Do you research before you try new things (anything from rope play to fire cupping) with your partner? If so, what modes or sources of information do you use?

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Do you research before you try new things (anything from rope play to fire cupping) with your partner? If so, what modes or sources of information do you use?

 
 
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Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Just wondering how you all learn new techniques and get your information to play as safely as possible
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Yes, I use books primarily
2  (3%)
Yes, I use the internet primarily
50  (86%)
Yes, I use videos primarily
Yes, I use advice from friends or other people in the scene primarily
2  (3%)
No, I don't. I just go for it.
Other (elaborate please)
4  (7%)
Total votes: 58
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09/26/2012
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Pixel Pixel
I talk to people in the local scene who have experience doing new types of play and research it on the internet/through books. So, all of the above, really.
09/26/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
Yes, I use the internet primarily
09/26/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
It depends. I use the internet/videos for new rope tricks, and books for more general stuff
09/26/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
Just wondering how you all learn new techniques and get your information to play as safely as possible
I usually find videos most helpful.
09/26/2012
Taylor Taylor
I research new things to try in a lot of ways. I usually start with researching online, but usually don't feel it is enough. I like to go to in-person demos and classes when they are available and personally feel that is the best way to learn. I've bought several educational videos and books. They are helpful too, but I find the demos at events to be the most helpful.
09/26/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Thus far, I haven't done anything with my current partner because of the distance between us, but I have had him do a little research in his free time about a few basic things or had him look up things I happen to enjoy myself instead of just telling him.
Usually I give him a few links to the information though, he'd have to clue where to look (he's pretty new to it all).

On my own, I research anything that I want to try someday on the internet thoroughly to get a basic knowledge of how it works and any potential safety risks (and how to lessen the risk as much as possible, but not much of what I'm into is terribly risky anyway).
09/27/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
Just wondering how you all learn new techniques and get your information to play as safely as possible
We use the net to research everything now!
09/27/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
It depends on what it is. I ask friends and use the Internet.
09/27/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
The internet is my best friend with research. I am a research junkie. I does not have to just be things about sex, but everything in general. Depending on what type of "new things" you are researching would very where to research. For our lifestyle I have also utilized a few non-fiction books as well, but the internet is overall more accessible and I don't have people bugging me what I am reading like I always get with books.
09/27/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
Yes I use the internet
09/27/2012
Mitzuki Mitzuki
I use the internet and talk to other people to learn more. I'll never jump in without learning first.
09/27/2012
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I use the internet and talk to other people about it. Asking questions and asking for advice and experience from other people!
09/28/2012
Mhay64 Mhay64
I prefer to always do research beforehand, usually on the internet.
09/28/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
Just wondering how you all learn new techniques and get your information to play as safely as possible
Yes, I always research new things.
10/01/2012
mistressg mistressg
Yes, and I generally use the internet. Eden is a great resource. If I have any questions, I tend to look over reviews or go to the forums.
10/07/2012
Alyona Alyona
Yes, I use the internet primarily
10/07/2012
Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
Primarily the internet, but I also ask people that I know.
10/07/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I usually use the internet and if I see a good book recommended I may buy it.
10/07/2012
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
Just wondering how you all learn new techniques and get your information to play as safely as possible
Research is a great way to learn and stay safe.
10/09/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
Just wondering how you all learn new techniques and get your information to play as safely as possible
Yes I look at a lot of internet articles and look for a ton of information
10/09/2012
Molly Adams Molly Adams
Depends on how outside the norm...sometimes it's just reading it in a book, and trying it out...other times it requires a little more research, and a few purchases
10/13/2012
Nyx (Under the Covers) Nyx (Under the Covers)
I'm all about research: books, internet, talking to friends and people in the scene...

(But I'm a researcher in my real life too, so that probably isn't super-exciting.)
11/06/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I'm all about research but I tend to equally take from the internet and books.
11/08/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I tend to use the internet.
11/08/2012
skeeterlynn skeeterlynn
Anything I'm unsure about going about I google or use eden.
11/08/2012
IrishLassie IrishLassie
I usually just use the internet as i dont know anyone personally in the scene to ask questions. I would like to.
12/09/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
The internet is full of good resources. I've used lots of places on the web that are informative (Eden is one of them!)I know how to tell a legit source from a crap one, too. Thank you, school.
12/09/2012
ASpiritedSlut ASpiritedSlut
I do not trust one source... I read many books, speak with many people, and read a ton online. I think it's best to get as many perspectives as possible.
12/13/2012
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