Experience poll

Contributor: wes wes
my gf got me into it
08/04/2012
Contributor: Badmew Badmew
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
My boyfriend is really into the lifestyle, and I am pretty inexperienced, but learning quickly!
08/21/2012
Contributor: kims89 kims89
not into it
08/24/2012
Contributor: PeachCandy PeachCandy
We're newbies
08/24/2012
Contributor: pfp pfp
Im trying to build his confidence to be a dom lol
08/30/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
It's been about 5 years for me.
09/02/2012
Contributor: itismedi itismedi
14-15 years....Still loving it! My husband and I have been married 10 years and often wonder why people complain about their sex lives....He always says, "maybe she needs to be spanked and forced to her knees"...I DO! lol
09/04/2012
Contributor: pink chains pink chains
i've always been open about it!
09/08/2012
Contributor: Twiz Twiz
1-3 years.
09/12/2012
Contributor: DirtyAngel7 DirtyAngel7
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Technically just starting, but it has been a major fetish of mine for a long time, even before I started having sex or masturbating.
10/23/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
been getting choked for about a year now
10/23/2012
Contributor: Midnightsun327 Midnightsun327
I was given my 1st collar at 15, so 16 years now.
11/21/2012
Contributor: tunacan75 tunacan75
Since my first and only girlfriend! I've always fantasized, but never had a chance to do anything or had any reason to buy any toys until my sub came along
11/24/2012
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
off and on since 22, not counting playing around with handcuffs and rough sex before that. (16 i think)
im 39
11/24/2012
Contributor: DirtyAngel7 DirtyAngel7
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
I'm not sure what constitutes being "in the lifestyle." My girlfriend give me a collar when we were about sixteen (I'm 22 now) but she rolled her eyes whenever I wore it. She seemed t hate my submissiveness most of the time. Can ... more
Women love a dominant man. It's a turn on lol.
11/25/2012
Contributor: DirtyAngel7 DirtyAngel7
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
My ex fantasizes but won't act. And my current partner, he just does it all. I love it!
11/25/2012
Contributor: Sexy Desire Sexy Desire
Christmas will be a good year...all of the husband's gifts include such 'lifestyle' items! Very excited!
12/14/2012
Contributor: RavenInChains RavenInChains
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
I started much younger than I should have, but with fairly responsible older people. All told I've been in the lifestyle about 9 years now. I've always known that being a slave was what I wanted and the BDSM was what got me there sexually so it wasn't a hard choice and I didn't spend a lot of years struggling with it.
12/14/2012
Contributor: phoenixfire phoenixfire
Not sure what you mean by "in the lifestyle". I'm not a swinger, and never have been. Nor would I want to be/be called a slave to ANYONE, but I am fairly submissive sexually. (Though I identify as a switch.) My husband and I have been married for 14 years,and we've done some very minor things with handcuffs and a crop or two. I've always had BDSM fantasies; pretty much since I started having fantasies, that was what they were. But I am only now beginning to show my husband just how much BDSM means to me. I was very afraid of rejection before now, even though I knew in my heart how I worked.

LOL. I suppose that since I only learned today that there was a word for what I do ("switch"), you could call me a newbie. But those beginner BDSM kits aren't sturdy or rough enough for me.
12/14/2012
Contributor: FrustratedFemme FrustratedFemme
It's been about three years since I first did anything kinky, but about two years since I did kinky things on a pretty regular basis. I started young. (Probably too young, in hindsight, but I still turned out okay.) At first, I would only assume a dominant role, partly because I didn't trust my partner enough to be submissive and partly because I thought that being submissive would mean I was weak. I hesitantly tried out submission with my second partner, but that was a very bad experience. He wasn't a good top at all, refused to have a safe word, and basically turned me off from BDSM. (Although the fact that he was a man also might have something to do with my lack of enjoyment. I'm gay, but at the time I was in denial.)

When I got together with my girlfriend, we were completely vanilla at first. Things took a kinkier turn, but nothing too extreme, mostly just some light tease and denial. After almost six months together, we tried some light bondage, with me as the sub. I loved it. She was much different from my previous partner, I truly felt that I could trust her, we talked about sex, and she always respected the safe word. Every single time. Now, it's been more than a year since that hesitant bondage experience, and we're much more kinky. Spanking, role play, heavier bondage, humiliation, and some more extreme things that I'm too shy to name. I'm comfortable with her, and although we're both switches, I'm the bottom about 80% of the time. I trust her so much, and I love our sex life together. She's the best I've ever had. I think the feeling is mutual.
12/15/2012
Contributor: Mikemanz Mikemanz
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSinDoll
I'm only 32, but this site and this poll makes me feel old.
lol, me too sometimes
12/16/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
about 4 years
12/16/2012
Contributor: ththpup ththpup
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Interested, but new
12/17/2012
Contributor: Gracefire Gracefire
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSinDoll
I'm only 32, but this site and this poll makes me feel old.
I'm only 29 and we're in the same category. How do you think I feel?
01/05/2013
Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
I wouldn't call myself "just starting."

I feel like officially I've started playing with other people like 7 months ago, but in some ways I've been doing things by myself for a long time
01/05/2013
Contributor: kinksters kinksters
a wonderful 4yrs for us=)
01/05/2013
Contributor: Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
I've known for about 3 years now but getting my hubby to join in has been an ongoing process. I've got mad respect for the ones who have 30+ years!!
01/14/2013
Contributor: SelectZen SelectZen
Around 2 1/2 years
01/14/2013
Contributor: marriedlady123 marriedlady123
Quote:
Originally posted by Willis2011
just starting
thinking about it!
01/14/2013
Contributor: caseyb caseyb
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSinDoll
I'm only 32, but this site and this poll makes me feel old.
LMAO! Ditto!~
01/15/2013