Dishonesty is never good for any personal relationship—but what do you do when you have feelings for someone else and what will happen if you share those feelings with your partner? What will happen if you don't? Nina addresses these questions regarding emotional infidelity, advising that while feelings for someone other than your significant other doesn't make you bad person, but what you do with those feelings says a lot about who you are and your ability to maintain a mature, long-term monogamous relationship.
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Got something you want to ask Nina? (Of course you do.) Drop her a line at tuesdayswithnina@gmail.com. Now, while can’t promise that every question received will get a personal response, however, those that do will be answered frankly, entertainingly, enlighteningly and, if we know Nina, in the spirit of happy, healthy sex and a satisfied libido.
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Emotional infidelity: I believe our feelings are our achilles heal. They can destroy us if we remove our intelligent decision making ability. They (feelings) can also cause great joy. To have emotional 'connections' with other people is an inevitable thing...even when we are in a committed relationship. But what action(s) (if any) will it lead to? Here's what MUST be considered when in a committed relationship:
1. Emotional feelings are usually stronger than sexual feelings. They last longer and are often repeated and become habit when you spend a lot of time with this other person. If unmonitored, this can lead to physical actions.
2. The depth of love and commitment of your regular relationship MUST be considered:
a) Are you sure she/he is the one? If so you'll know: You won't be able to imagine life without them.
b) Is this worth the risk?
1. It will hurt the other person and possibly alter your relationship,
2. If it leads to something physical (or not), you risk losing the regular one. Is that worth it?
3. Everyone's circumstances are different; have you fully considered yous?
In conclusion, we MUST be responsible with our unpredictable, unstable feelings because they are a weakness. You want to just 'roll' with these feelings, but don't...NOT without your mind maturely monitoring the situation.