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Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
My partner and I are interested in learning about the world of BDSM. I really like watching forced orgams and spanking. I would love to lwearn more. How did you get into BDSM and what do you like most about it? Any tips on learning....books or etc?
12/15/2011
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Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I signed up on fetlife.com and read everything I possibly could. That's what I do with most new things though, I know not everyone reads as much as I do. On fetlife there are lots of groups to learn from and there are even local munches, which are meet and greets at local restaurants/bars/etc., with other kinky folk in a non-kink setting. It's a good way to meet others in the lifestyle and talk about all things kink or just life in general.
12/15/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
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Originally posted by Kitka
I signed up on fetlife.com and read everything I possibly could. That's what I do with most new things though, I know not everyone reads as much as I do. On fetlife there are lots of groups to learn from and there are even local munches, which ... more
Never heard of that site. Thanks. I am heading over there righ now.
12/15/2011
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I went to leathernroses.com it's still going and has a lot of information. I wasn't in a position to be social when I first started so this was more suited to me.

If you want to read this is a good place for resources.
12/15/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
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Originally posted by GoneBabyGone
I went to leathernroses.com it's still going and has a lot of information. I wasn't in a position to be social when I first started so this was more suited to me.

If you want to read this is a good place for resources.
Thanks. I love to read so this will be perfect!
12/16/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by lalapetitee
Never heard of that site. Thanks. I am heading over there righ now.
Great, let me know if you sign up.
12/16/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
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Originally posted by Kitka
Great, let me know if you sign up.
Will do!
12/16/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
Master mentioned she liked biting, and then it was just kinky word vomit from there. I told 'er I liked being spanked, biting, wearing collars and being lead around on a leash.

Best thing to do is talk to your partner about your kinks, for reading resources, SM 101 and The New Bottoming/Topping Books are fantastic intros for getting your feet wet.
12/16/2011
Contributor: Tagmstr Tagmstr
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Originally posted by GoneBabyGone
I went to leathernroses.com it's still going and has a lot of information. I wasn't in a position to be social when I first started so this was more suited to me.

If you want to read this is a good place for resources.
This website is amazing. It really helped my fiance and I get started with BDSM. They have a lot of good information! Without a doubt its a great place to start!
12/23/2011