i am in a 24/7 D/s relationship with my wonderful Mistress. my Mistress is a bit on the OCD side, which is both exciting and challenging. For me, the need to complete tasks correctly and to Her standards is exciting and it's a turn on. i love it when She teaches me just how She likes a certain task completed and how pleased She is with me when i do it correctly. For Her, however, it's very challenging and sometimes difficult to relinquish control (ironic, huh?) enough to let me have a certain responsibility because She's so used to Her mentality of "if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself." She's like Kira's mom and Mimi's grandmother. She always just does everything so that She knows it's done correctly and will typically redo something done by someone else. In some ways, O/our power dynamic and the tasks i've been given have helped Her. Now, instead of being frustrated that a partner hung up the towels backwards or didn't make the bed just so and having to redo it, She can teach me how She likes these things done and has every right to punish me if i fuck them up. It's ok for Her to give me a good spanking because i left the toilet lid up or didn't get open the blinds correctly. i welcome those corrections and it's helped her feel more in control of her environment and helped lessen Her guilt for asking me to conform to Her standards. Things that, in a non D/s relationship might cause arguments, and have in her past relationships, have become part of our dynamic that is loving and fun and even sexy. i do these things out of care and respect for her and i enjoy them because it reinforces our dynamic which makes me happy.
Domestic service is not, in itself, chauvinistic if it's done in a healthy, consensual, mutually fulfilling D/s or M/s context. It may appear chauvinistic to witness such a dynamic between a Male/female couple but it's important to realize that the female in this relationship is not submitting because she's female and her partner is Male, she's submitting because she's submissive to Him and that is the dynamic they've negotiated and that Male Dominant/female submissive is just one of infinite possible combinations in this lifestyle. i've seen many relationships that are Female Dominant/male submissive where the male does the domestic chores, and likewise, same-sex pairings exist with either partner in the subservient role and there are myriad possible combinations of folks that are trans, genderqueer, genderfluid, andro, gender-less or otherwise non-binary identified. It's only chauvinistic if it's done in the spirit and intention of the belief that one sex or gender or identity is inherently inferior to another. If one were to say that the female must always be the domestic servent or must always be the submissive, or if the Male Dominant truly believes that His female submissive must serve Him because she is female and therefore inferior to his Male Domliness, that would be chauvinistic. That's not typically the case in my experience, and i'm assuming that's not the case with Mimi and her Daddy. If a bit of chauvinistic, male superiority, 1950's type role playing goes on, that's not true chauvinism. And the submissive always has the true power in a healthy relationship, of course. In her submissive role, she has the power to end the relationship or insist on a change if she's unhappy with the way He is treating her.
In response to Experiment's post, i may not walk around naked all day, but i do walk around submissive all day, every day. i am my Mistress' girl at all times. i carry her token every day. While "play" has it's place in O/our relationship (oh yes, we play), i'm not "playing" at being submissive. i AM submissive. For some, power exchange is limited to sex and play (where "play" means BDSM activities and scenes) but many people prefer to live their lives with a 24/7 power exchange between them and their partners. This is, in healthy relationships, a submissive driven arrangement where the submissive holds all the real power by giving it up. Because they are the ones relinquishing power, they are in total control of it because they can take back the power at any time. Domestic service or other protocols can be a wonderful, fun, sexy, loving and just plain HOT way to reinforce the dynamic of a 24/7 relationship. It can help maintain connection and energy between partners during times of separation and it can help enforce definitions of roles and boundaries. i love the protocols my Mistress and i have. They make me feel cared for, valuable, safe, and happy.
