly better. It could be worth it if you have some concerns about sex or if you're questioning whether you're normal. Overall, you can find all of this information on the internet with some diligent searching.
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Pros
explains some things, debunks myths
Cons
elementary, states the obvious
"Orgasms: Every Day, Every Way, Every Time" is a book intended for women, to teach them how to reach their orgasmic potential. As I was reading, I thought most of it was fairly obvious - if you've ever masturbated, you probably know what works and what doesn't work.
I did not think the book was well organized, at least to start. Primarily because after discussing the anatomy of an orgasm, the author, Jenny Wood, discusses foreplay before discussing self pleasure. Since this is intended to be a book for women specifically, I think foreplay/partner play should have been after self pleasure.
After discussing foreplay, the book talks about the different erogenous zones, but even these are intended for partner play because Wood discusses the ears, elbows, knees, and feet. I don't know about you, but I certainly cannot stimulate my own ears, elbows, knees, and feet. Following foreplay, she discusses sex positions. That's great, but don't you need to know how to orgasm first, what works for you? The sex positions discussed are all of the obvious ones - if you've had sex even twice, I'm willing to guess you've done most of these positions (doggie but on your forearms instead of hands, cowgirl - on your knees and on your feet, missionary with the woman's legs wrapped around the man's legs, spooning, reverse missionary (woman is lying flat on the man, legs together inside his), etc.).
Finally, after discussing what to do with a partner, Wood discusses how to masturbate yourself. She advises setting out a block of uninterrupted time, turning off your phone, lighting candles, and going slowly. She also has a decent guide to sex toys and materials. This section is useful for someone who does not know much about sex toys and materials.
Chapter 8 is when I thought the book started to get legitimately useful. Chapter 8 discusses fantasies, what the most typical fantasies mean, and reassures the reader that there is nothing wrong with fantasizing.
There is also an "Orgasm Workout" which focuses on strengthening the body for endurance during sex, and it explains how to do kegal exercises. And a chapter on why women fake orgasms.
The next really useful chapter is why sex might be painful. A lot of women have medical issues that might cause sex to hurt, and while this is certainly not an exhaustive list, it includes the most common problems. If sex is painful, you should see a doctor and get it figured out - chances are there is a solution.
Then there is a chapter on orgasm fact vs. fiction. This chapter is fun, though I thought all of it was common knowledge. The book ends with a quiz on your "Orgasm IQ" - it's mostly based on things you should have picked up reading the book.
Overall, I wasn't a huge fan of the book. I don't think it reached its potential for a guide to female orgasms. I was put off by all the stuff to do with partners. If this is a book for women, I thought it needed to be more focused on the woman herself, rather than the woman and her partner. Having stuff about a partner is great, but that should have been nearer the end rather than at the beginning. To me, the partner stuff seemed to say, "It's important to have a partner to have fun." No, you don't need a partner to be completely satisfied and have fun. Besides, there's a distinct difference between partner play and self pleasure, at least to me. Partner play is about pleasing the other, while self pleasure is about, well, you. Wood could have spent more time on how to appreciate yourself and reinforcing that you don't need a partner to be fully satisfied, that you need to be happy with yourself first. The other problem I had with the book is that it does not address being bisexual or lesbian. It is more common and more accepted for people to be openly bisexual and lesbian, and a lot of people are curious and willing to explore their desires. A couple chapters devoted to 'alternate' life styles would have been appropriate since there is a significant amount on pleasure with a male partner. Finally, because there are tips for men in the book, I think it might be better for a man to read the book to learn the female anatomy and what it takes for a woman to orgasm.
I did not think the book was well organized, at least to start. Primarily because after discussing the anatomy of an orgasm, the author, Jenny Wood, discusses foreplay before discussing self pleasure. Since this is intended to be a book for women specifically, I think foreplay/partner play should have been after self pleasure.
After discussing foreplay, the book talks about the different erogenous zones, but even these are intended for partner play because Wood discusses the ears, elbows, knees, and feet. I don't know about you, but I certainly cannot stimulate my own ears, elbows, knees, and feet. Following foreplay, she discusses sex positions. That's great, but don't you need to know how to orgasm first, what works for you? The sex positions discussed are all of the obvious ones - if you've had sex even twice, I'm willing to guess you've done most of these positions (doggie but on your forearms instead of hands, cowgirl - on your knees and on your feet, missionary with the woman's legs wrapped around the man's legs, spooning, reverse missionary (woman is lying flat on the man, legs together inside his), etc.).
Finally, after discussing what to do with a partner, Wood discusses how to masturbate yourself. She advises setting out a block of uninterrupted time, turning off your phone, lighting candles, and going slowly. She also has a decent guide to sex toys and materials. This section is useful for someone who does not know much about sex toys and materials.
Chapter 8 is when I thought the book started to get legitimately useful. Chapter 8 discusses fantasies, what the most typical fantasies mean, and reassures the reader that there is nothing wrong with fantasizing.
There is also an "Orgasm Workout" which focuses on strengthening the body for endurance during sex, and it explains how to do kegal exercises. And a chapter on why women fake orgasms.
The next really useful chapter is why sex might be painful. A lot of women have medical issues that might cause sex to hurt, and while this is certainly not an exhaustive list, it includes the most common problems. If sex is painful, you should see a doctor and get it figured out - chances are there is a solution.
Then there is a chapter on orgasm fact vs. fiction. This chapter is fun, though I thought all of it was common knowledge. The book ends with a quiz on your "Orgasm IQ" - it's mostly based on things you should have picked up reading the book.
Overall, I wasn't a huge fan of the book. I don't think it reached its potential for a guide to female orgasms. I was put off by all the stuff to do with partners. If this is a book for women, I thought it needed to be more focused on the woman herself, rather than the woman and her partner. Having stuff about a partner is great, but that should have been nearer the end rather than at the beginning. To me, the partner stuff seemed to say, "It's important to have a partner to have fun." No, you don't need a partner to be completely satisfied and have fun. Besides, there's a distinct difference between partner play and self pleasure, at least to me. Partner play is about pleasing the other, while self pleasure is about, well, you. Wood could have spent more time on how to appreciate yourself and reinforcing that you don't need a partner to be fully satisfied, that you need to be happy with yourself first. The other problem I had with the book is that it does not address being bisexual or lesbian. It is more common and more accepted for people to be openly bisexual and lesbian, and a lot of people are curious and willing to explore their desires. A couple chapters devoted to 'alternate' life styles would have been appropriate since there is a significant amount on pleasure with a male partner. Finally, because there are tips for men in the book, I think it might be better for a man to read the book to learn the female anatomy and what it takes for a woman to orgasm.
Follow-up commentary
12 months after original review
This book has been a major flop with everyone I know who has even thumbed through it. Unless you've never had sex before and/or are waiting until marriage, this book is not for you. It just doesn't have anything for people who have had sex at least twice. Don't waste your time here.
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Mistress Kay - definitely don't bother with the book, I wouldn't even recommend it to anyone - it's just that useless.
If you disagree with what I've said without having read the book, I recommend that you get the book and review it and tell people that it's for hetero having problems, but I cannot support such a statement. In my opinion, this book is definitely not for a hetero couple having problems. And if I haven't made that clear in my review, I will do a follow up making it so.