My boyfriend and I are in a unique situation where we both prefer being submissive. My boyfriend is bisexual and has developed a preference (or expectation from other women) for being more dominant with women and more submissive with men. I, on the other hand, am the exact opposite: I prefer being more dominant with women and more submissive with men. So, thankfully, our interests intersect enough that it's not a huge issue. Even though we both "prefer" being submissive, my boyfriend is "used" to being dominant around women, so we don't have an issue. When I do decide to be a bit more dominant for him, it's more of a "treat" than a "need."

I'm curious, however, if anyone here is in a BDSM relationship where they happen to be with a person who has the same preference as they do? Have you ever broken up because the other person just wasn't submissive/dominant enough? If you are in that situation and decided to rough it out, what have you done to deal with it? less