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Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
I am currently single and I do enjoy BDSM. When I do get a new boyfriend should I let him know after the first time we have sex that I like BDSM and it must be included often or should I mention before we have sex?
11/24/2014
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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by CS2012
I am currently single and I do enjoy BDSM. When I do get a new boyfriend should I let him know after the first time we have sex that I like BDSM and it must be included often or should I mention before we have sex?
If it's a requirement for you, I would get it on the table early before either of you invest in a relationship that might not work out if he's not down with what you need.
01/19/2015
Contributor: Svenson Svenson
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
If it's a requirement for you, I would get it on the table early before either of you invest in a relationship that might not work out if he's not down with what you need.
I agree with this. If you need it in sex often, you should express that before either of you get emotionally invested. Whether or not you can have sex without getting attached is something only you know, but it would be good to play it safe.
03/09/2015
Contributor: Sir Sir
I don't.

I don't have partners not into BDSM.
04/29/2015
Contributor: unoriginalgirlyid unoriginalgirlyid
If it is that important to you then I would definitely let them know sooner rather then later. Why waste each others time?
06/05/2015
Contributor: Infidel Infidel
I've just been thankful that my partner has been willing to explore BDSM with me. He's my first partner that I have been confident enough to let the kinks out with. Though he's still sometimes uncomfortable dominating me. He's been a great trooper even though I want to keep trying newer things.
09/01/2015
Contributor: Salesstar987 Salesstar987
Jokingly ask him if whips and chains excite him and then gauge his reaction.
08/08/2016
Contributor: DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
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Originally posted by Salesstar987
Jokingly ask him if whips and chains excite him and then gauge his reaction.
What have been mens' reactions to that? I bet you would have some funny stories to tell!
08/23/2016