Take into account, I didn't say yourself-- what if your partner asked for something you found as too abusive? Would you say no or let them have their pleasure?
Is there a line drawn in the sand about what you will and won't do to your partner?
12/05/2012
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We have predetermined boundaries for our activities based on our personal feelings. Why add to your problems if it is not necessary?
12/06/2012
Same here - we went over hard limits at the beginning, and a few things I like were hard limits for Sir, so I will never ask for them.
But since you did say "your partner", if I were the one being asked for it and we hadn't already put it in the "out of bounds" category, I would want to have a talk about why they wanted it. I might see the activity in question differently, and be able to approach it from a new perspective that way. I don't think I'd be able to just do it right then for their pleasure, though, and I still might not be okay with it even after they explained their desire.
But since you did say "your partner", if I were the one being asked for it and we hadn't already put it in the "out of bounds" category, I would want to have a talk about why they wanted it. I might see the activity in question differently, and be able to approach it from a new perspective that way. I don't think I'd be able to just do it right then for their pleasure, though, and I still might not be okay with it even after they explained their desire.
12/06/2012
If they asked me to do something I was not comfortable with, I'd make it known that I wasn't happy about it. My partner and I spend a lot of time discussing what we're okay and not okay with so this isn't really a problem for me.
12/06/2012
If it's what makes my partner happy then I will do it, because I would like for them to return the favor if the roles were reversed, but we set out the rules a long time ago so this hasn't really been a problem for us.
12/06/2012
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I have the same take on it- although we had a discussion at the outset about hard and soft boundaries, if He wanted to do something and told me why, I'd consider it. Probably wouldn't jump right in though...
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MissMori
Same here - we went over hard limits at the beginning, and a few things I like were hard limits for Sir, so I will never ask for them.
But since you did say "your partner", if I were the one being asked for it and we hadn't ... more
But since you did say "your partner", if I were the one being asked for it and we hadn't ... more
Same here - we went over hard limits at the beginning, and a few things I like were hard limits for Sir, so I will never ask for them.
But since you did say "your partner", if I were the one being asked for it and we hadn't already put it in the "out of bounds" category, I would want to have a talk about why they wanted it. I might see the activity in question differently, and be able to approach it from a new perspective that way. I don't think I'd be able to just do it right then for their pleasure, though, and I still might not be okay with it even after they explained their desire. less
But since you did say "your partner", if I were the one being asked for it and we hadn't already put it in the "out of bounds" category, I would want to have a talk about why they wanted it. I might see the activity in question differently, and be able to approach it from a new perspective that way. I don't think I'd be able to just do it right then for their pleasure, though, and I still might not be okay with it even after they explained their desire. less
12/06/2012
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