Oh, gods. Stay clear of Collarme. It's basicly the craigslist of the kink world. It's dodgy as hell. Try Fetlife...check out your local groups. Go to munches (meet ups in vanilla settings) and parties. Meet people in person, watch them play with others, hell, ask for references! It's safer than trolling on Collarme, and as a bonus, you'll get involved in your local scene and meet like minded people.

Good luck!

Agree with Pixel, Collarme is dodgy and spammy as hell. Go with Fetlife.

I third what Pixel said, go with Fetlife find where groups in your local area meet and go out to meet people. Having done the Collarme thing once, its just...really bad. Lots of people who are serious red flags.

ok.

Collarme...I still have my account there, but more for nostalgia I suppose.
I'm going to agree with the others here; Pixel gave you some great advice.
Fetlife is far better than Collarme in every way. (at least in my opinion)

On Collarme I got messages from so many creepers it wasn't even funny (but no creepers have contacted me thus far on Fetlife). I hardly ever even log in there anymore.

Agreed with pixel for sure!

Noooo! Collarme is just a big meatmarket of fakes and douches.

NO! If you want a site to use, go to fetlife. There are fakes everywhere, but collarme is basically nothing but fakes.

Hell no. Like k3 said, big meat-market of fakes and assholes. And I agree with ^her^ to use fetlife.

While I found my Dom through collarme (and he's pretty effin awesome), I have to agree with all of the above.

I was on the site for a few years before I found Sir, but I was overwhelmed by creepers. It's easy enough to ignore/ delete messages, but it gets tiring. I did meet up with a couple others for coffee, but they were poor matches in the end.

I also met my Daddy (Dom) through CollarMe, but I was super lucky. His M.O. is to save people from that site, and I could see why. It's awful. Anyway, I was wondering what any or all of you think a person, namely me, should do, once she's on Fetlife, been in the local scene for about three years, and pretty much hates everyone she's met? I can't exactly move, but the scene here is so catty and simultaneously inclusive and exclusive. I'm a cute girl, but no one has EVER offered to play with me! :,( And the people I've tried to connect with and ASKED to play with me have all been super, DUPER flakey. No one has time to form real relationships where I am, or have someone over for tea and suspension play...

Hate to steal the thread, but I'm desperate for some advice. Please?

I agree with Pixel. Collarme is bad news. It wasn't always, but it is now...

I've never heard of Collarme but i'm glad this thread exists. Good to know what websites to avoid.

I actually have had excellent results with CM. You have to be cautious, don't believe everything men write LOL and...most important stand your ground. My profile is specific...I state specifically what I am looking for, that you must be local to me and that I do not engage in chat, IM, webcam... Most of the men who contact me are decent people..not necessarily looking for what I want or are the type of men I like but nice. I have been seriously involved with 2 men I met there. Now, I am a female sub so, at first, you get bombarded. I deleted all of my initial emails but you can set up mail controls so that you can establish what can get to your inbox (I have that I only accept mail from straight men, in my state, in the USA, between ages of 40-50) and the filter works..so what I get, is reduced to only what I want. You need to take precautions. Someone emails me, I do NOT discuss or respond to personal questions. Treat it the way you would meeting somebody at a large party...I will mention what field I am in, that I am divorced with kids, that I like museums, reading...since they are local, discuss stuff going on near us and places we have gone to...; however, I never mention where I live beyond county, where I work beyond the industry, how many kids or their ages, any type of definite future plans (yeah...I will say I want to go to Europe one day but not that I will be in OC the first of June) and NEVER, EVER anything sexual. I am clear I email only on the site (so if they get dicey, I can block &/or report), and will do so for only a certain amount of time before expecting to meet in person. I have met, in person, 7-8 men (always at somewhere like a mall restaurant where they cannot even know where I am parked if I feel it is dicey). All have been nice guys, 2 of them became more than friends. The others were actually the equivalent of a bad first date!

Anything is good if you use common sense!

Fetlife for the win! It's quickly becoming my favorite online hangout.

Collarme isn't the place to go. Try Fetlife.