I already had an idea I was a sub, and it was sort of serendipity that I met Master the way I did. We met at a dating site that catered to a British man fetish (which the creators won't admit to doing on purpose), and I had an idea that he was a Dom by his screen name of 'knotty_or_nice'. We jokingly brought up the issue in our early e-mails, where we discovered that we both fit the dynamic we each wanted. We both want complete equality in the relationship and in the day-to-day running of things, but I sexually surrender to him and his demands in the bedroom. Although we're long distance right now, so that makes the D/s thing a little more difficult at the moment.

You and your girlfriend falling into the roles is so neat. I'm glad you two found your dynamic so naturally.

I met my lover in college. He knew from the beginning that I was kinky, but it took a while for roles to develop. We're both switches, so we take turns being dominant and submissive.

I met my Dom on Fetlife. I was curious about the lifestyle and he had been in it for a long time. So he's sort of a mentor/lover/boyfriend for me. It's really been a unique relationship for me.

My sub is an old friend of mine - we were on the same message board for years, and kept up with each other. My ex was also on that board, so we all knew each other. After my ex blindsided me by leaving and cutting off all contact, my sub and I got to talking, and he admitted he had always had a thing for me, but never acted on it because I was so devoted to my ex.

It started out just as cybering, until we really started talking fantasies. I have very few myself, but he said he had always had a submission fantasy, and would I be interested in experimenting? I didn't even know I was a dom until that session, but we're both really happy with how it worked out.

I met my Dom on FetLife but I met my submissive boyfriend through a mutual female friend.
I'm not exactly into the whole poly life but my boyfriend agreed that it would be a good idea for me to have a Master until I can train him to be more comfortable switching.

My Dom and I were high school sweethearts. When we started dating, he was a virgin, and even though I was not, I was rather inexperienced myself (my previous partners got themselves off, but never even tried to make me climax). After we began having sex, I started making suggestions about cuffs and other mild bondage, which I was already into. He discovered he had a taste for it, and now... Well, he's slipped into the role of Dominant rather well, and really enjoys it. I guess you could say I've corrupted him, but he (and I) loves every minute of it.

We went to high school together. Then after he graduated, we reconnected on facebook. He's my first boyfriend, and not too long after we started dating, I said something about handcuffs, and from there it just expanded and we started looking up some things about BDSM.

At church