My current partner really enjoys anal, and for the longest time, I just couldn't let it happen. We'd try over and over, but I couldn't relax enough because I knew it was going to hurt. After a while, we just stopped trying. One day I went on a mission, a mission to find out the secret to anal sex. Long story short, I found an unflavored, desensitizing silicone gel that's opened me up to a whole other level of pleasure, literally. It doesn't make it completely, no feeling kind of numb, it just relaxes everything down there. I put it on about 10 minutes before, and I'm good to go. Hands down an awesome product.