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Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
My partner and I go to maybe an event/week, though we would like to go to more (Nyeh, why do practical things have to be done? I would rather go to play parties!). Anyway, I'm curious how many of us here at EF are involved in there kink community
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Not at all
16
I go to the occasional event/meetup, but I'm not very active.
3
I go to events and such sometimes
3
If it's kink-related, I'm there
2
Depends on my schedule/if I'm busy
1
Other?
1
Total votes: 26 (25 voters)
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Contributor: Jake'n'bake Jake'n'bake
Not at all. ): I want to be, but I've got to wait for my partner to get here/for me to go to them.
06/06/2012
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
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Originally posted by Jake'n'bake
Not at all. ): I want to be, but I've got to wait for my partner to get here/for me to go to them.
Ah, that sucks! I hope you don't have to wait too long! Why do you want to wait for your partner? Because if it's because you're nervous (which is super-understandable!) , I should assure you that most kink communities are super-friendly and welcoming.
06/06/2012
Contributor: BeepBop BeepBop
I haven't either, but want to!

I think I'm nervous about running into a family member or someone I knew in high school. Haha.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I go once every few months. I just feel like I get bombarded with advances from 50 year old men the whole time whenever I go to one though so I don't like to go without my partner, but he rarely has time to go.
06/06/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
We don't have a kink community nearby. I live in a samll southern town surrounded by farms and churches.
06/06/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I occasionally go to workshops... went to a munch once and sat alone with my bf most of the night. You could say that I'm a fairly hardcore introvert. I don't mind if I'll be learning something, since there's more of a purpose then. But plain socializing? Meh...
06/06/2012
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
Don't know of any around here.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
We used to have an alternative but it wasn't much of one....mainly a gay club but we still went because we like a variety of people. Since that shut down there really isn't nothing else. There is a few sex shops around but they don't even call them sex shops around here and they hide all the goodies in the back rooms.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
We don't have a group that meets here
06/06/2012
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
I'm very active in my community. I usually end up going to 3-6 events a month, and I am an officer in one of the local groups.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
I would love to be active in my local kink community, sadly I don't know how one gets involved in such communities.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
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Originally posted by Badass
I would love to be active in my local kink community, sadly I don't know how one gets involved in such communities.
There's a site called Fetlife which is similar to facebook except kink oriented. You can make a profile and find people and groups in your area on there. It's how I usually find out about events in my area.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Maybe I'm not paying attention to that kind of thing, but seems like there's no such group in our community; even if there is one, I wouldn't want to be involved anyway.
06/06/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I've volunteered for the local BDSM-con and I visit the club whenever I get the chance. I've been so busy as of late though I really haven't been there in a while. I miss all my friends! Time to clear up my schedule!
06/06/2012
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
I am not as involved as I would like to be... but I am just settling back to living in Colorado and what not.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
I'd like to be involved, but I'm a complete newbie to bdsm, and live in a pretty bible-thumpy area.
06/06/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
My partner and I go to maybe an event/week, though we would like to go to more (Nyeh, why do practical things have to be done? I would rather go to play parties!). Anyway, I'm curious how many of us here at EF are involved in there kink community
No and I wouldn't attend or be interested even if we had something like that. I like to keep my sex life with my partner more private than that. I DON'T mind talking about things and sharing here, but going somewhere like that would make me feel as if I'm putting our sex life, the private, intimate parts on display. Just not for me. We like to keep things pretty private--otherwise it lose the intimacy!
06/07/2012
Contributor: glassdoll glassdoll
I'm as active as I can be. I go to as many munches as I can and was active in the book club before my shitty job got worse. I can't go to the group's party cause it's in a bar and I'm not 21 so I am patient and wait for the occasional private party that someone may throw.
06/07/2012
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
Quote:
Originally posted by melissa1973
Don't know of any around here.
Have you tried looking for events on fetlife? It's basically facebook for kinkstetrs, and most communities list events there.
06/07/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
Don't even think there is any around here.
06/07/2012