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Contributor: Linga Linga
I like to call my partner Daddy, mostly during play ( kinky or not) and its not rare outside of play either and I often refer to him here as Daddy too. This is something that I love and so does he and I'm wondering what people think when they here someone call their partner, Dom or Top Daddy?
Is it offensive to you?
Do you associate it with age play or incest?
Do you or would you call your partner Daddy?

Just interested to know the general opinion on it
02/23/2011
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Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I have always had issues with my real dad, so any partner asking me to do this will get much hesitation from me. I am very much turned off by it.
02/23/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I've done it in the past and will most likely do it in the future.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Who am I to say what someone calls their partner?
02/23/2011
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Who am I to say what someone calls their partner?
I agree with this. I wouldn't want anyone to judge my preferences.
02/24/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
*shrugs* My Sir is 'daddy' to one of his other partners. It doesn't bother me at all, but isn't a term I see myself ever using with him, as it doesn't fit our dynamic. (I am not interested in ageplay)
02/24/2011
Contributor: gladiola gladiola
Not an issue with me if others do that, but I would never call my boyfriend "Daddy."
02/24/2011
Contributor: Velocifero Velocifero
I'll be honest, the term creeps me out personally...I just can't mix the connotation of the word in a familial sense with sexytime with the man...but I do understand why others use it and like it. For me, sir/master works fine.
02/24/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by Linga
I like to call my partner Daddy, mostly during play ( kinky or not) and its not rare outside of play either and I often refer to him here as Daddy too. This is something that I love and so does he and I'm wondering what people think when they ... more
lol i love calling him daddy, but its mostly during flirting or innocent play. once in awhile it'll mean more lol but yes i do
02/24/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I sometimes call him "big daddy" or the like during sex. It's just a pet name, nothing Freudian.
02/24/2011
Contributor: Scarlette Scarlette
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Originally posted by Velocifero
I'll be honest, the term creeps me out personally...I just can't mix the connotation of the word in a familial sense with sexytime with the man...but I do understand why others use it and like it. For me, sir/master works fine.
Agreed. Not to mention there's something SUPER sexy about saying "yes Sir," during play time.
03/05/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I dont see anything wroung with it for other people. Just not for us. I, personally cant stand it and my husband doesnt like it. So I will my husband who is my Dom, Master or Captain. He really likes Captian.
03/13/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Who am I to say what someone calls their partner?
My thoughts exactly. It's not for me, but I'm certainly not going to judge anybody else for it.
03/13/2011
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
Doesn't bother me at all, hell I do it from time to time.
03/13/2011
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I don't get it, and I don't do it. But I don't judge anyone who does.
03/13/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I don't really like to call him daddy, but I LOVE when he calls me his little girl.
03/13/2011
Contributor: null null
It's not my thing, but it's fine for others to do.
03/13/2011
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
When I first started out in BDSM I thought I'd NEVER call a Top or Dom 'Daddy'. I likened it too much to the relationship that I had with my actual Father.

Now, I realize that it has absolutely nothing to do with that relationship whatsoever. I never think of my real father when I use 'Daddy' in that BDSM context. Yes, I enjoy age play. Yes, it's my BIGGEST turn on. Yes, I'm a dirty little Daddy's girl.
03/13/2011
Contributor: lucymalfoy lucymalfoy
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Originally posted by Linga
I like to call my partner Daddy, mostly during play ( kinky or not) and its not rare outside of play either and I often refer to him here as Daddy too. This is something that I love and so does he and I'm wondering what people think when they ... more
It doesn't bother me when other people call their partners Daddy, but I don't get it. I'm not offended, but it is a little bit weird to me. I do tend to knee-jerk associate it with age play, but incest would depend on what sort of interactions the Daddy partner carried out. I personally would not be comfortable calling a partner Daddy.
03/14/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
Quote:
Originally posted by Linga
I like to call my partner Daddy, mostly during play ( kinky or not) and its not rare outside of play either and I often refer to him here as Daddy too. This is something that I love and so does he and I'm wondering what people think when they ... more
In very intimate moments of caretaking, I slip and call my partner "Daddy." That's an exception and not the rule. If I were to use that moniker in a sexual context, he would be very uncomfortable and turned-off.

If incest or age play are someone else's thing, I am cool with that so long as everyone is of age and consenting to the game. However, very young women can sometimes be vulnerable (for instance, if they just got out of the awkward stage and people started to check them out sexually). This vulernability can and is often taken advantage of by older men, and it creeps me out to think about it can neither control nor condemn these behaviours, so I just deal.

Getting back to me, I never really had a positive relationship with my father. He is estranged, and I do long for a father-figure, so the Daddy thing happens now and again, though I've absolutely no fetish for incest. It's more of a love-y thing, like affectionately calling someone "Mama" in certain cultures.
03/15/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
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Originally posted by Pixel
*shrugs* My Sir is 'daddy' to one of his other partners. It doesn't bother me at all, but isn't a term I see myself ever using with him, as it doesn't fit our dynamic. (I am not interested in ageplay)
Sooooo, about that comment. No longer applies. Master and I are exploring the whole Daddy/girl dynamic, and while I still have 'omg, so wrong' moments, I'm really enjoying it.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I find nothing wrong with it. It doesn't need to be about age play, but it can be.

I love it when someone calls me Daddy. And also, I refer to myself as that sometimes, like when I say, "You like when Daddy puts it inside of you, dirty slut?" Something along those lines. I don't even mean to do it, sometimes, but I do. HAH!
08/09/2011
Contributor: domsub1993 domsub1993
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Originally posted by Linga
I like to call my partner Daddy, mostly during play ( kinky or not) and its not rare outside of play either and I often refer to him here as Daddy too. This is something that I love and so does he and I'm wondering what people think when they ... more
I would never be comfortable with it myself. I really had a hard time with it until a blogger friend got me a bit more relaxed about it.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would find Daddy uninteresting and not sexy at all. Even Big Daddy or any other variation would not seem very appealing to me. I would prefer Sir or Master or even Mister - though I find that less authoritative for my role if it's not a stranger scene.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
I don't mind if others want to call their partner that.. but me personally, I don't and most likely won't. I just don't find it sexy to call my partner daddy.. it sounds too much like father... and then i'd picture my dad and be so turned off in every which way lol..
08/31/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I don't care one way or another what others call their partner, it gives me me pause when I hear it but it isn't my place to judge. I'm sure some of my preferences seem odd to others.

It's not for me, though. I would never call my partner "Daddy" and I don't tolerate being called "little girl"
08/31/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I don't care one way or another what others call their partner, it gives me me pause when I hear it but it isn't my place to judge. I'm sure some of my preferences seem odd to others.

It's not for me, though. I would never ... more
yeah, I am not called "little girl" either... lol.. but then again, me and my partner are around the same age (he is actually younger than me" so for him to call me little girl would kinda be funny actually, not sexy.
09/01/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
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Originally posted by Breas
yeah, I am not called "little girl" either... lol.. but then again, me and my partner are around the same age (he is actually younger than me" so for him to call me little girl would kinda be funny actually, not sexy.
That is kinda funny. My partner has called me "little girl" once or twice, because I'm physically much smaller than him even though our ages are very close. It got him shoved away and told off.
09/01/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I don't think I would do it myself, but it doesn't bother me if someone else wants to call their dom Daddy if that's what they're into.
09/01/2011
Contributor: jg19 jg19
Never understood this at all. Conjures up images of incest. Makes my skin crawl to think about it.
09/01/2011