How to be a better slave

Contributor: lustylusty lustylusty
I have been a slave for my master for like a month. So I'm kind of new to the whole situation. I am just asking anybody and everybody to help me be a better slave. He is still in the process of trainging me, but I am having hard time being trained. Anybody have any ideas?
03/21/2012
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Contributor: underHim underHim
I do not know what your master expects of you, but my Master really likes a clean house, so that is a big part of what I am expected to do. He no longer needs to tell me what to do, but expects it done and I know if I have done it wrong before He tells me, and I therefore know I will be punished. Master really like it when I am waiting for Him when He comes through the door at night on my knees. I live with Master (he is also my husband) and when He is feeling particularly controlling I will get on my knees at night and ask if I have permission to sleep in His bed that night (He hasnt said no yet, but I suspect He might at some point) Respect it huge, He hates it when I act bratty, although I admit I do it on purpose on occasion to be punished. There is an active contributor on here whose screen name is sir, (I do not capitalize his name, because he is not my master) He has a great blog that you might enjoy reading to get some ideas.
link
03/21/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Obey the Prime Directive.

Mollena has a lot of other great articles on SexIs, but that one is the most important.
03/21/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I do not know what your master expects of you, but my Master really likes a clean house, so that is a big part of what I am expected to do. He no longer needs to tell me what to do, but expects it done and I know if I have done it wrong before He ... more
Do you capitalize names like Bob, Alice, or Silverdrop? Or is it only because Sir is a bdsm related name that you don't capitalize it?

Just curious.
03/21/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
Do you capitalize names like Bob, Alice, or Silverdrop? Or is it only because Sir is a bdsm related name that you don't capitalize it?

Just curious.
I capitalize all given names, (following basic grammar rules) I capitalize master only when refering to my Master. I do not capitalize the word master when it is not directly referring to my Master.
For instance Kevin is my Master.
Other people have masters.
Eden Fantasy has a dominant named sir.
It is a sign of respect and I leave capitalizing that word and similar words soley for Him. Other people, even if they may be a master, they are not my Master. Sometimes I will also capitalize He His Him etc.. but I am a little more lax on that (more than I should be)Peoples screennames on here sometimes I will capitalize, sometimes I will not, generally not as it is not a given name. Does this make sense?
03/21/2012
Contributor: lustylusty lustylusty
Thank you!
03/21/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I capitalize all given names, (following basic grammar rules) I capitalize master only when refering to my Master. I do not capitalize the word master when it is not directly referring to my Master.
For instance Kevin is my Master.
Other ... more
It does. Thanks for indulging my impertinent curiosity.
03/21/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
It does. Thanks for indulging my impertinent curiosity.
No problem, I love any excuse to talk about that kind of stuff!
03/21/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I do not know what your master expects of you, but my Master really likes a clean house, so that is a big part of what I am expected to do. He no longer needs to tell me what to do, but expects it done and I know if I have done it wrong before He ... more
Thanks for the link! Good reading.
03/21/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
Jesus H. Christ

Capitalization does not a better slave make.

EF has a ton of people who are new to BDSM and if those who aren't new to BDSM don't speak up when people give that type of advice, then God help the road those who are new are going to take.

No one's kink is better than anyone else's. If you want to capitalize Lord Demon Sperm Fuck - then do it, but it's about as much of a sign of respect as an online kneel. IMO.

@lustylusty - Communication with your D-type is the only way you're going to learn what he wants. You should be asking him.

Come on people - speak up. No one wants to piss people off, but for fuck's sake, let's drop a little knowledge.

@Silverdrop - Good looking out on Mollena's link.
04/09/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSinDoll
Jesus H. Christ

Capitalization does not a better slave make.

EF has a ton of people who are new to BDSM and if those who aren't new to BDSM don't speak up when people give that type of advice, then God help the road those who ... more
We were just discussing capitalization, never said that it makes me a better slave, just that it is an aspect of it for us, an important one in our household. I may not be articulate in all of the aspects of my submission, however, that does not make me a bad submissive. I was simply trying to articulate how important I believe respect is, however you decide to show it, in this type of relationship, even more than some other types in my opinion. I was trying to say that it is important if you are a submissive to remember that you cannot always think of yourself first and it can be difficult to learn to think this way. I am sorry as you seem to have found me sharing how I am a submissive offensive, but it is part of how I submit (among many other ways) and it works for us and has for the 9 years we have been together and the 5 years I have been his submissive. I have only been a submissive to Him, and only knows what He wants. You said it yourself, No one's kink is better than anyone else's. Your way of doing it is no better than mine and vice versa.
04/09/2012