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Would you be mad if you caught your partner watching porn instead of having sex with you?

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Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Seems to be happening more and more for me lately, although sometimes I think shes just getting my attention.
02/02/2012
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Contributor: Gary A. Gary A.
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Originally posted by spineyogurt
Seems to be happening more and more for me lately, although sometimes I think shes just getting my attention.
It depends, if my partner did not seem interested in sex everytime I tried to engage, but yet if I caught her watching porn, i'd be fucking pissed. But, if our sex life is great and she was watching porn, i'd ask if she would want me to join her.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Gary A. Gary A.
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Originally posted by spineyogurt
Seems to be happening more and more for me lately, although sometimes I think shes just getting my attention.
Ugh double post sorry.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
If I had specifically asked for sex, and my partner said no, then went off and masturbated to porn instead, then yes, I would be annoyed. If it was just a 'Hey, I felt like a quick orgasm and you weren't around', no.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
If my partner turned down an offer for sex and then proceeded to masturbate to porn, I would be kind of mad. If I just walked on him watching porn, I wouldn't care.
02/03/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Since we're both against watching porn personally and we agree not to..yeah, I'd be mad if I ever caught him. But that would never happen.
02/03/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by spineyogurt
Seems to be happening more and more for me lately, although sometimes I think shes just getting my attention.
i would be hurt for sure. anger isn't a productive response to this but feel what you feel. it's your actions on the emotions that are important. i would certainly discuss it with my partner, voice my concerns, my insecurities due to the issue (it would make ME feel totally insecure if he turned me down for sex and then went to watch porn) and see what becomes of it.

to give better advice i'd need more details though. is your partner turning you down and then going to watch porn? or just watching porn more frequently than you are having sex?
02/03/2012
Contributor: Subbi Subbi
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Originally posted by Pixel
If I had specifically asked for sex, and my partner said no, then went off and masturbated to porn instead, then yes, I would be annoyed. If it was just a 'Hey, I felt like a quick orgasm and you weren't around', no.
This is how I feel myself
02/03/2012
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
I wouldn't be mad if I caught my partner watching porn. He can watch all the porn he wants. I'm ok with that. As much as I love sex, I want my masturbation time too. But if he started using porn exclusively and no longer had sex with me, or had sex with me less often and using porn more ... I'd be unhappy.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
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Originally posted by Ms. Spice
If my partner turned down an offer for sex and then proceeded to masturbate to porn, I would be kind of mad. If I just walked on him watching porn, I wouldn't care.
This is the same for me.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Mad? No. But I think I would be extremely hurt. I'd definitely have to talk to him about it and find out if he was just trying to unwind without engaging and go from there.
02/03/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by FemmeFlo
I wouldn't be mad if I caught my partner watching porn. He can watch all the porn he wants. I'm ok with that. As much as I love sex, I want my masturbation time too. But if he started using porn exclusively and no longer had sex with me, or ... more
I agree, this is pretty much how I would feel. We watch a bunch of porn but it doesn't interfere with our sex life, if anything it adds to it and we have sex more!
02/03/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Not at all.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
My boyfriend masturbates sometimes after I fall asleep. It used to upset me more but he says it's just because he gets horny and doesn't want to wake me up. I just wish his sex drive happened when I was awake. If he turned down sex and then masturbated, I'd be EXTREMELY upset. But thankfully, that's not what happens.
02/03/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
maybe, if she was turning down sex with me and watching porn. I might have a problem with that.
02/05/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Pixel
If I had specifically asked for sex, and my partner said no, then went off and masturbated to porn instead, then yes, I would be annoyed. If it was just a 'Hey, I felt like a quick orgasm and you weren't around', no.
Pretty much this for me as well.
02/06/2012
Contributor: TarnishedHalo TarnishedHalo
Nope, I would mostly just be irritated if he didn't invite me to watch too.
02/06/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
id be mad
02/10/2012