This might sound kind of cheesy, but after months of trying to find a name to call my partner in the bedroom, I've finally found, "sir," and I love it. In our day to day life, I have a couple of nicknames for him that I call him affectionately, and he for me. But as we deepen our bond through BDSM, as his sub, there's a wealth of things he can call me that turn me on, and as odd as it might sound to some, are so affectionate, because I'm the only one he calls such things' they make me feel special to him. Those names include, pet, my slut (it's true, I'm a total slut for him!), slave, my bad/good girl, little whore, and even the more traditionally sweet names like dearest, my darling, and baby.

But for ages, I never knew what to call him! Daddy was out of the question thanks to an ex, and I never liked that much, anyway. Master seemed to be too much, too. Finally, I started slowly incorporating "sir" into our banter, and after sending him some photos of myself in my lingerie to him and asking him, "how do you like this look, sir?" he responded with a big approval of the photos and said, "and I love it when you call me sir." I felt all kinds of warm and fuzzy to have finally found a good title for him!

Besides enjoying the intimacy of special names for each other, I like calling names out when I climax--yeah, yeah, it might seem cheesy to some people, or like an invention from porn, but for me, it personalizes the act, and is a huge turn on for us both. I've never met a man who doesn't like to hear his name on the lips of a woman as she is overwhelmed with orgasmic bliss. Well, now that I know that he likes "sir," as we approach our reunion in the coming weeks after months apart, I am so thrilled to call him that as he pushes me over the edge of bliss.

How did you guys find your terms of endearment for your SO? Doesn't have to be BDSM related, but did you try different things out, see how it sounded/felt, or did it just come out of your mouth naturally?