if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
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01/01/2012
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I consider that normal, nothing wrong with watching porn once in a while, I'll watch with him if I'm not busy doing something else.
Originally posted by
piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
01/01/2012
I certainly don't consider it cheating. I might not watch it with him because I'm picky, but I don't care one way or another. I only get grouchy when he won't share the good stuff.
01/01/2012
I wouldn't consider it cheating. It's pretty normal!
01/01/2012
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not cheating.
Originally posted by
piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
01/01/2012
I would never consider watching porn cheating, it's absurd and very close-minded. (I'm not in a standard relationship, it's open for both partners.)
01/01/2012
NOT cheating!! At least your partner is at home watching movies to get off, not out picking up a substitute and really cheating!!
01/01/2012
Not cheating!
01/01/2012
Not cheating! I do get grumpy when my partner doesn't tell me sometimes. I would love to watch with him and give a helping hand or mouth.
01/01/2012
It is definitely NOT cheating, unless they are addicted to it and prefer to watch porn rather than be with you. Even then it still isn't cheating, but it definitely wouldn't be "normal" or ok with me.
01/01/2012
No I would not. I would join in with him.
01/01/2012
Not cheating in my book
01/02/2012
I don't consider it cheating. It may make the other person uncomfortable, but that doesn't make it cheating.
01/02/2012
Normal.
01/02/2012
Perhaps "cheating" in the sense of a breach of trust. I know some people are really uptight and uncomfortable with it due to upbringing, and I can't totally rule out their feelings - old-fashioned or not, they're people too.
Personally, I would never call that cheating. Not even remotely.
Personally, I would never call that cheating. Not even remotely.
01/02/2012
'Cheating' depends on the ground rules placed on the relationship. If you agree not to eat hamburgers at Wendy's without the other person and you do so, eating that hamburger is cheating.
Personally that is not considered cheating in our relationship.
Personally that is not considered cheating in our relationship.
01/02/2012
I think it's quite normal.
01/02/2012
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Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with looks at another human being in a sexual way then he needs to be dumped on the spot. This has messed up a lot of our common sense thought processes. It is absolute human nature to be curious and to want to see other members of the opposite sex naked and/or in a sexual way. Trying to suppress or restrict that from someone is completely wrong for us to do.
Originally posted by
piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol
It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...
Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do.
01/02/2012
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Wow everyone those are great answers and views i have never thought of. I just see many people struggle because they feel that watching porn is cheating or thinking that something they are doing themselves is wrong or that they are not sexy enough. we are all humans and we do what we are suppose to do is how i see it. Not cheating for me too.
Originally posted by
CreamySweet
Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with
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Not cheating. In fact if they didn't watch it I would be more concerned that their was something wrong with them then if they do. I think that a lot of our "Women's Magazines" tend to program us to think that if a man we are with looks at another human being in a sexual way then he needs to be dumped on the spot. This has messed up a lot of our common sense thought processes. It is absolute human nature to be curious and to want to see other members of the opposite sex naked and/or in a sexual way. Trying to suppress or restrict that from someone is completely wrong for us to do.
Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol
It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...
Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do. less
Now... I will say if it becomes obsessive (Careful with that one - 3o minutes to a couple hours a day is not obsessive) then it might be an issue. I would consider obsessive in my case if they are ignoring me completely and watching porn more then the average guy watches football. lol
It's no different then us watching the soaps or Ophra or "The Bachelor". I actually had a guy who I talk to often who was really upset because his wife was a bachelor addict and she would always say stuff like "He's Hot!!!" to him and to her friends around him. It actually hurt his feelings and made him question if he was what his wife even liked or wanted because he looked nothing like the bachelor. I have had other friends wind up in serious issues in their relationships because they couldn't put down the Ophra crack pipe or the frickin addiction to Facebook/Cityville/Far mville/Who the fuck cares ville...
Porn is good, healthy and normal when watched in moderation just like any other stuff we as human beings do. less
01/02/2012
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy.
01/10/2012
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i see!! that is very true! but what if the other partner feels they are not good enough for them or see the way the women or men look on the porn and imagine them more than you?
Originally posted by
Rin (aka Nire)
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it ... more
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it ... more
I could only see it as being anywhere close to cheating if:
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy. less
1) One partner agreed not to watch it and then watched it anyway.
2) A person watches it to the point of neglecting their partner.
Even then, I wouldn't consider it "cheating," per se. It would be neglect or a breach of trust, which are still both quite serious matters.
Personally, I like porn, and I'd be bummed if I wound up with someone who wouldn't want to watch it with me. It's a great way to get hot quickly or to get ideas. Or you can get a good laugh, if it's really bad or cheesy. less
01/13/2012
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That's more a question of self-image and communication than cheating. If someone feels this way, they need to talk it out with their partner and express their feelings, and hopefully they would come to a solution together.
Originally posted by
piglet4
i see!! that is very true! but what if the other partner feels they are not good enough for them or see the way the women or men look on the porn and imagine them more than you?
01/13/2012
not cheating
11/22/2012
i know this question is more to the ladies, but i would love to come home and find my wife watching porn. boy would she get it!
11/24/2012
Not cheating
12/06/2012
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I used to have a problem with my husband watching porn. I think it bothered me so much because I was self conscious, or maybe it was that I wondered why he never wanted to watch it with me. Now we watch it together and I think it adds a lot to our sex life together.
Originally posted by
piglet4
if your partner watches porn do you consider that cheating or is that normal?
12/09/2012
For me it's perfectly normal.
12/24/2012
I wouldn't consider it cheating if he's watching porn
12/24/2012
If watching porn is cheating then my husband cheats on my several times a week.
12/24/2012
...it's something that should be communicated about between the couple? If one of them considers it cheating, then it is. EVERY relationship is different, yes, even monogamous ones.
12/24/2012
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